farronwolf
New member
I am not going to touch the question of whether or not you can or should continue your relations with your wife, that question has already been answered.
I do have concerns about the status of your marriage though. Please don’t take this as me saying that you should not have become Catholic.
I am assuming that since you are new to the Church, you weren’t Catholic when you got married. You say your wife is hostile to the Catholic moral teaching. Were you going through RCIA before you got married. Had you spoken to your wife before you got married about your desire to become Catholic, or is this something that came up after you two wed?
If these changes came up after you were married to her, you are the one that changed the marital relationship and changed the expectations of what was acceptable in the relationship. Again, I am not faulting you for becoming Catholic, only pointing out that changes that took place were a result of your actions.
In our situation, my wife went through RCIA prior to us getting married. We both were on board with what the Church expected of us. Now say one of us decides that we want to become church of the holy gun, or pick some other religion, doesn’t really matter. Say this new religion allowed for things that went against what the Catholic church teaches and what we both were on board with when we entered our marriage. Should the one who remains Catholic not be upset with the others decision? Will there be tension created in the marriage? Will that cause the marriage to end? Hopefully not, but there is a good chance it will cause any of those.
When making decisions that are for the rest of one’s life, much time must be spent, and there has to be complete openness about what is going to be given and expected from each individual. If deviations are made from the original plan that was made by both, there has to be some give and take to find a common ground that is acceptable to both parties. In your case, you also have a child the consider.
I certainly hope the two of you can work through issues that have or may come up in your marriage and have a happy and fulfilled life. You never know, she may have a change of heart with time and knowledge and one day decide to follow you into the Church.
Ok, putting on the flame retardant suit now.
I do have concerns about the status of your marriage though. Please don’t take this as me saying that you should not have become Catholic.
I am assuming that since you are new to the Church, you weren’t Catholic when you got married. You say your wife is hostile to the Catholic moral teaching. Were you going through RCIA before you got married. Had you spoken to your wife before you got married about your desire to become Catholic, or is this something that came up after you two wed?
If these changes came up after you were married to her, you are the one that changed the marital relationship and changed the expectations of what was acceptable in the relationship. Again, I am not faulting you for becoming Catholic, only pointing out that changes that took place were a result of your actions.
In our situation, my wife went through RCIA prior to us getting married. We both were on board with what the Church expected of us. Now say one of us decides that we want to become church of the holy gun, or pick some other religion, doesn’t really matter. Say this new religion allowed for things that went against what the Catholic church teaches and what we both were on board with when we entered our marriage. Should the one who remains Catholic not be upset with the others decision? Will there be tension created in the marriage? Will that cause the marriage to end? Hopefully not, but there is a good chance it will cause any of those.
When making decisions that are for the rest of one’s life, much time must be spent, and there has to be complete openness about what is going to be given and expected from each individual. If deviations are made from the original plan that was made by both, there has to be some give and take to find a common ground that is acceptable to both parties. In your case, you also have a child the consider.
I certainly hope the two of you can work through issues that have or may come up in your marriage and have a happy and fulfilled life. You never know, she may have a change of heart with time and knowledge and one day decide to follow you into the Church.
Ok, putting on the flame retardant suit now.
