Head Covering - Style & Practice Questons - NOT a debate thread

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Liza - The one you posted is very lovely. I agree with the others, donā€™t worry about your family having a cow if you wear the head covering. Maybe youā€™ll inspire others in your family to start wearing one.

I know what you mean about feeling hypocrital if you wear the covering for some masses and not for others. Iā€™m in the same boat. When I attend a Tridentine Rite mass I will wear my long, black mantilla to cover up all my hair. When I attend the NO masses, I donā€™t wear them because I feel like Iā€™m bringing more attention to myself.

BTW - My husband will also tease me sometimes about looking like a 19th century Spanish senorita when I wear my head covering. (I guess being part Spanish helps to promote that look. LOL!)
 
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What on earth is that? Pardon meā€¦dumb convert here! šŸ˜ƒ
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From wikipedia:
Sometimes foreigners use the word ā€œbabushkaā€ (grandma in Russian) to indicate the headscarf tied below the chin, as commonly used in Eastern Europe. In most parts of Eastern Europe headscarves are used mainly by elderly women (grandmothers) and this led the incorrect use of the ā€œbabushkaā€ term. In Russia they are often worn by young girls to show their convictions to Russian Orthodoxy.
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What about a hat? You could wear a nice summery dress and hat to the baptism. We always have at least one or two women wearing hats at my NO parish. Veils/mantillas are worn by a few of the older women, but not by many of the younger women.

That veil you posted was lovely. Youā€™ve almost inspired me šŸ™‚
 
Does color matter? I am just wondering because i started talking aboutit with my friend, and she said that unmarried women traditionally wore white, and married women wore black. But i have a couple that were my momā€™s from when she was a little girl, and they are black.
 
Hello ladies!

My wife and I attend an NO parish, and I would like to tackle this topic with her. Any ideas how I might do so and present the topic convincingly? She would be the the only one in our church veiling and between the immodest apparel of the young ladies and the relativism abounding, I donā€™t want to stress her out too much. Veiling is a big step in the NOā€¦

Any advice would be great! Thanks and God Bless!

Stephen
 
Fidelia said:
Does color matter? I am just wondering because i started talking aboutit with my friend, and she said that unmarried women traditionally wore white, and married women wore black. But i have a couple that were my momā€™s from when she was a little girl, and they are black.
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I donā€™t think so, especially today.

Traditionally: White is for virgins, black is for both married and widow/widowers.

In todayā€™s world however, that could get confusing. :rolleyes: So I would focus more on the veil and less on color. šŸ‘

Also, if you happen to be lucky and have brown hair, the black sheer veils can blend in nicely, and be a more hidden witness. šŸ‘
 
slewi said:
Hello ladies!

My wife and I attend an NO parish, and I would like to tackle this topic with her. Any ideas how I might do so and present the topic convincingly? She would be the the only one in our church veiling and between the immodest apparel of the young ladies and the relativism abounding, I donā€™t want to stress her out too much. Veiling is a big step in the NOā€¦

Any advice would be great! Thanks and God Bless!

Stephen
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Really it is something that is up to her, not you. Especially when no one does it at your parish. Why would you want your wife standing out? If you think she would like to though, ask her if sheā€™d like to find a parish where most of the women do, that way she wonā€™t look like sheā€™s making a ā€œholier than thouā€ statement at a parish where no one covers their head, which, chances are, is the way it would come across.
If she wants to, definitely support her, and maybe try to find a parish where it is common. But it is not for you to try to make her. It has to be completely up to her and her decision. It looks like most of the women on this thread made the decision for themselves, and that is how it should be, imho. Just my two cents.
 
Just my .02. If I am wearing a veil, it is because, for me, it is the right thing to do. I resent the fact that some think that you should hide your devotion. That somehow you must feel superior because you are wearing a veil. Give me a break! That is your problem, not mine.
That said, I understand how you feel about wearing the veil in another parish, etc. It took me a long time to get over this myself. But you have to remember the reason that you are wearing the veil. And yes, it you only do it under certain circumstances, then it could be considered hypocritical. I sometimes wear a hat instead, and it is my own insecurity.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
JC
 
Fidelia said:
Really it is something that is up to her, not you. Especially when no one does it at your parish. Why would you want your wife standing out?.
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You somehow managed to miss my point and nearly leapt straight to accusing me of forcing my wife to do something she doesnā€™t want to do. That is not the case.

I was asking the experienced veil wearers who may have have a similar situation in their parishes how to broach the topic, or how they deal with it. Considering 2% of females probably veil, many have to deal with the ā€œlooksā€ and so on.

But thanks for your concern!
 
I wore my scarf that I ordered today at Mass and then later, adoration. It felt weird at first, but especially with adoration, it really helped me stay focused and centered. I have found an hour adoration to be very difficult and I stayed there an hour today and it was much easier.

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slewi said:
Hello ladies!

My wife and I attend an NO parish, and I would like to tackle this topic with her. Any ideas how I might do so and present the topic convincingly? She would be the the only one in our church veiling and between the immodest apparel of the young ladies and the relativism abounding, I donā€™t want to stress her out too much. Veiling is a big step in the NOā€¦

Any advice would be great! Thanks and God Bless!

Stephen
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I would just open the conversation by asking her if sheā€™s ever thought about it before, and what she thinks about the practice in general. Then let her take you where she goes with it, sharing how you feel about it.

Let HER make the decision, but share with her how you feel about it and maybe suggest some of the styles and ideas we have shown and talked about here.

Good luck! šŸ˜ƒ

~Liza
 
I agree, it should be her decision. Talk to her about it in a loving way, but donā€™t force the matter. It is beautiful, but, certainly not a requirement.

Youā€™re being sweet to her about it, not pushing, not pressuring, and bringing it up sweetly and sparingly will more likely encourage her to take on this beautiful devotional practice. šŸ˜ƒ
 
lizaanne said:
Jenny Z - this is PERFECT!!! The style Iā€™m looking for, but not too over the top with the heavy lace! Ok - I think Iā€™m going to place an order! šŸ˜ƒ

~Liza
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Woohoo! šŸ˜ƒ They have lots of simple designs on that website, I love it
 
slewi said:
You somehow managed to miss my point and nearly leapt straight to accusing me of forcing my wife to do something she doesnā€™t want to do. That is not the case.

I was asking the experienced veil wearers who may have have a similar situation in their parishes how to broach the topic, or how they deal with it. Considering 2% of females probably veil, many have to deal with the ā€œlooksā€ and so on.

But thanks for your concern!
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Sorry if I misinterpreted you. You seemed to be coming across as ā€œHow do I get my wife to cover head, because I think she should?ā€ To which the response is, itā€™s up to her not you. Again, sorry for the misinterpretation. I wasnā€™t meaning to offend or anything.
 
That is a lovely veil JennyZ! Iā€™m still considering, but since Iā€™ve only officially been Catholic for all of a month now Iā€™m not quite sure Iā€™m ready to take the plunge yet šŸ™‚ Although, summer is coming and I have curly hairā€“curly hair and humidity just donā€™t mix for some reason. Makes the veil a bit more attractive šŸ™‚
 
Fidelia said:
Does color matter? I am just wondering because i started talking about it with my friend, and she said that unmarried women traditionally wore white, and married women wore black. But i have a couple that were my momā€™s from when she was a little girl, and they are black.
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Anyone know about this? I am curious.
 
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