HELP! I have nowhere to go

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… Last night I slept in my car. This is because I ran out of friends who would take me in last night. Admittedly, I didn’t try that hard, bc I’ve been squatting at people’s places for the whole month of May. And, I’ve been trying to move into an apartment.

Anyways, this is my second chance at college. And, once again, my dad can pay for it, but he’s still just sending me down here by myself, and its up to me to get a place to live, etc. Well, I had a place lined up, and it fell through.

I’m posting this here, bc I really need advice more than prayers. I’ve been telling people “I’m at the end of my rope”… well, I’ve basically fallen off now. I got 3 hours of sleep last night in my car. I have no idea where I’ll sleep tonight… if its in my car again, then at least I’ll get more than 3 hours of sleep, bc I’m dead tired. I slept from 4 am to 7am.

I called a 24 hour hotline last night, and they gave me numbers to homeless shelters to sleep in… That’s where I am.

And, I’ve been here before. This is how bad my relationship is with my dad. If I fail, he won’t help me. And, my mom lives very far away. And… I think my friends have done about all they can do, not knowing how dire my situation is.

But, it is dire.​

Unless a genuine miracle happens (I’m serious), then my second chance at college, that I waited for for 6 months, to come back to college, will be dead. This has all happened so fast. But, not having anywhere to live, not having internet (I’m in the public library, the public library has been my sole source of internet for the last month). This takes its toll. It has taken its toll on me.

I’m running out of clean clothes… as I have no way to really wash them, unless I stay at a friend’s place. Which… the one friend I have who I’ve told everything to, his house is full. And my other friends have already helped me.

I scheduled an appointment at a counseling center, that is on Monday, June 2nd. I don’t know if I’ll be able to go to that.

My life is completely up in the air. This world just chews me up and spits me out.

I have nowhere to go. I have tried, and failed to find somewhere to live. So… I do not live anywhere. Yes, I am basically homeless. And, who knows, maybe I’ll break down, and ask to sleep there tonight?​

I’ve tried to be concise here… but… its a terrible situation.

The last 7-10 days of my life has probably 3 or 4 good contenders for “worst day of my life”. Last night was the first time I’ve had to sleep in my car out of necessity though, and not like a camping trip/ travelling thing…

Who should I call? Who will refer me to someone to help me? Do you think there is a Catholic family out there who might have me stay with them, while I try to sort out my life?

Idk how it came to this… but, as I mentioned. This is actually not the first time I’ve been here…

**I need help, I am helpless. **

Am I giving up? Idk. I cannot succeed in college, if I don’t have a place to live. And, I don’t. And, I’ve tried for a month, actually well over a month. I had a place lined up in April. … Here I am, May 28th.

Absolutely alone. I need a Catholic community or something to flee to. I cannot “help myself”. I really need help. And, that help basically needs to be Catholic.

Advice?
 
P.S. Literally every internet search that I do, one what to do in my situation is from the U.K.

Idk… apparently they provide ppl with housing when they’re in crisis mode… But yeah… why does this have to happen to me? Everyone else has things way more figured out than me. Is going to class, and living at a homeless shelter temporarily feasible? I mean… I srsly need some place to go. Preferably where I can take showers, and do laundry. I can’t live in my car bc its so hot out, and… cmon… idk about the homeless shelter… I’m not legitimately homeless.

I just have nowhere to go. And, our society doesn’t seem to have answers for my predicament…
 
If you are in the Chicago area, please send me a PM.

Otherwise, you will be in my prayers.
 
Find the nearest Catholic parish and go there. Talk to the priest. He should be familiar with what resources are available in your local area (and maybe he would know a good Catholic couple who would be able to give you a hand). That’s where I would start.

You are in my prayers.
 
ssa fellow
Do you have the $$ for lodging, and you just can’t coordinate a place for various reasons? Or do you not have $$ either?
Are you enrolled in / committed to a college / school / university? Do they have some office of student living, something like that?
Have you tried looking around on campus, or nearby campuses, to see if there are any notices of apartments to share, rooms to rent, etc? That’s how I found things. There may be people looking to sublet their place for the summer, as well.
Good luck – - I will say a prayer for you! I’m in a public library too, just on the other side of the desk. Across the pond, as they say. 🙂
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
Praying for your intentions. Is there Catholic Charities office in your area you can contact?
 
ssa_fellow said:
… Last night I slept in my car. This is because I ran out of friends who would take me in last night. Admittedly, I didn’t try that hard, bc I’ve been squatting at people’s places for the whole month of May. And, I’ve been trying to move into an apartment.

Anyways, this is my second chance at college. And, once again, my dad can pay for it, but he’s still just sending me down here by myself, and its up to me to get a place to live, etc. Well, I had a place lined up, and it fell through.

I’m posting this here, bc I really need advice more than prayers. I’ve been telling people “I’m at the end of my rope”… well, I’ve basically fallen off now. I got 3 hours of sleep last night in my car. I have no idea where I’ll sleep tonight… if its in my car again, then at least I’ll get more than 3 hours of sleep, bc I’m dead tired. I slept from 4 am to 7am.

