Help...I dont want to be labelled a gay-hater when I become Catholic

[FMLJoliecouer]

Are you planning to attend?

At this point…its impossible to say…I have two children…am looking for a full time job etc etc.

If I chose to go or not, it would not depend on whether she is gay or not. She has chosen to not be in any kind of relationship and though there would be others there who are bringing their same sexed partner, I am no one to judge them…I have been living in sin with this man for nine years and it wasnt until I started praying and becoming a believer in Jesus that I felt like I was doing something offensive at all.

Even though my partner and I are living together as brother and sister, there are very few people who know that…

Not sure if I gave you too much info…sorry about that, but I wasnt sure why you were asking.

Peace

 

[FMLJoliecouer]

Two Catholics getting married outside of the Church is not considered valid. If you two got married in the Church, that would be up for review. It is possible to marry that gentleman you are living with. SOME homosexuals will label you as a gay hater. As a Christian, we are told that we are not part of this world. Show your friends that you love them, but that having pre-marital relations is not acceptable to you as a Catholic.

I cannot marry the man I am living with…
I have not divorced my first husband…and although that is in the works (I left it up to him)
I am not so sure I would marry him and he and I both like the idea of living as brother and sister. As well, I feel I am called to live the rest of my life celibate…I am still praying on all of this…and discussing it with my priest

 

[FMLJoliecouer]

Dude…if you are hanging around people who don’t want labels but are quick to label others…you may have the wrong type of friends. I go my way and let the chips fall…good luck!

Good point…thanks

 

[Liraco]

I have talked to my priest and he knows my full situation…I was not married in the Catholic Church, but did marry a Catholic. I do not wish to get an anulment as when I got married, my intention was for life…and we had a daughter together…it does not sit well with me that my daughter from my first marriage was from a non-existant marriage.

I understand (glad to see someone taking marriage seriously). I only mentioned the declaration of nullity as a possibility, but it seems you’re set on celibacy. I’ll pray for you as you discern what to do next.

Oh, where’s my manners, I forgot the important part: Welcome home!

 

[Matrix_Refugee]

Welcome home, sister! :: Hugs::

Trust me, “gay hating” is not part of being Catholic. I’m bicelibate (ie. bisexual yet living a doubly chaste life) and I love the Latin Mass. I look at my orientation as at best a personal quirk, at worst a cross I am carrying. The sad thing is, and Catholic psychologist Gary Popcak has pointed this out, all too many Catholics seem to have an especial animus against their same-sex attracted brethren and forget that the Christ they love is also the Christ who loved and died for the same-sex attracted as well as the strauight. You don’t strike me at all as the sort who’d morph into something like this, and no doubt you will be an example to those who need to learn from you. If anyone you know has a problem with your conversion, they probably need a reality check on how to be a friend, since a real friend will stick with you, no matter what changes you make in your life.

 

[Siddhartha]

Not sure if I gave you too much info…sorry about that, but I wasnt sure why you were asking.

Peace

Just curious.