Help me Please!

[recentlyBack]

Hello,

I recently came back to the faith in December.

The reason i came back to the faith was because of the ProLife movement and realised that catholic morality is infact the truth.

previously i was involved in homosexuality, pornography and sins of the flesh.

I was able to quit my pornography habits for about 2 months however they kept on coming back and i feel that i am committing the same sin over and over.

I am receiving the Eucharist a couple of time a week and am always going to confession. However always find myself falling.

i recieved Communion today and went to confession however i came back home and started looking at porn again. I thought receiving the Eucharist is supposed to stop this?

Sometimes i feel i have no faith and am just doing this stuff for the sake of it. I’m trying hard. Going to adoration. doing my rosary. doing mental prayer.

Can you please advice me on what i can do?

 

[Nita]

Get rid of any printed porn material, or even suggestive material. Start reading some religious materials. There are some very interesting saints lives. Try a biography of Padre Pio. You have to find other GOOD things to do during your free hours – good things to fill the hours you would otherwise spend sinning.

Place a crucifix (not just a cross) on top of your TV and another one right in front or beside your computer screen. (You can get them with a base so that they can stand up.) Get a picture of Mary and place that in the area also.

Check into blocking porn sites on your computer (and TV).

If the above suggestions aren’t sufficient, and you’re really serious about trying your best to conquer this sin, then get rid of the computer (and TV). Keeping easy access to porn in your home would be like an alcoholic keeping a stocked liquor cabinet in his home while trying to stop drinking!

Habits are not broken quickly. Occasionally God may miraculously cure someone of bad habits, but most times He requires us to work and put forth effort also. Continue to go to Confession and Mass, and rid your home of temptations.

 

[MS_SURVEYOR]

It’s really hard. You just have to keep trying to stop with prayer and self will power. Get a Rosary. Start praying it every day. Ask The Blessed Virgin Mary to help.

***Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.

Amen***

 

[JRKH]

Hello,

I recently came back to the faith in December.

The reason i came back to the faith was because of the ProLife movement and realised that catholic morality is in fact the truth.

Welcome Home

previously i was involved in homosexuality, pornography and sins of the flesh.

I was able to quit my pornography habits for about 2 months however they kept on coming back and i feel that i am committing the same sin over and over.

This is not an uncommon problem so take a deep breath and be patient with yourself…
As the old saying goes, the fact that you know there is a problem is half way to resolving it.

I am receiving the Eucharist a couple of time a week and am always going to confession. However always find myself falling.

i recieved Communion today and went to confession however i came back home and started looking at porn again. I thought receiving the Eucharist is supposed to stop this?

Here is where I believe we have the disconnect…The Sacraments supply us with grace, but without our own effort in response to that grace, we will remain weak and liable to falling.
Grace is like a bath full of warm clean water…But if you don’t get in and do the actual scrubbing, you don’t get clean.
Or
Grace is like a wonderfully laid out diet and exercise plan that is sure to work, but if you do not resist the bad food and if you do not undertake the exercise, the plan will do you no good.

Sometimes i feel i have no faith and am just doing this stuff for the sake of it. I’m trying hard. Going to adoration. doing my rosary. doing mental prayer.
Can you please advice me on what i can do?

Nita has given some wonderful advice above.
Yet - as I’m sure you know - even doing things like getting rid of printed stuff and erasing porn sites from your computer etc…will not prevent the temptation to go back and get more.
That is why one must replace the bad habits with good ones.
Spiritual reading is good.
Volunteering at come charitable task is good.
Adoration and praying the rosary are good.
Keep these things up.

Perhaps the biggest thing to remember is that breaking these old habits and temptations and replacing them with new healthier ones is an ongoing process. Sort of like the dieting reference I made above. It takes commitment, a recognition that you will fall, a willingness to get up again, and the patience to know that improvement will come incrementally - but it WILL come.
Like the addict or the person trying to lose weight, you must take it one minute, one hour, one day at a time.

Do not despair…Jesus is there with you.

