Help...? Is this okay?

[iamverycurioustoknow]

So, I am non religious but my boyfriend is Catholic. I respect that he must wait until marriage to become more intimate with me, I love him very much and I would like to know what is considered “too far”. Is kissing (in a non sexual way) like on the forehead, neck, etc. okay? Is it a mortal sin?

 

[1ke]

If you would not do it in front of his parents or your parents then it is “too far”. Chaste kissing is fine. Holding hands is fine.

 

[JetteZ]

I did say “likely”.

Statistics are wonderful and, remarkably, there are stats on these things… look them up.

Yeah, stats are a wonderful thing. I’m not sure where yours are coming from but these are from the the Journal of Family Psychology (a peer reviewed academic journal):


Men and women who waited until after marriage across the board report better communication, sexual quality, relationship satisfaction and perceived stability than their peers who did not.

Now, maybe those who are waiting are just better at relationships overall and it has nothing to do with sex; however, abstinence clearly does not equate with an unsatisfactory sex life after marriage.

 

[JetteZ]

Now, as to the OP - (assuming y’all are adults) talk to your boyfriend.

I don’t disagree with the prior posters and I highly encourage you to do some reading and soul-searching on the benefits of delaying sexual intimacy and how you and your body should be respected as the God made awesomeness that it is (him too!).

That said, being able to talk about intimate matters is an important part of a relationship and understanding his perspective while you do some reading on your own would help now and with any married partner you may have in the future.

 

[ATraveller]

We clueless religious folks must remember it’s not scientific evidence even if the study is peer-reviewed and similar results appear in other studies because it doesn’t fit the hedonistic narrative.