Because I know people will say it, I will preface this thread with the following things.
1.) I know what I am about to say is not Catholic, and may not even be Christian.
2.) I was specifically asked how I saw it, so saying “don’t say non-Catholic things on a Catholic board” is silly.
The idea that pain must beget more pain is a terrible idea. Applied terrestrially, It is the most certain way to ensure that the world turns into a horrible place. Applied divinely, it becomes horrific. That is Wrath incarnate.
Love is exactly the opposite. Think about the people you love. Do they ever do things that would bother you? Some even do things that hurt you. But you don’t feel obliged to hurt them back, or even wish to see them hurt, do you?
Just recently, my wife didn’t check my pockets and washed a sharpie in the laundry, ruining some of my clothes. This was a thing that hurt me, and it was because she didn’t do what she knew she was supposed to (we both know we’re both supposed to check pockets when either of us do laundry… this isn’t a “women’s role” thing). I didn’t even want to let her know, because she’d feel bad about it, and I don’t want the people I love to feel bad, unless it’s absolutely necessary for some greater good (in the above example, if it happened with increasing frequency, I would discuss it with her to get the behavior to change, but still not to make her feel bad).
Anything else is not love.
The Teaching of the Catholic Church said:
“The righteousness of retributive justice is almost instinctively admitted by every reasonable person. When misdeeds entail no suffering for the offender, when crimes pass unpunished… there arises in every human soul the irresistible conviction that something is lacking, something [is]
wrong in the arrangement of the universe…
JDaniel posted this. And I’m sure we’ve all felt it at times. But have you ever felt it about someone you loved? When they’ve done something wrong, have you ever wanted them to suffer (not just to change their behavior, but just for them to suffer)? It’s easy to feel this way about people you don’t know, and especially people you hate. But it’s impossible to feel this way about people you love.
There is no law of “conservation of pain” whereby a certain amount of pain must exist. Obviously not, because pain can keep being added to the system; people can keep doing bad things, without necessarily needing to have bad things be done to them.
Forgiveness can end pain. It can simply make it go away. And I don’t need someone else to accept my forgiveness to forgive them. I don’t know if any of you have teenage children, but they will do things that will hurt you, and they won’t be the slightest bit repentant about it at the time, but you will forgive them. Hopefully, they will later on, and apologize, but what if they died before their hormones calmed down enough for them to see reason? Would your abiding thoughts be “Man, I never did get to see her suffer for taking that money out of my wallet!” ?
…thus the scripture say nothing unclean can enter.
My problem with Heaven is that, were someone I love in hell and suffering greatly, it would make me unhappy. People say “It’s okay that people you love are suffering, you won’t know/care about it anymore. Or maybe you just won’t remember that you loved them, so you won’t care about their plight.”
You say there is nothing unclean in Heaven, and that we become perfect in Heaven, etc.
That means that the part of me that cares if loved ones are suffering is an unclean imperfection. I refuse to believe that love is unclean, or that it is an imperfection to be stripped away. That is
exactly what is implied by the statement from Aquinas that “Those who burn do not burn in vain, but rather can be observed by those in Heaven, so that the saved will feel better about the end that they’d received.” JDaniel argues that they don’t “see” the suffering, they are just “generally aware” of it. That doesn’t make it any better. I am “generally aware” of people suffering in Africa, and it doesn’t make me feel better, it makes me feel bad. I’ve heard that we won’t remember the people we loved, but again, nobody I know has been abducted into human trafficking and forced into prostitution, but that doesn’t mean I don’t care that it’s happening to people I don’t know.
I’m not saying everyone needs to get into Heaven. I understand that not everyone can be allowed in. But I am saying that there are other options than eternal torment. I have nowhere near the intellect of God, and even I can think of a few.