Peace
James

 

[St_Francis]

There is a story, maybe in The Way of a Pilgrim, about a soldier who had to quit drinking. A holy man recommended to him that each time he felt like drinking he should read just one chapter of the Gospels. Then if he still felt like drinking, he should read just one more. And so on… Sometimes when I think, oh, this will be forever! it is too overwhelming, but when I think, ok, I am just putting it off *for now, *that I can do–it’s doable

This book is very helpful in having a holy attitude towards sin: online (make it your homepage!) or you can get it easily as it is still in print. St Francis de Sales carried it around in his pocket all his life!

 

[Hansel_Paul]

Prayer Against the Sins of the Flesh:
Jesus said this to a visionary:

(“Do you know that I was naked in the sight of all men so that you shall defeat and kill the desires of the flesh which lead to this sin of fornication and adultery? Children, my adversary used this sin to claim all men to himself — Any sinner who constantly prays this prayer will gain true repentance — The more you pray it the more many will return to me and leave fornication and adultery. Many people will be lost due to the sins of the flesh. Work hard to save souls —”)
…

Prayer:
Holy and Merciful Father, Your only-begotten Son is standing naked in the sight of all men, so that Your people will know and fear Your Holy Law. Accept my humble prayer for all Your people who are living under iniquity, fornication and adultery, that through all the shame and disgrace of Your only-begotten Son, You will touch their lives for repentance and save them. May they, through the Precious Blood of Your Son Jesus Christ, which I plead to fall on their hearts, gain repentance and be saved and through His shame make them bold for repentance. Amen.

Think of Jesus who was naked on the cross dying,bleeding,scourged,wounded,and his skin torn and shred to pieces and exposing bones.He died because of our sins,and most importantly because he loved us all.

Prayer to take Authority:

IN THE NAME OF JESUS, I TAKE AUTHORITY AND I BIND ALL THE POWERS AND FORCES IN THE AIR, IN THE GROUND, IN THE WATER, IN THE UNDERGROUND, IN THE NETHERWORLD, IN NATURE AND IN FIRE. YOU ARE THE LORD OVER THE ENTIRE UNIVERSE AND I GIVE YOU THE GLORY FOR YOUR CREATION. IN YOUR NAME, I BIND ALL DEMONIC FORCES THAT HAVE COME AGAINST US AND OUR FAMILIES AND I SEAL ALL OF US IN THE PROTECTION OF YOUR PRECIOUS BLOOD THAT WAS SHED FOR US ON THE CROSS.

MARY OUR MOTHER, WE SEEK YOUR PROTECTION AND INTERCESSION, WITH THE SACRED HEART OF JESUS, FOR US AND OUR FAMILIES AND SURROUND US WITH YOUR MANTLE OF LOVE TO DISCOURAGE THE ENEMY.

ST. MICHAEL AND OUR GUARDIAN ANGELS, COME DEFEND US AND OUR FAMILIES IN BATTLE AGAINST ALL THE EVIL ONES THAT ROAM THE EARTH.

IN THE NAME OF JESUS, I BIND AND COMMAND ALL THE POWERS AND FORCES OF EVIL TO DEPART RIGHT NOW AWAY FROM US, OUR FAMILIES, OUR HOMES, AND OUR LANDS AND I CAST YOU AT THE FOOT OF THE CROSS TO REMAIN THERE FOREVER. AND I THANK YOU LORD JESUS FOR YOU ARE A FAITHFUL AND COMPASSIONATE GOD, AMEN.

 

[Hansel_Paul]

Rosary of Liberation
You are recommended to recite the Rosary of Liberation for experiencing deliverance from various bondages like sin, satanic powers, bad habits, financial crisis, family problems etc., It is said in the Bible " She will bear a Son, and you shall call his name JESUS, for He will SAVE His people from their sins".( Matthew 1:21) Jesus is the Saviour. Therefore the name Jesus is not a noun form alone, it is also a verb denoting an action which means when you utter the name JESUS you are proclaiming and praying “God save me and all others from our sins”.
Jesus said “Truly, truly, I say to you, everyone who commits sin is slave to sin. The slave doesn’t continue in the house forever; the Son continues forever. So, If the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed”. (John 8:34-36)
"As He drew near to Jericho, a blind man was sitting by the roadside begging; and hearing the multitude going by he inquired what this meant. They told him, “Jesus of Nazareth is passing by”. And he cried "Jesus. Son of David, have mercy on me……. and Jesus said to him “Receive you sight; your faith has made you well”. And immediately he received his sight and followed him glorifying God; and all the people, when they saw it gave praise to God. (Luke 18: 35-43)

