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peripheral but positive aspect of this practice is its effect in profane groups who use the name “Jesus” with little thought, as an expletive or ejaculatory comment. When one bows his head at each mention of the name, these profane speakers are sometimes taken aback and become more circumspect in their speech. Surprisingly, some become quite angry when they notice, prompted by this sign of respect, that they are in fact praying, however reflexively, in almost every speech that they make. It is amazing how prevalent the Savior’s name is in the speech of people who claim to have rejected Him.

For as long as I can remember, whenever I’ve heard someone use the Lord’s name as a profanity, I’ve always added, “…Mary and Joseph, pray for us who have recourse to Thee.” I turn it into a prayer and that makes me feel better.
 
I was taught by the good nuns growing up in the 50’s, and at home by example, to bow my head in this way. As someone else mentioned, we also made the sign of the cross passing a Catholic Church. When I pass them these days I still do that, and say “hi” to Jesus.

Regarding hearing the name of Jesus (and God) taken in vain all the time, I softly or silently say “Praise you, Jesus”. Maybe we can all make little acts of reparation.
 
Names are important.

In the bible, we see Adam naming the animals (Genesis 2:20), this indicates His dominance over them and He also names Eve (Genesis 3:20)

God reveals Himself to Moses as the great “I AM”, Moses does not name God because Moses does not have authority over God.

“Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain” (Exodus 20:7) because God’s name is Holy and should be given reverence.

The name Jesus means “God saves” by honouring the name of Jesus we honour the salvation that God has given us.

This is why we bow out heads at the name of Jesus Christ.

Blessed be God,

JD
 
Laudatur Iesus Christus.

My family also has the custom of bowing our heads when we pass a Church or other building where the Blessed Sacrament is reserved and the custom of making the Sign of the Cross for the dead when we pass cemeteries. This is especially important when passing secular or Protestant cemeteries, because one suspects there are some whose bodies lie there who labor in Purgatory without much assistance from their families and friends on earth.

Pax Christi nobiscum.

John Hiner
I think at times I make the Sign of the Cross when passing a Church…makes it harder if driving, of course. But when passing a cemetery, I never thought of making the Sign of the Cross. Rather, the prayer, "Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May they rest in peace. May their souls and all the souls, through the Mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen. Poor souls - so many lying in these graves, perhaps forgotten or at least not even prayed for by family. I think that’s the saddest. How many people - too many - even Catholics - just don’t think or bother to pray for their departed loved ones after awhile, saying “they’re with God”, etc. We never know and should always err on the side of caution for these souls - waiting and thirsting.
 
For as long as I can remember, whenever I’ve heard someone use the Lord’s name as a profanity, I’ve always added, “…Mary and Joseph, pray for us who have recourse to Thee.” I turn it into a prayer and that makes me feel better.
Oh, I like that! I’m going to adopt that practice. With all of the profane use of Jesus’ name that occurs around me at work, I’ll be praying all day!
 
"Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May they rest in peace. May their souls and all the souls, through the Mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen. Poor souls - so many lying in these graves, perhaps forgotten or at least not even prayed for by family. I think that’s the saddest. How many people - too many - even Catholics - just don’t think or bother to pray for their departed loved ones after awhile, saying “they’re with God”, etc. We never know and should always err on the side of caution for these souls - waiting and thirsting.
Too true.
I worry sometimes about the dead who are forgotten.
My grandma died almost exactly a year ago. One custom that some in our family have taken to is saying the “Eternal Rest” prayer althroughout the day, just integrated into our prayer life. We say it for all souls in general, and for my grandma and other deceased relatives in particular. After morning and bedtime prayers, whenever we say grace, after each decade of the rosary, at mass…

Great idea from sphilomena, too-- making little reparations throughout the day.
 
I think at times I make the Sign of the Cross when passing a Church…makes it harder if driving, of course. But when passing a cemetery, I never thought of making the Sign of the Cross. Rather, the prayer, "Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May they rest in peace. May their souls and all the souls, through the Mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen. Poor souls - so many lying in these graves, perhaps forgotten or at least not even prayed for by family. I think that’s the saddest. How many people - too many - even Catholics - just don’t think or bother to pray for their departed loved ones after awhile, saying “they’re with God”, etc. We never know and should always err on the side of caution for these souls - waiting and thirsting.
Laudatur Iesus Christus.

It may be that the convenience of making the Sign of the Cross while driving or while in conversation in a car influenced our taking it up as our customary prayer for the dead as we pass cemeteries.

