Help! Advice on my boyfriend entering the seminary!

[Kristopher]

Maybe your boyfriend will obtain a master’s degree through seminary, and become a teacher–it is a degree anyone may obtain through seminary.

I understand that vocation means: God drawing nearer to us. I understand: Jesus is whom God gave in order for people to become adopted and heirs to God’s life. Jesus may be known through matrimony, Holy Orders, and remaining single. It is in the Holy Spirit this happens, as I understand it–I have just been reading the CotCC about this.

It is good of you to be friends–you sound very much like you are aware that one day you will be married; though, it may be to someone else, other than with whom you are now friends. Make sure you continue your own life, your own vocation.

 

[Kristopher]

Some other points coming to mind: people who are engaged–they are engaged; it is a relationship, which should perhaps come to an end, and rightfully so.

The other point: discerning your vocation–it seems to me, that it has little to do with the word “relationship”, and more to do with the word “service”. That I think is where the question of “what is the right fit?”, comes into play. Is it happier, and a more suitable lifestyle, to commit to handing the faith down to others through Holy Orders, or Holy Matrimony, or simpy–remaining single, whatever that may mean.

There is no question of relationship with respect to vocation, because we are all called to seek, to know, and to love God, that relationship is very clear. I will repeat, (What I read in the CotCC.), God draws near to us at every time, and every place, and he does this through giving us Jesus, and we do this in the Holy Spirit. Keep your eye on your vocation–I think that is all you really are doing in being with your friend.

 

[Evangelouise]

Thank you, everyone!

Three days ago, my boyfriend told me that he is entering the seminary. The wound is still fresh and hurting, but the more time goes on, the more I realize that I am NOT alone; I have people upon whom I can lean in my struggle and anyone who reads this after me should know that too. People are praying for you!

Another thing I am learning is the power of prayer. I knew that he was still discerning, so I prayed for his discernment and for me to be able to accept whichever God willed. God is truly amazing because for the last couple of weeks he gave me a warning in my heart that this was coming.

Although we are meant to follow our passions, we must be able to drop them instantaneously at God’s demand. Agape - self-sacrificing love for God. He would not give this situation to us if He didn’t think we could handle it.

I truly believe that my boyfriend and I were brought into each others’ lives to improve our characters, to make us better Catholic Christians. Now, God has deemed that the changes that were meant to be made have been made. Thanks be to God!

God bless all of you!