When we recite the Rosary of liberation, claim the promise of Jesus as we see in the Bible.
Jesus is the Saviour (Matthew 1:21)
Jesus is the Healer (Mark 1: 32-34)
He is the Liberator (John 8:36)
Jesus is the God of Mercy (Luke 18:38)
Jesus said “Ask and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock and it will be opened to you”. (Matthew 7:7)
I claim this promise and say…………
1.Recite the Apostle’s Creed at the Triangle of the Rosary
I believe in God, the Father Almighty, Creator of Heaven and earth; and in Jesus Christ, His only Son, Our Lord, Who was conceived by the Holy Spirit, born of the Virgin Mary, suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified; died, and was buried. He descended into Hell; the third day He arose again from the dead; He ascended into Heaven and seated at the right hand of God, the Father Almighty; from thence He shall come to judge the living and the dead. I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy Catholic Church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and the life everlasting. Amen.
2. Recite the following in place of the Hail Mary
Jesus have mercy on me
Jesus heal me
Jesus save me
Jesus free me
3. Recite the following in place of the Our Father
If Jesus makes me free
I will be free indeed
4. Recite the Hail Holy Queen
Hail, Holy Queen, Mother of Mercy. Hail, our life, or sweetness, and our hope. To you do we cry, poor banished children of Eve. To you do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears. Turn, then most gracious advocate, your eyes of mercy toward us and after this, our exile show unto us the blessed fruit of your womb, Jesus. O clement, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary.
If you are praying for a special person replace “me” in the prayer with the name of the “person you are praying for”.
After praying the Rosary of Liberation completely give thanks to Jesus for the Blessings that H is pouring over you and for those for whom you are interceding.
Before interceding for anybody you have to pray for yourself.
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[Hansel_Paul]

Your are made in the Image of God,and your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit.Everyday say this ‘‘Jesus is the Lord of my life’’ ‘‘And No evil forces has power over me.’’ ‘‘Jesus is my protector and defender,Jesus is my God and in Him I Trust.’’

Also say this, take your full name first then say ‘‘my name is written in the Book of Salvation by my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ’’

Always Claim Jesus as your Lord,because Satan hates when you invoke Jesus as Lord.Also before getting tempted think of Jesus naked on the cross and say ‘‘Most Precious Blood of my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ quench the flames of my lust’’

 

[Hansel_Paul]

PRAYER TO THE PRECIOUS BLOOD

LORD Jesus by faith in Your merits,
I now take Your Precious Blood
and sprinkle it over myself and my family
right from the crown of my head to the very soles of my feet.
I claim total and complete protection for my life and my family.
Lord Jesus, keep me free today from evil, sin, temptation,
Satan’s attacks and afflictions,
fear of darkness, fear of man,
sickness, diseases, doubts, anger, all calamities
and from all that is not of Your Kingdom.

Fill me Lord Jesus with the gifts of Your Holy Spirit
and grant me the gifts of wisdom, knowledge, faith, understanding and discernment, so that I will live today in Your Glory by doing what is right.

I praise You Jesus, I thank You Jesus,

I love You Jesus, I adore You Jesus.

 

[Hansel_Paul]

Prayer of Salvation (Renew Faith in Jesus Christ)
Lord Jesus come into my heart. I desire that you be the Lord of my life, so that I may be a Child of the Light, to know you as my personal Savior- for I know and believe that you died on the cross for my sings. You rose again from the dead on the third day and you are coming again in glory.
I believe in your forgiveness and I desire that You help me to refrain from any temptations that would keep me separated from Your everlasting love. Amen

 

[Hansel_Paul]

God Bless You and Make Jesus the Lord of Your Life Always and Forever.

 

[Hansel_Paul]

ARMOR OF GOD

Good Morning, Father! Good Morning, Jesus! Good Morning, Holy Spirit!