The Handbook of Indulgences reflects a partial indulgence “applicable only to the souls in purgatory” for the prayer, “Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May they rest in peace. Amen.” Handbook of Indulgences: Norms and Grants (1988), No. 48. The addition of “and all the souls” seems questionable to me. It may put the proposed prayer outside the indulgenced grant.

A partial indulgence is also granted for the Sign of the Cross to “the Christian faithful who devoutly sign themselves with the cross while saying the customary formula: “In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.” Ibid., No. 55. Under the general norms, this indulgence may be given for the benefit of those in purgatory as well. However, the Sign of the Cross is a general prayer to which the Holy Spirit may give specific form as most appropriate (cf., Romans 8:26), should the dead be in heaven and therefore able to use it for good, or in hell, that the prayer may benefit the damned by assisting their friends and family who remain alive and in need of aid, or to put it to some other good use by His divine wisdom.

Of course, both of these are worthy practices. Sometimes, if one is not talking or driving, it is our custom to add the prayer for the dead to the Sign of the Cross when passing a cemetery. We customarily open and close all prayers with the Sign of the Cross.

Pax Christi nobiscum.

John Hiner
 
Laudatur Iesus Christus.

The Handbook of Indulgences reflects a partial indulgence “applicable only to the souls in purgatory” for the prayer, “Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May they rest in peace. Amen.” Handbook of Indulgences: Norms and Grants (1988), No. 48. The addition of “and all the souls” seems questionable to me. It may put the proposed prayer outside the indulgenced grant.
I don’t know about this.
The addition that Conservative makes is common in this prayer and doesn’t alter it’s meaning or intent. I’ve heard a few variations. In the tradition I’m familiar with, for instance, it’s:

Eternal rest grant them, Lord and may perpetual light shine upon them. May the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.

We also sometimes say:

may ____'s soul, and the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace."

Seems kind of like the difference in the Our Father between forgive us our trespasses and forgive us our debts. Or to a lesser extent subbing thee and thou for you in the Hail Mary.

In any case, here’s what the Enchiridion of Indulgences of the 1967 Apostolic Constitution Indulgentiarum Doctrina says:
  1. Visit to a Cemetery (Coemeterii visitatio)
    An indulgence, applicable only to the Souls in Purgatory, is granted to the faithful, who devoutly visit a cemetery and pray, even if only mentally, for the departed.
The indulgence is plenary each day from the 1st to the 8th of November; on other days of the year it is partial.
 
I don’t know about this.
The addition that Conservative makes is common in this prayer and doesn’t alter it’s meaning or intent. I’ve heard a few variations. In the tradition I’m familiar with, for instance, it’s:

Eternal rest grant them, Lord and may perpetual light shine upon them. May the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.

We also sometimes say:

*may ____'s soul, and the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace."/]

Seems kind of like the difference in the Our Father between forgive us our trespasses* and forgive us our debts. Or to a lesser extent subbing thee and thou for you in the Hail Mary.


Addressing AC Claire and John Hiner’s posts -
I’d never thought altering the words so minimally as I did might possibly change the meaning - guess I trusted that God understands and accepts the prayer either way. What’s more, I’d gotten into the practice of saying my own version of another prayer by adding individual names to the following - Sure hope God’s been hearing me…I’ve prayed it mechanically so often for years that I actually keep forgetting to insert my Mom’s name - her passing being so recent. (perhaps saying it so mechanically isn’t a good thing?)

O Agonizing Heart of Jesus, have mercy on the dying, and on the souls of the Faithful departed, especially those most in need of Thy Mercy, those who have no one to pray for them, and those most recently arrived in Purgatory, my relatives, family and friends, (names of deceased inserted here but list keeps getting longer). I I ask this, O God in Heaven, by Thy Divine Grace and Mercy, through Our Lady’s intercession and in the Name of Thy Divine Son in Heaven, Jesus.


Again, this is something I’ve been saying - and not to be considered as Church approved. But it keeps the memory of the souls in need of prayers alive.
 
Addressing AC Claire and John Hiner’s posts -
I’d never thought altering the words so minimally as I did might possibly change the meaning - guess I trusted that God understands and accepts the prayer either way. What’s more, I’d gotten into the practice of saying my own version of another prayer by adding individual names to the following - Sure hope God’s been hearing me…I’ve prayed it mechanically so often for years that I actually keep forgetting to insert my Mom’s name - her passing being so recent. (perhaps saying it so mechanically isn’t a good thing?)
Of course God hears you!
Sorry if my legalism up above was off-putting…I’m used to some of the other sub-forums, where you have to back up your arguments…Really, that is a beautiful prayer.
 