I called a 24 hour hotline last night, and they gave me numbers to homeless shelters to sleep in… That’s where I am.

And, I’ve been here before. This is how bad my relationship is with my dad. If I fail, he won’t help me. And, my mom lives very far away. And… I think my friends have done about all they can do, not knowing how dire my situation is.

But, it is dire.​

Unless a genuine miracle happens (I’m serious), then my second chance at college, that I waited for for 6 months, to come back to college, will be dead. This has all happened so fast. But, not having anywhere to live, not having internet (I’m in the public library, the public library has been my sole source of internet for the last month). This takes its toll. It has taken its toll on me.

I’m running out of clean clothes… as I have no way to really wash them, unless I stay at a friend’s place. Which… the one friend I have who I’ve told everything to, his house is full. And my other friends have already helped me.

I scheduled an appointment at a counseling center, that is on Monday, June 2nd. I don’t know if I’ll be able to go to that.

My life is completely up in the air. This world just chews me up and spits me out.

I have nowhere to go. I have tried, and failed to find somewhere to live. So… I do not live anywhere. Yes, I am basically homeless. And, who knows, maybe I’ll break down, and ask to sleep there tonight?​

I’ve tried to be concise here… but… its a terrible situation.

The last 7-10 days of my life has probably 3 or 4 good contenders for “worst day of my life”. Last night was the first time I’ve had to sleep in my car out of necessity though, and not like a camping trip/ travelling thing…

Who should I call? Who will refer me to someone to help me? Do you think there is a Catholic family out there who might have me stay with them, while I try to sort out my life?

Idk how it came to this… but, as I mentioned. This is actually not the first time I’ve been here…

**I need help, I am helpless. **

Am I giving up? Idk. I cannot succeed in college, if I don’t have a place to live. And, I don’t. And, I’ve tried for a month, actually well over a month. I had a place lined up in April. … Here I am, May 28th.

Absolutely alone. I need a Catholic community or something to flee to. I cannot “help myself”. I really need help. And, that help basically needs to be Catholic.

Advice?
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The homeless shelter you’re staying at should have caseworkers, or should be able to direct you to social services that can help get you back on your feet. Your counsellor should be able to help you as well. You are more fortunate than most people having a car for shelter. Some homeless shelter have laundry facilities.
 
I’m in England u.k so can only pray for you. Do take the advice given earlier to go to your nearest Catholic Church and tell the Priest all about your difficulties. Similarly, contact the college and explain to them how things are.
God be with you and guide you at this time of fear. You are not alone.
 
I agree with the other posters- find a nearby Catholic Church and speak to the pastor, parish nurse or whomever about resources in your state. They should be able to direct you to Catholic Charities or a Christian charity who can help you. Praying for you…
 
Right… so… in my OP, I freaked out a little too much. Because I slept in my car, I assumed that my friends had finally had enough of me. Well, I slept at one of my friends’ place yesterday. And, there are at least 3 ppl in my life who know what’s going on…

Still. My problems remain that I don’t really have anywhere to live. I’d appreciate any and all prayers.

As I did say in the OP, and which hasn’t been much focused on, is that I have scheduled an appointment to get counseling. When problems come my way, at least these past few weeks, I have met them with irrational thought processes, etc. At least I know that. … Anyways, yeah… please pray for me.

I think I’ll make a thread in the prayer intentions forum now. I’ve got friends who look to be determined to see me through these trials of my life. I myself, am frankly done with them. “When you fall you should get back up”… well, I’m having a difficult problem getting up right now…
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women,
and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Mother of God, spread the effect of grace of Thy Flame of Love over all of humanity, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
ssa_fellow said:
Right… so… in my OP, I freaked out a little too much. Because I slept in my car, I assumed that my friends had finally had enough of me. Well, I slept at one of my friends’ place yesterday. And, there are at least 3 ppl in my life who know what’s going on…

Still. My problems remain that I don’t really have anywhere to live. I’d appreciate any and all prayers.

As I did say in the OP, and which hasn’t been much focused on, is that I have scheduled an appointment to get counseling. When problems come my way, at least these past few weeks, I have met them with irrational thought processes, etc. At least I know that. … Anyways, yeah… please pray for me.

I think I’ll make a thread in the prayer intentions forum now. I’ve got friends who look to be determined to see me through these trials of my life. I myself, am frankly done with them. “When you fall you should get back up”… well, I’m having a difficult problem getting up right now…
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It’s good to hear that you have friends who are going to be there for you. That is a huge blessing. I will keep you in my prayers.
 
I hope you are praying too. All our prayers won’t matter much if you are not praying too. Whenever I am in a stressful situation I turn to Jesus, I use my Faith and I tell Him I can’t handle the situation, He will have to do it. (He does it anyway) What is faith if you don’t practice it? I tell my own son this, but he is slow to believe me, and has to find out the hard way. Christ is our Savior, and He loves us, let Him prove it to you. Maybe he put you in this situation so that you could discover Him, only you and Him know your private life, and maybe you have to make some serious adjustments. And also to learn the truth about life and your priorities. God compassionate you , and help you in your trials.
 
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