Today Heavenly Father, according to Your Word, I present my body a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable in Your sight. Because I am not contending against flesh and blood, but against principalities, powers, world rulers of this present darkness and spiritual hosts of wickedness in heavenly places, I take the whole armor of God so that I may be able to withstand in the evil day. So today I stand and gird my loins with truth. I put on the breastplate of righteousness. I shod my feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace. Above all these, I take the shield of faith to quench ALL the flaming darts of the evil one. I take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God. I pray at ALL times in the Spirit with ALL prayer and supplication for ALL God’s family and for me that I may open my mouth boldly TO PROCLAIM THE GOSPEL. The weapons of my warfare are not worldly but have divine power to destroy strongholds. Today I destroy arguments and EVERY proud obstacle to the knowledge of God and take EVERY thought captive to OBEY Christ. Thank you, Father, that according to Your Word the glory of the Lord is my rear guard. I praise You and thank You for the armor of light You’ve provided for me this day. I am completely covered now. Upon Jesus I have built my life. The gates of hell shall not prevail against me. Jesus, I apply Your Precious Blood to my life, my family, my home, and all my possessions. You are my Shepherd and I shall not want. For You have supplied ALL my needs according to Your riches in glory. I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me. I praise You for walking in divine health, for You are my God who heals ALL my diseases. I praise You and thank You for my prosperity and good health even as my soul prospers. For the joy of the Lord is my strength. Father, I have prayed according to Your Word. You said You would watch over Your Word to perform it. I am reminded that every word spoken becomes a living thing - either to minister life or death and destruction. Lord Jesus, let my meditation be sweet to You as I will rejoice in You all day. Just rise up and live big within me. For I am Yours and You are mine in the Mighty Name of Jesus. Amen

 

[Ophelia23]

Hello,

I recently came back to the faith in December.

The reason i came back to the faith was because of the ProLife movement and realised that catholic morality is infact the truth.

previously i was involved in homosexuality, pornography and sins of the flesh.

I was able to quit my pornography habits for about 2 months however they kept on coming back and i feel that i am committing the same sin over and over.

I am receiving the Eucharist a couple of time a week and am always going to confession. However always find myself falling.

i recieved Communion today and went to confession however i came back home and started looking at porn again. I thought receiving the Eucharist is supposed to stop this?

Sometimes i feel i have no faith and am just doing this stuff for the sake of it. I’m trying hard. Going to adoration. doing my rosary. doing mental prayer.

Can you please advice me on what i can do?

Welcome back to the faith! I hope and pray you are finding yourself embraced by Christ fully, and I pray that members of His flock are greeting you with open and loving arms!!

Please remember this. A saint is just a sinner who falls down but gets back up again. You will continue to stumble and fall, but you need to continually pick yourself back up and try again, even if it is a lifetime of falling and rising. The addiction you are struggling with is a strong one that many find incredibly difficult to kick. But through reception of the sacraments and much prayer, you will be able to do this. You CAN do this.

You may want to read some of St. Augustine. If you are newer to theological reading, I would suggest an abridged version of ‘The Confessions’. He was so weak in the flesh in his youth. His love of women and pleasure was practically beyond measure… his famous prayer is “Lord, make me chaste… but not yet.” His spirit wanted healing, but letting go of the pleasures the flesh has to offer was a daunting thought for him. I am sure you are able to relate.

God love you. I am so happy and excited for you, and I KNOW you will be able to do this. Remember that even in Pornography, you are watching a real person; A real child of God who was created by Him with love. Through prayer and through sacrament you too will learn to look on others with Love.

 

[Lady_Love]

Recently back,

I am so grateful that you have responded to Jesus calling you. It sounds a bit like you may have an addiction. I have struggled with addictions in my life and I know how hard it can be. You are doing such a good thing just to even enter the battle against that which enslaves you.

When it comes to any addiction it is important to know that the “desire” has its source in our NEED for God’s love. When we seek that love from a source other than God we find ourselves addicted, lonely, unfulfilled, deprived of dignity, shameful etc.

What I found extremely healing for me was “Naked Without Shame” the Theology on the Body. Having the right context around sex helps overcome so much of the addiction and prevents you from feeling unnecessary guilt. You, my friend, are desiring INTIMACY. This is a good thing.

God is calling you to deeper intimacy with him and you have responded by returning to the Eucharist. What a glorious thing!