Laudatur Iesus Christus.

All of the prayers that have been mentioned seem worthy and of benefit to the dead. I do not mean to discourage anyone from their customary practices in praying for the dead. It might be useful to note that an indulgenced grant applies to all prayers or invocations offered by “the Christian faithful who, while performing their duties and enduring the difficulties of life, raise their minds in humble trust to God and make, at least mentally, some pious invocation.” Handbook of Indulgences: Norms and Grants (1988), Grant I. I think this applies to all of the prayers discussed so far, if made while driving or otherwise engaged in worldly activities.

I have some concern, however, that the rule of prayer is the rule of belief (“Lex orandi lex credendi”), or so some say, and therefore one should take care that prayers are within the love and will of Christ. When one is praying for the dead, there is a significant implication, if one seems to assume that damnation (mortal sin) is not possible. St. John writes: “There is sin which is mortal; I do not say that one is to pray for that.” (1John (RSV) 5:16.) This calls to mind the Savior’s words: “While I was with them, I kept them in thy name, which thou hast given me; I have guarded them, and none of them is lost but the son of perdition, that the scripture might be fulfilled.” (John (RSV) 17:12.) These considerations suggest that a prayer for the dead that includes “all souls” (in contrast to customary phrases such as “all faithful souls” or “all of the faithfully departed”) may cross a line. One might slip into thinking that all of the dead can be saved.

*The Handbook of Indulgences: Norms and Grants *is one of the means by which the Church teaches us how to pray. Norm 25 provides: “An indulgence annexed to any prayer may be gained no matter what the language of recitation, provided the accuracy of the translation is supported by a declaration either of the Apostolic Penitentiary or of one of the Ordinaries or Hierarchs in the region where the language of the translation is in general use.” Handbook of Indulgences: Norms and Grants (1988), Norm 25. This is a slight revision of Norm 32 as shown in the online version linked in another post above. This suggests some strictness in matters of additions to the sense of approved prayers, possibly to avoid issues like the one mentioned above.

Prayerful visits to cemeteries are still indulgenced in the current edition of the Handbook. I had not thought of that in this connection, since it seems to require more than merely driving by the cemetery. See, Ibid. Grant 13. (Note, in the current edition, those saintly souls who can obtain plenary indulgences may obtain one by devoutly visiting any cemetery and praying for the dead, at any time from November 1 through November 8. This grant is under the usual conditions and applicable only to souls in purgatory.) Ibid., Grant 13.

It occurs to me that the general Grant mentioned in the first paragraph above is also an encouragement for the practice of bowing one’s head at the name of Jesus. This gesture itself, when done with some conscious intent (rather than “automatically”), seems to be within the Grant I. So long as one is in the state of grace and has at least a general intention to obtain the indulgence, it will obtain merit to be applied to one’s intensions.

Divinum Auxilium maneat semper nobiscum.

John Hiner
 
Of course God hears you!
Sorry if my legalism up above was off-putting…I’m used to some of the other sub-forums, where you have to back up your arguments…Really, that is a beautiful prayer.
LOL - No, the “legalism” was not “off-putting”.
Matter of fact, I got so hung up on quoting my own personal devotion, that I misquoted it…When praying for the poor souls, I also say, "those most abandoned and forgotten". It’s frightening sometimes (after reading indulgences that compensate for 100 years’ expiation, etc.) to think that there might be souls totally unremembered or thought of for so long.
 
It’s frightening sometimes (after reading indulgences that compensate for 100 years’ expiation, etc.) to think that there might be souls totally unremembered or thought of for so long.
Well, we can still take comfort in the fact that God does not forget anyone, and no one suffers any more than he or she ought to suffer. Of course, that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t help the souls in purgatory.
 
. . . It’s frightening sometimes (after reading indulgences that compensate for 100 years’ expiation, etc.) to think that there might be souls totally unremembered or thought of for so long.
One of our priests pointed out that there are no unremembered souls. All souls are remembered in one of the prayers at each mass.
 
I do it. The only other person I have seen do it was a Dominican Friar.
 
I also bow at the names of the Holy Trinity at the begininning of the Glory Be (as is the norm when praying the Liturgy of the Hours.)
 
The good sisters taught us to do this in Catholic grade school 60 years ago.
 
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