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I find your analogy of the petulent child interesting. … she then learns that this behavior is self destructive and unacceptable, then she changes her behavior and behaves better. This is fine, if you take the “eternal” out of it.
Changing your example to eternal damnation, we have the parent whose child who goes into her room to sulk, and the parent boards the child up inside the room forever, never allowing the child to leave no matter what.
I know C.S. Lewis says that the door to Hell is locked from the inside, but there are really two possibilities:
1.) Souls could leave, in which case hell is not eternal
2.) hell is eternal, which means souls don’t leave. Given an infinite timeline, anything that can happen will happen. Ergo, if no souls ever leave, this would mean that they don’t have the ability to leave.
Thus, either the Bible or Lewis is wrong.
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But I think this definitely means that the Catholic Church is not for me
I am a little more optimistic about possibility of squaring your own views with those of the Catholic Church.
So, it seems like you agree that my analogy of the petulant child makes some sense, but you are concerned about whether or not we can extend this to the supposed eternity of hell. I actually think we can. Your main concern seems to be
2.) hell is eternal, which means souls don’t leave. Given an infinite timeline, anything that can happen will happen. Ergo, if no souls ever leave, this would mean that they don’t have the ability to leave
Now, your argument that given infinite time, anything that can happen will doesn’t seem to me to work. If you are talking about say, drawing a lottery number, then obviously given an infinite number of draws every possible number will be drawn. So far we agree.
I don’t think you can apply this to the choices of human souls, though because human souls have free will. Perhaps they could repent, and God would forgive them if they did (which I am sure he would and is perfectly compatible with Catholic theology), but perhaps they simply
will not repent. Here is what one writer says:
Finally, it’s possible that God would permit the damned to leave hell and go to heaven but that they freely refuse to do so. It is possible that persons in hell grow only more implacable in their hatred of God as time goes on. Rather than repent and ask God for forgiveness, they continue to curse Him and reject Him. God thus has no choice but to leave them where they are. In such a case, the door to hell is locked, as John Paul Sartre said, from the inside. The damned thus choose eternal separation from God.
In short, I don’t agree with you then when we extend the petulant child analogy to eternity, that it is really a case of God slamming their door shut and barring it. On the contrary, it works perfectly well to say that the child goes into his room, slams the door and locks it. I think we can extend this to hell perfectly well, as the writer above says.
I do firmly believe that God
would forgive anyone
if they asked for it. It is simply plausible to me that some people will not.
Try an example. I don’t profess to know the state of anyone’s soul, so don’t take this too literally. But suppose Hiter dies and goes to the gates of heaven. He has a chance to admit that was wrong. But he refuses too. Like the petulant child, he would rather be miserable than have to be sorry, and so he withdraws from heaven, refusing to enter until he can have his way and all his victims have to be thrown out of heaven too.
So, we agree that his self- chosen misery should not affect the joy of the saved. But maybe we can also agree that it is possible that Hitler will never repent. That he continues to grow more and more hard-hearted, bitter, and resentful. Even though God would still forgive him if he repented. He simply refuses to do so, and so he remains in hell, with the doors locked,
from the inside.
In this way, we have a doctrine of hell that is entirely compatible with Catholic belief. Hell is eternal, but it is also understandable why it should be so, and why the saved should still be happy even though they know the damned to be in hell.
So, I don’t think that you need to be so concerned about Catholic beliefs not working for you on this issue. I will mention one more thing, though, when you say
I cannot start from the perspective that you seem to start from. You seem to be coming from (correct me if this is wrong), “This is the way the Bible says it is, therefore this is the way it is, and since the Bible is absolutely moral, this must be the moral thing, all I have to do is find the reason why it’s moral.”
Sort of, but not entirely. I used to be (in my high school days) something of a universalist. I knew it wasn’t official Catholic belief, (but I think the Church is more flexible than you think it is), but I had a hard time thinking that God would not give people more chances to repent (and of course, I assumed that eventually they would). I am not now a universalist, not because my views on God changed. I still think he would forgive even the devil if he would repent, but my views on human nature changed. It became too plausible too me that some people at least would not repent, no matter how many chances God gave them.