I do have to make an analogy here. Jesus is the spouse of our souls and bodies. We were made for him. So imagine you are married and your spouse has an affair. You are broken-hearted and devastated. Your spouse says, “I still want to be with you. I don’t want to leave, please forgive me and let me stay.” You say “Yes because you so love your spouse.” But then, your spouse has another affair, comes back, has another affair, comes back, etc… How wounded would you be at this point? Think about what you might think or feel in this situation? Does my spouse really love me? Jealousy, Insanity, Sorrow unimaginable, Anger, Heartbreak, depression, and fear. :crying: Jesus is human after all.

Jesus wants your whole heart and body to belong to Him.

 

[TomD123]

Hello,

I recently came back to the faith in December.
Excellent!
The reason i came back to the faith was because of the ProLife movement and realised that catholic morality is infact the truth.

previously i was involved in homosexuality, pornography and sins of the flesh.

I was able to quit my pornography habits for about 2 months however they kept on coming back and i feel that i am committing the same sin over and over.

I am receiving the Eucharist a couple of time a week and am always going to confession. However always find myself falling.

i recieved Communion today and went to confession however i came back home and started looking at porn again. I thought receiving the Eucharist is supposed to stop this?
The sacraments aren’t magic, they work with your free will and they often work over time
Sometimes i feel i have no faith and am just doing this stuff for the sake of it. I’m trying hard. Going to adoration. doing my rosary. doing mental prayer.
Keep working hard!!! God appreciates the effort more than anything else

Can you please advice me on what i can do?

First of all, I would like to say that everyone who has posted so far has given some great advice. I don’t have a lot to add except a few tips, similar to the others:

1. Say your Rosary every day, not just here and there, but every day. If possible, try saying more than the 5 decades, you don’t have to do them all at once, but an entire 20 (or traditional 15) is really powerful. The Blessed Mother and St. Joseph are especially helpful when dealing with purity.
2. Wear a scapular, get it blessed
3. Join a confraternity (like the confraternity of the Holy Rosary. It is easy and free to join, it can be done online)
4. avoid occasions of sin (as stated before, tv, computer, etc. get rid of them, limit them, place holy objects around them…)
5. Get a good spiritual director and get advice from him. Practice mortifications and pennances. You can do small pennances on your own but it is best to get a good Priest for advice, and it is necessary if you want to do more serious mortificaitons
6. Recieve the sacraments as much as possible. Don’t be discouraged, just trust in the mercy of God and receive the sacraments. Go to confession whenever you fall, recieve communion daily if possible.
7. Say the 3 Hail Mary’s devotion every day: That is: cantuar.blogspot.com/2010/10/three-hail-marys-day-keeps-mortal-sin.html
8. Say the chaplet of Divine Mercy and TRUST IN THE DIVINE MERCY OF GOD. This is essential, have you ever heard of St. Faustina and her diary? Read that, it is very powerful. Get one of the Divine Mercy Images and pray in front of it. Most of all, trust in God’s infinite mercy and forgiveness.

I hope this is helpful, keep trying, and I will keep you in my prayers.
Tom

 

[504Katrin]

Hello,

I recently came back to the faith in December.

The reason i came back to the faith was because of the ProLife movement and realised that catholic morality is infact the truth.

previously i was involved in homosexuality, pornography and sins of the flesh.

I was able to quit my pornography habits for about 2 months however they kept on coming back and i feel that i am committing the same sin over and over.

I am receiving the Eucharist a couple of time a week and am always going to confession. However always find myself falling.

i recieved Communion today and went to confession however i came back home and started looking at porn again. I thought receiving the Eucharist is supposed to stop this?

Sometimes i feel i have no faith and am just doing this stuff for the sake of it. I’m trying hard. Going to adoration. doing my rosary. doing mental prayer.

Can you please advice me on what i can do?

You have no faith you say? You’re going to adoration, you pray the rosary, you pray a lot anyway, you believe that receiving communion is going to help you with your struggles, and you say that you have no faith? Really?

See, I think that first of all you need to understand that you ARE connected with God. This is because focusing on your deep and sincere relationship with God is what can ultimately help you with your struggles.

Receiving communion helps overcoming personal struggles, it helped me at least, but it took a while.