Having problems at work

[SilverLight]

I have been working at the same place for a while and it has been a rocky road for me. I love my co workers like they are family but my main manager scares me a little sometimes. I don’t know what to do. They get a tone when you ask for help and make you feel bad for asking as if they do not have time for it. I understand that we all have things to deal with outside of work and that it can leave us in a bad mood sometimes. I do not agree with taking it out on co workers who have done nothing at all. I was told I did something wrong two times once but was never told how to do it in the first place and still have not been.

I do not know what to do anymore even though the person has their good days also and can be nice. I wan’t to feel safe at work when they are around but I get anxiety from it also now days more then before. I worry for some of the new workers also. Does anyone have any tips?

 

[LSK]

I have been working at the same place for a while and it has been a rocky road for me. I love my co workers like they are family but my main manager scares me a little sometimes. I don’t know what to do. They get a tone when you ask for help and make you feel bad for asking as if they do not have time for it. I understand that we all have things to deal with outside of work and that it can leave us in a bad mood sometimes. I do not agree with taking it out on co workers who have done nothing at all. I was told I did something wrong two times once but was never told how to do it in the first place and still have not been.

I do not know what to do anymore even though the person has their good days also and can be nice. I wan’t to feel safe at work when they are around but I get anxiety from it also now days more then before. I worry for some of the new workers also. Does anyone have any tips?

Is this your first job?

Have you ever been assigned a trainer?

How long have you worked there?

I have had two really lousy bosses in the last 4 years. Previously, I had a co-worker that hated me and boss that would pretend they had not given me direction when they did.

I started documenting everything. I also started working really hard on just hearing the words and not the tone in which the words were delivered. I was not always successful, but it was really good for me to do. I have a tendency to react to what I think the other person is saying based on their tone of voice rather than actually hearing and reacting to the words they are using.

I also got a great little book - The Catholic Briefcase - that helped me a lot.

 

[jeannetherese]

Perhaps there is a coworker who might be willing to mentor you? I will be praying that this be resolved in a way that supports you in accordance with the will of our Lord tonight and at Holy Mass tomorrow.
jt

 

[SilverLight]

Thank you all so much. I may start to wright things that have happened down now. If others tell me things that have happened to them I may include them also because I am not the only one who is getting attitude from the person.