Having Trouble in My Mixed Faith Marriage

[BettyBoop416]

I am very sorry you are experiencing such hurtful comments and attitudes.

I will say that on CAF I am not a proponent of mixed marriage-- but that is in regard to people who are not yet married who come on here asking about it. It is difficult and it does have significant cautions that must be thought about.

But, none of those cautions should be interpreted as a non-Catholic being “less” or a Catholic marriage being “better”-- there are plenty of rotten Catholics and bad Catholic marriages.

I am sure your husband is a wonderful, loving person. He is equal in dignity to any other person.

I am sure that the comments people make are the kinds of thoughtless comments that people make to people who have no kids, lots of kids, homeschoolers, SAHMs, working moms, etc.

In other words, it is simply people being people. Sometimes thoughtless, sometimes clueless, sometimes mean. That is the human condition.

I am sorry that it is stressing you out. We should always expect better of people, but they will let us down because they are human. For your close friends, tell them how hurtful their comments are. For those who are not close, feel sorry for them and move on.

Perhaps you can talk to your pastor about incorporating some type of ministry for those in mixed marriage. The Church has several documents on supporting those in mixed marriages, perhaps some kind of fellowship with others might be helpful to you.

A reasonable, charitable post about mixed marriages from 1ke. I feel like I’m in an alternate universe.

 

[MomtoEandM]

I, too, am married to a non-Catholic. We married in the Catholic Church. Marrying him was the best decision I’ve ever made. He is the most wonderful husband and father I could imagine. My family was very hesitant, because he comes from a very dysfunctional family. His dad is on marriage number 6, and his mom is on marriage number 4. My parents were worried that my husband wouldn’t understand that marriage is a permanent commitment. They’ve never been so happy to be wrong. We’ve been married for almost 16 years and are ridiculously happy. We are on the same page about pretty much everything (although he thinks Catholics are “weird” about Mary). I can’t imagine marrying a Catholic man could have improved my life in any way.

As long as your spouse supports you in your faith, I feel that mixed faith marriages can be very successful.

 

[Aggies08]

Yeesh, who are these people?

A married catholic can later fall away, as well. I’d find new people to hang out with if possible. I realize it may not be.

I’d find a good stock answer “I loved him, the church approved.” blank stare. and pull that out whenever they begin this stuff.