Head covering women, I need advice

  • Thread starter Thread starter Detroit_Sue
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
D

Detroit_Sue

Guest
My son is being married on June 3. I have been trying to find a low-key, nice hat to wear to the Mass. I look like a total dork. My husband told me to just go ahead & wear my mantilla, but I think that might be a little inappropriate as the mother of the groom to be veiled. Especially since the bride to be is really turning out to be uber-flaky about “appearances.” My husband told me another option would be to go bare-headed. That feels extremely odd to me.

Should I just suck it up & go bare, or are there any other suggestions out there?
 
Detroit Sue:
My son is being married on June 3. I have been trying to find a low-key, nice hat to wear to the Mass. I look like a total dork. My husband told me to just go ahead & wear my mantilla, but I think that might be a little inappropriate as the mother of the groom to be veiled. Especially since the bride to be is really turning out to be uber-flaky about “appearances.” My husband told me another option would be to go bare-headed. That feels extremely odd to me.

Should I just suck it up & go bare, or are there any other suggestions out there?
Click to expand...
Wear a (white) mantilla and be done with it. And don’t discuss it with anyone --* just do it*.
 
Sue there are some darling hats out there. I have never seen anyone look dorky in a hat. So I can’t relate. How many did you try on. Different styles may work for you.
 
40.png
AltarMan:
Wear a (white) mantilla and be done with it. And don’t discuss it with anyone --* just do it*.
Click to expand...
Wear a black chapel cap. I got mine at the Catholic store at 12 and VanDyke. I’m sure they can be gotten elsewhere. If you can’t find one, private mail me with your address and I’ll send you mine. It is really small and doesn’t stand out. (in fact I think I have a white one too).
 
netmil(name removed by moderator):
Wear a black chapel cap. I got mine at the Catholic store at 12 and VanDyke. I’m sure they can be gotten elsewhere. If you can’t find one, private mail me with your address and I’ll send you mine. It is really small and doesn’t stand out. (in fact I think I have a white one too).
Click to expand...
Oooops! That reply was for Sue. I don’t think you would want it, Altarman.
 
Oh its very interesting. Could you provide me more information ?
 
Detroit Sue:
My son is being married on June 3. I have been trying to find a low-key, nice hat to wear to the Mass. I look like a total dork. My husband told me to just go ahead & wear my mantilla, but I think that might be a little inappropriate as the mother of the groom to be veiled. Especially since the bride to be is really turning out to be uber-flaky about “appearances.” My husband told me another option would be to go bare-headed. That feels extremely odd to me.

Should I just suck it up & go bare, or are there any other suggestions out there?
Click to expand...
May I suggest that you wear a scarf, and tie it around the back of your head, in order to completely cover your hair?

To me, women wear head coverings to cover their hair, not accessorise it. Chapel caps don’t cover enough!
 
netmil(name removed by moderator) said:
**Wear a black chapel cap. ** I got mine at the Catholic store at 12 and VanDyke. I’m sure they can be gotten elsewhere. If you can’t find one, private mail me with your address and I’ll send you mine. It is really small and doesn’t stand out. (in fact I think I have a white one too).
Click to expand...

Those do look dorky…

This only becomes a big deal when one talks about it. * Just do it.*
 
40.png
AltarMan:
Those do look dorky…
Click to expand...
Only when one’s hair does not match. Actually, you can hardly see mine.

My other suggestion would be a wide headband matching one’s outfit. My black sister does that all the time and it looks lovely.
 
40.png
AltarMan:
Those do look dorky…

This only becomes a big deal when one talks about it. * Just do it.*
Click to expand...
Maybe I can find a nice mantilla with a large Nike “swoosh” on it? 😃

Stac - I know exactly the store you are talking about. I think I’ll take a ride out there & see what they have. A dark chapel cap might be just the answer! Thanks!!
 
Detroit Sue:
Maybe I can find a nice mantilla with a large Nike “swoosh” on it? 😃

Stac - I know exactly the store you are talking about. I think I’ll take a ride out there & see what they have. A dark chapel cap might be just the answer! Thanks!!
Click to expand...
LOLOL! Oh yeah, that’ll look less dorky than the chapel cap!

