Hello, I have a personal question

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Hello, my name is David. I have been reading the Bible for the first time in my life. I am 22 years old. I have never been particularly successful, although I am intelligent I lacked discipline from my parents. I still take accountability for my actions of course. Anyway I have been having a conflict within my heart and I was hoping to get the advice from someone in the catholic faith which I will someday be. My father and mother were divorced when I was very young. Neither of them religious, in fact quite the opposite. My dad is a left wing nut who is in favor of abortion and is an aldulterer. My mom is a homosexual. They aren’t evil people but I am ashamed of them. I think they are completely wrong with their choice of life styles. My mom raised me with her partner and I believe it irreversibly harmed my formative teen years. I know god puts us on our path for a reason and I have accepted this challenge to overcome, but still I am ashamed of them. I haven’t said anything to either of them, I don’t know if it’s my place to and would likely lead to them getting angry with me. God was completely absent(he wasn’t but you know what I mean) in my youth and I believe they completely failed as parents. I still love them but when I leave the area I grew up in I don’t know if I will still want to communicate with them or introduce them to a hopefully good catholic girl I will meet and marry one day. I don’t want to have none of my family at my wedding but I also would be embarrassed by their presence. I have literally had to hide the fact that I have accepted Jesus into my life from them for fear of ridicule or disapproval. I was wondering if anyone else had gone through anything like this, or if anyone knows something about a situation that is similar. It seems society in general is so morally bankrupt and degenerate, and my parents are apart of said degeneracy. If I tried to get them to see things from my point of view I would be mocked and shamed like I’m sure many of you are aware happens to many Christians today. Sometimes it makes me angry they are my parents to tell you the truth. I try not to be but I’m still human. What do I do? The main thing I’m concerned about is my future wife and her family seeing the complete degenerate lack of faith I was born into and thinking less of me or thinking I agree with my parents life styles. I know I shouldn’t judge them because we all sin…but still. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you, God bless.
 
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hi , welcome home to God.

Your experience of turning back to God, and being the only one, in your family or circle of friends is very common.
please dont hide it, your faith.
we are called to bear witness to Christ.
it is an example, a way to live, to allow God to shine through us.
yes, everyone is going to think you are a religious nut. Thats great, it means you have started living your life for God, and started slowly rejecting the secular world.

keep. your faith, pray for your parents. find that girl

🙏🕊️
 
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My dear friend in Christ,

As you seem to recognize once one attains the age of reason [7], we are obligated to began the process of personal accountability, the degree of which increases with age, and one presupposes a degree of wisdom…

At age 22 you ought to be totally accountable to yourself before God, WHY?

Because God commits Himself to OFFER [one that can be and often is rejected [ie: your parents so far] "sufficient: grace to every soul which enables ALL to know God and choose to love Him, or deny God and choose to hate Him.

Please know that it WAS GOD the Holy Spirit that lead to this FORUM, a very good start.

Know friend that your search will be MUCH easier IF your able to accept that TRUTH can be nothing other than singular per defined issue.

Pope BENEDICT XVI
Benedict says: “If we omit the truth, what do we do anything for?”

“Their cannot be your truth and my truth or there would be no truth”

FATHER HARDON, one f the most esteemed theologians of the 20th Century} taught this about TRUTH: “Truth is the condition of grace, it is the source of grace, it is the channel of grace, it is the divinely ordained requirement of grace.” …

GRACE which is NEEDED to discover that there can be and is:
Just One True God
Who can [and therefore does] have just One True set of Faith beliefs
In and through His One True Church

ALL OF WHICH ARE BOTH HISTORICALLY AND BIBLICALLY PROVABLE

Ps.145 Verses 17 to 18 “
[17] The LORD is just in all his ways, and kind in all his doings. [18] The LORD is near to all who call upon him, to all who call upon him in truth.

Dictionary Definition of “Truth”
  1. The true or actual state of a matter:
    conformity with fact or reality; verity: the truth of a statement
  2. a verified or indisputable fact, proposition, principle, or the like mathematical truths.
  3. the state or character of being true.
  4. actuality or actual existence.
  5. an obvious or accepted fact; truism; platitude.
  6. honesty; integrity; truthfulness.
  7. (often initial capital letter) ideal or fundamental reality apart from and
    transcending perceived experience:
  8. agreement with a standard or original.
    9… accuracy, as of position or adjustment.
  9. Archaic. Fidelity or constancy. End quotes
PRAY very much daily for GOD to guide you to the women HE WANTS you to Marry

Thanks for your candor!
God Bless you,
Patrick
 
You are 22; you are a man now, only you are responsible for your life. While you were growing up, like most of us you probably respected your parents, even though they were far less than ideal. Now it is time that they respect you. You can’t make them of course, but they no longer have control over you unless you give it to them.
You say living with your mother and her partner negatively affected you. Yet you state you want a wife and family. Your orientation is solid and correctly ordered. Be proud of that and seek it out.
Find a good job/career and establish your own home and your own independence. Cultivate your faith regardless of what your parents think. Your relationship with God is yours alone, don’t let anyone tell you it isn’t. If they don’t like it, that’s their problem, not yours.
Be kind, considerate, and loving toward them, but not at the expense of your own choices and direction. Realize that your future wife is marrying you and not your family. Be the kind of man a woman can be proud of.
Man up! It’s your life. Live it well!
And remember Christ’s words, “if any place does not receive you, shake the dust from your sandals as you leave…” Christ exhorts us to try, He doesn’t demand we succeed.
 
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They are your parents and they were given to you for a reason.
From the little you’ve said, there seems to have been quite a bit of brokenness between them, and also pain. It’s hard for you as the child to carry these burdens. But try to see them the way Jesus sees them, as ahis beloved children who He died for and wants to live with them forever.
This is not an easy path for you. I won’t sugar-coat this. I would suggest getting a Catholic advisor or counselor who could help shepherd you through your walk with Jesus and with your parents.
We don’t know their backstory or what caused them to make the choices they did. If you delve back through the generations of your family tree, you might learn some stories that help you understand with a compassionate heart.
This isn’t the same as approving of sinful choices. But if you keep in mind the parable of the lost sheep and the Shepherd who searched for it, and carried it back to safety, it may help you to understand how sin and brokenness can wound us.
:pray:t2:For you and your parents that you may one day all be blessing to each other
 
Thank you all for your responses. I love God and will strive to be the best person I can be. I hope my family will accept that when I tell them, but regardless of what they think I will not be dissuaded from my faith. So happy to hear from people who have faith.
 
Also understand that self-righteousness is a danger for converts when they come from dysfunctional or painful backgrounds (“I could walk with Jesus better if they weren’t such jerks!”).
Sometimes there is a strain of rebellion in the decision to convert, and it can co-exists with an absolutely sincere desire to love and follow Jesus. People are just complicated like that.
There can also be an element of wanting to control–especially if you felt very powerless for a long time. Again, perfectly normal, but not particularly helpful in your faith walk.
What you will need to strive after (and this will be a lifelong project) is to love with agape love. This is the type of love Jesus had–selfless and seeking the highest good for the other. Not expecting or even secretly hoping to get something back.
Extremely hard for us fallen human beings, but it’s worth striving for…
 
that phrase you used – marry the man not the family – turned out to be very divisive in my extended family.

yes, it’s a fact you marry the man not the family but that is the creation of an extended family. The children will be related to all of them, as proof of that. just friendly advise, be nice to the extended family
 
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