How much is your budget with him
not packing food? I know we spend so much more eating out or grabbing it on the fly than we do when we take time to pack ahead.
If he’s working 12hr days, I’d be proactive and pack a lunch case for him, including snacks. Since portion control is a part of weight loss, packing will allow him/you to control calories & nutrition much more closely. A thermos of soup/stew, a sandwich packed with veggies, lean meat, and a little cheese, a container of steamed veggies, a container of grapes (a reasonably sized container!), some whole grain crackers with hummus…lots of options.
We use these for packing lunches:
Bento Lunch Jar - the lunch jar has multiple compartments to hold dry food, wet food, etc.
Thermos with wide mouth, serving bowl and folding spoon included.
Portion Control Bento Boxes - dishwasher safe, microwaveable, and freezer safe so you can pack ahead as needed.
In my experience, if they have multiple little things to eat, they will be able to spread it out better. If I send a double helping of something, it’s gone in one go, so they’re “too full” after, and starving later. Being able to spread it out using the visual/physical cues of separate boxes/baggies has been much more effective. Also, the variety of foods seems to help with the mindset of dividing things up for snack, lunch, snack, dinner, etc.
A secret way to control cheese portions - use those shelf stable laughing cow wedges - melt one over veggies, or spread one on his sandwiches (or on a grilled cheese!)…and keep the rest hidden in the closet or something. I live with a cheese hound, so I feel your pain. I also buy chunks, not slices, and tell him exactly how much I need for the planned meals (and usually mark the package with divider marks), so he knows he can have
some, but he doesn’t binge because he knows what the specific needs are for the other planned meals.
Cheap & healthy options - have you looked at any of the “one chicken, 5 meals” blog posts? Some great ideas. There’s a new cookbook out, “
One to Five: One Shortcut Recipe Transformed into Five Easy Dishes.” They did great things with a pot roast, in the TV segment I saw about it. That would encourage some portion control, too, as a cheap pot roast can be spread out (as can a whole chicken, etc).
If he’s working 12 hour shifts, he will probably be tired enough that he’ll eat what you put out for him. Don’t give him reason to countersurf for snacks…keep a tray of fruit & veg cut up, or set out one of those bento boxes with fruit, nuts, cheese, and yogurt dip, for example. It takes more time and organization from you, but if weight loss is that important, the extra time you use can make a huge difference.
Also consider ways you can separate the carbs/sauces from the main food, if that might help. He can have the plain, steamed veg, and you could add sauce, melt a Laughing Cow wedge, etc, over your portion. If he’s actually happy with simple veg/meat, that will help him lose the weight…if you can find recipes that mix a sauce at the end, or don’t have starches mixed throughout (like rice stirred in), he can control the carbs to a much larger extent.
Good luck - it’s a big change, but definitely worth the improved health & well being!