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Anyway… I’m a catechumen right now, and I’ve been talking for a short while with a friend about my thoughts on becoming a part of the Catholic Church. I told him that I wanted to become a Catholic, and he seemed concerned. He’s a Protestant and a very smart guy—much smarter than I am in a theological sense. He’s gone to seminary for a few years now or so, and wants to be a Christian counselor.
He asked me if I was 100% sure I wanted to be a Catholic, and that I should be aware that there’s a lot of “weirdness” in the Church. Because he and I are very good friends, like siblings, I had no fear in asking him what he thought was strange. I assumed it would be a list of the usual misunderstandings that are out there, like the “worship” of saints, the Eucharist, etc. After I asked him, though, I remembered who I was really asking, lol.
Whatever the case, he came up with a list of about six things, including infant baptism, papal infallibility and apostolic succession, the Catholic Church being the one true Church, purgatory, and the two things I already assumed he’d ask. I did my best in answering him correctly with what I’ve researched and learned in RCIA, but I know that with my lack of knowledge as someone still pretty brand new to Catholicism, and his strong foundation in Protestantism, there’s nothing I can really say to make him see that my choice is the right one.
This is all being done through messages, by the way. I feel like all I’m going to get in return is him telling me how everything I said was heretical, bad, and I shouldn’t be a Catholic. In fact, while he was listing his questions, he even told me, “The Catholic Church teaches this, but know that this is incorrect and unbilical,” as though I could pick and choose what to believe if I were to become a Catholic. Isn’t there some kind of term for that? A cafeteria Catholic, right? I felt like he was trying to convince me to be a cafeteria Catholic.
That was one of the reasons why I left Protestantism—I felt like I was constantly being told to be a cafeteria Protestant, to just pick and choose and ignore the contention and division among the denominations. But I digress on that.
So, my problems lie in this: when he comes back at me with will most likely be a lot of rebuttals, what should I do? I already told him that everything I responded with in my message was the honest extent of my knowledge so far, but I know he’s going to leave me in a position where he will be strongly against my explanations and my choice. I feel kind of helpless, because I’m just a meager catechumen who’s just beginning to get down the basics. I couldn’t even explain papal infallibility to him because it’s something that I can’t wrap my head around yet, even though I’ve been trying my best to research it. Should I bring it up to my catechist?
Or, perhaps, should I just leave the conversation at that? I’m not sure, because I know my friend loves to debate, to argue, and I know that even in my situation, he will want to get into an argument with me over this. I’m afraid it might cause an even greater rift between us because I hate arguing and I won’t do it if I see the conversation going in that direction.
But another, quick question: could someone please explain papal infallibility to me? I’ve been going through thread after thread on this forum about the topic, and I’ve already read the tracts on the Catholic Answers site. It’s just not sinking in, lol. So I guess, could someone offer a simple explanation? I’d really appreciate it.
Anyway… I’m a catechumen right now, and I’ve been talking for a short while with a friend about my thoughts on becoming a part of the Catholic Church. I told him that I wanted to become a Catholic, and he seemed concerned. He’s a Protestant and a very smart guy—much smarter than I am in a theological sense. He’s gone to seminary for a few years now or so, and wants to be a Christian counselor.
He asked me if I was 100% sure I wanted to be a Catholic, and that I should be aware that there’s a lot of “weirdness” in the Church. Because he and I are very good friends, like siblings, I had no fear in asking him what he thought was strange. I assumed it would be a list of the usual misunderstandings that are out there, like the “worship” of saints, the Eucharist, etc. After I asked him, though, I remembered who I was really asking, lol.
Whatever the case, he came up with a list of about six things, including infant baptism, papal infallibility and apostolic succession, the Catholic Church being the one true Church, purgatory, and the two things I already assumed he’d ask. I did my best in answering him correctly with what I’ve researched and learned in RCIA, but I know that with my lack of knowledge as someone still pretty brand new to Catholicism, and his strong foundation in Protestantism, there’s nothing I can really say to make him see that my choice is the right one.
This is all being done through messages, by the way. I feel like all I’m going to get in return is him telling me how everything I said was heretical, bad, and I shouldn’t be a Catholic. In fact, while he was listing his questions, he even told me, “The Catholic Church teaches this, but know that this is incorrect and unbilical,” as though I could pick and choose what to believe if I were to become a Catholic. Isn’t there some kind of term for that? A cafeteria Catholic, right? I felt like he was trying to convince me to be a cafeteria Catholic.
That was one of the reasons why I left Protestantism—I felt like I was constantly being told to be a cafeteria Protestant, to just pick and choose and ignore the contention and division among the denominations. But I digress on that.
So, my problems lie in this: when he comes back at me with will most likely be a lot of rebuttals, what should I do? I already told him that everything I responded with in my message was the honest extent of my knowledge so far, but I know he’s going to leave me in a position where he will be strongly against my explanations and my choice. I feel kind of helpless, because I’m just a meager catechumen who’s just beginning to get down the basics. I couldn’t even explain papal infallibility to him because it’s something that I can’t wrap my head around yet, even though I’ve been trying my best to research it. Should I bring it up to my catechist?
Or, perhaps, should I just leave the conversation at that? I’m not sure, because I know my friend loves to debate, to argue, and I know that even in my situation, he will want to get into an argument with me over this. I’m afraid it might cause an even greater rift between us because I hate arguing and I won’t do it if I see the conversation going in that direction.
But another, quick question: could someone please explain papal infallibility to me? I’ve been going through thread after thread on this forum about the topic, and I’ve already read the tracts on the Catholic Answers site. It’s just not sinking in, lol. So I guess, could someone offer a simple explanation? I’d really appreciate it.