Head covering women, I need advice

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I vote for the small chapel veil – is it possible to have one made (or to make one) to match your dress? It would be small and unobtrusive, and wouldn’t look like you were trying to outdo the bride.

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I seem to remember, when veils were more widely available because women were still required to wear a head covering and hats had gone out of fashion, that stores had both long and small round veils, in black, white, and silver grey. Older ladies wore grey because it matched their hair. we actually had small round navy chapel veils that matched our school uniforms. find a lace in hobby lobby or fabric store that matches your dress, cut out a round and edge it with matching lace, will take a while unless you have a serger but you will have a nice outfit you can wear to church and other functions (I imagine as a deacon’s wife you have a lot of times you need a dressy outfit).Orthodox Jewish women wore wigs, which were considered head coverings, that is also a possibility.
 
I am so glad I re-read this thread.
My daughter is getting married 12/30/06. My dress is a (gasp) red
knitted sweater and straight long skirt. A red veil is out of the question.
Giving up veiling and offering it up is not an option. I wear them because of the angels and in humility for God. Somehow I think that trumps taking it off as a sacrifice.
The wedding is to be at 7:30 pm.
Red hats are a little too flashy. I am blond so I am thinking an ecru/beige small veil. Or maybe a snood attached to a red headband?
 
Detroit Sue,

I don’t remember if you ever said what you did for the Wedding as it has already happened and we lost all the posts since April.

What did you end up doing? How did the Wedding go? Let us all know, this has been over 3 months ago!

Slyboots- if you can’t find something in ecru check out the Dollar Store or Wal-Mart and look for doilies - some of them remind me of the Chapel Veils we had when I was growing up and you will be able to find one in Ecru or Off-white and if you want to make it “match” your outfit look for ribbon that is the same read as your dress and weave it in and out of the edges, oh, that could be pretty.

Brenda V.
 
Brenda, it was lovely. I did not cover, as I couldn’t find an appropriate hat, and waited so long to get my dress that I couldn’t have one made. It was weird, but it made for no hard feelings between the bride and me, so it was worth it.

I don’t want to do that again anytime soon, though. 😉
 
slyboots said:
I am so glad I re-read this thread.
My daughter is getting married 12/30/06. My dress is a (gasp) red
knitted sweater and straight long skirt. A red veil is out of the question.
Giving up veiling and offering it up is not an option. I wear them because of the angels and in humility for God. Somehow I think that trumps taking it off as a sacrifice.
The wedding is to be at 7:30 pm.
Red hats are a little too flashy. I am blond so I am thinking an ecru/beige small veil. Or maybe a snood attached to a red headband?
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I have some suggestions for you.

Please don’t wear a veil that is small, or that “matches” your hair. A MAJOR reason for covering is to cover ALL of your hair, so that it cannot be seen, and so that people looking at you cannot see your hair. This is a major reason why I no longer wear lace veils, because my hair can be seen through them.

Also, and this is my own opinion, I think that ecru, beige, and any shade whatsoever of “off-white” looks really ugly. It’s like a corruption of white.

How about a red kerchief or cloth scarf on your head? Or a kerchief or cloth scarf of any colour?

To me, covering my hair is more important, than what other people think. If I went to a wedding, and my outfit did not have a head covering that “matched” exactly, I would wear some kind of covering that covered my hair completely. It is that crucially important to me.
 
GoLatin said:
I have some suggestions for you.

Please don’t wear a veil that is small, or that “matches” your hair. A MAJOR reason for covering is to cover ALL of your hair, so that it cannot be seen, and so that people looking at you cannot see your hair. This is a major reason why I no longer wear lace veils, because my hair can be seen through them.

Also, and this is my own opinion, I think that ecru, beige, and any shade whatsoever of “off-white” looks really ugly. It’s like a corruption of white.

How about a red kerchief or cloth scarf on your head? Or a kerchief or cloth scarf of any colour?

To me, covering my hair is more important, than what other people think. If I went to a wedding, and my outfit did not have a head covering that “matched” exactly, I would wear some kind of covering that covered my hair completely. It is that crucially important to me.
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So all those women who have worn bonnets or hats or Kleenex on their heads to Church throughout the centuries had it completely wrong? :rolleyes:

Why not just wear a burqa and be done with it.
 
catholicknight said:
Personally, I think Orthodox Jewish women have the most class in this area. Check out their version of mantillas here: a-zara.com/p212700.htm
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Someone here once posted a link to another site for orthodox Jewish women, and the coverings were absolutely stunning. Let me search in the archives for that link, too.

BTW, catholic knight. Very nice link! 🙂
 
Ooo very pretty items on those links, Detroit Sue!!

The couple of times I’ve worn a head covering I chose to do one of the small chapel veils (I’m a very tiny person, so the regular mantilla’s are really big on me). It happens to be white just because I have brown hair so no color really matches, and I thought black was generally interpreted to mean that I’m either in mourning or married. I suppose it’s different now though since so few women wear them anymore.
 
Ladies who cover - I just found the lovliest website for custom made veils in all shapes, sizes and fabrics at www.headcoverings.com . Just thought you might like to know. Check out all the categories, especially the “Lace” one.

Enjoy!
Betsy
 
I love the idea of wearing a mantilla that matches your hair! 🙂 I think that would be so beautiful in the pics! 🙂
 
LilyM said:
So all those women who have worn bonnets or hats or Kleenex on their heads to Church throughout the centuries had it completely wrong? :rolleyes:

Why not just wear a burqa and be done with it.
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You know Lily, I was thinking the exact same thing. Much ado about nothing. I find it odd that no recognized that wearing red at a wedding is gouche, but it’s ok. But going to Wally World to buy a doilie and putting it on your head is high fashion, especially at a wedding. I’m confused. :confused:

I haven’t worn anything on my head since 1966 when I made my first communion…oh, take that back, my wedding in 1981. No one else in the church when I got married were wearing doilies or anything else on their head…except maybe mousse, hair gel or hairspray.
 
Julianna said:
You know Lily, I was thinking the exact same thing. Much ado about nothing. I find it odd that no recognized that wearing red at a wedding is gouche, but it’s ok. But going to Wally World to buy a doilie and putting it on your head is high fashion, especially at a wedding. I’m confused. :confused:
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First of all it will be Saturday night after Christmas, an excellent time to wear red. Second, after checking several etiquette sites and books I can find no where that wearing red to a wedding is gauche. Even Ms Manners who previously disapproved of red dresses has changed her disapproval to the wearing of black or white.signonsandiego.com/uniontrib/20050902/news_1c02manners.html
I am ordering the snood with the red band. The snood is ivory, not red. The outfit is a two piece very dressy knitted skirt and sweater. Not a cocktail dress with spangles…
 
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