(I think they had some brown lace too!)
 
netmil(name removed by moderator):
Wear a black chapel cap. I got mine at the Catholic store at 12 and VanDyke. I’m sure they can be gotten elsewhere. If you can’t find one, private mail me with your address and I’ll send you mine. It is really small and doesn’t stand out. (in fact I think I have a white one too).
Click to expand...
I was going to suggest a chapel veil as well. If you can’t find one and don’t want to PM nemil(name removed by moderator) go to Wal-Mart and see if they have some doilies - I know, it sound kind of dorky but if you can find some of those small round ones, it would work perfectly!

Once you have it, just wear it and don’t worry about what anyone will say (-:. This is your personal devotion, the Wedding is going to be a Nuptual Mass so, it is only appropriate that you wear something on your head.

Brenda V.
 
Brenda V.:
Once you have it, just wear it and don’t worry about what anyone will say (-:. This is your personal devotion, the Wedding is going to be a Nuptual Mass so, it is only appropriate that you wear something on your head.

Brenda V.
Click to expand...
I hate to even make my remarks as I agree with Brenda V., but…since your future DIL appears to be rather picky about what people are wearing, you may want to consider not wearing a head covering and offering up your sacrifice and personal discomfort in not wearing one for your son and his future wife. Maybe you could dig around a little and see what future DIL may think of you wearing a head covering. Honestly, I’ve seen little things like this be blown out of proportion and cause family problems for years to come. Only you know if this girl will be like that!! I hope not for your son’s sake:(
 
Wear a black chapel cap. My hair is black so nobody really notices. 👍
 
The only problem I can forsee is that it may be taken that you are in mourning with a black one (since most probably have only seen them in the movie funerals) and your DIL/family might be offended at that too. Just thought I’d point out that possibility. How about an off white or ecru? How about just finding a piece of lace to match your outfit. Your head would be covered as you like but it might not stand out as much. You might also just want to explain your position to your DIL and ask her opinion.
 
nope - don’t ask her opinion - you know it already
Especially since the bride to be is really turning out to be uber-flaky about “appearances.”
Click to expand...
  • ask her advice as to how to solve your problem - if you get her involved in the discussion she may see your point
 
I’m a Catholic who likes to cover her head a lot. I wear hats of some sort about 75% of the time by personal choice. I also look really dorky in lots of hats!!! I thought I’d aim you towards a great christian lady who makes wonderful hats and head coverings because she covers all of the time. You’ve probably heard of the protestants that always cover? Lots of denominations follow this discipline. This means there’s lots of places to buy really cool hats and veils!! 😃
Code: 
  Either way, you don't have to be a "head covering christian."  She won't preach at you.  I have ordered several hats and my favorites are the Gwen Capp and the Bonnet.  Yes,  an old fashioned Little House On the Prairie bonnet hehehehe!  People LOVE them when I go out wearing them.  
 Here is her web site:
 [www.wendysmodestdress.com](http://www.wendysmodestdress.com/)
Tell her that Michelle in Scotland sent you!  And I hope you'll find something you'll like to wear.  For $7 she'll sew your order right away and send it of asap.  Her work is excellent.
GOD BLESS!!!
 
I did like the advise you got about involving the Bride in your choice of what to wear, not whether to wear something 🙂

Pick out a few hats and veils and ask her which one she thinks you should wear. Has she helped you pick out your dress? Your shoes? Does she have reason to be worried about what people in the family will be wearing?

I also think that a black chapel veil, unless your hair is very black and it will blend in will indeed be seen as a sign of mourning, which I am sure you are not. You are only dealing with a bridezilla and lets face it ladies, all of us who had a Wedding were a bit of a bridezilla, from just barely to full blown when planning our Weddings (most of us stopped when it was pointed out to us how unreasonable we were).

Hope you are getting something you can use here.

Brenda V.
 
40.png
MichelleTherese:
Code: 
 Here is her web site:
 [www.wendysmodestdress.com](http://www.wendysmodestdress.com/)
Her work is excellent.
GOD BLESS!!!
Click to expand...
**This is a great site! Thanks!

Now Sue, does it have to be a veil? What about a scarf that matches your outfit? Over the head for church, and back on the shoulders for before and after?**
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top