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Chris_W
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In highschool I found myself among the group of kids who nowadays would be considered Goth I suppose. I was rebelling, as your sister is. Here are my reasons, and you can see if they might apply to your sister:
Don’t laugh, but country music snapped me out of it. I had an unpopular farmer friend who was my old gradeschool buddy. I noticed he wasn’t all hip and cool, yet he was self confident. That’s what I perceived (right or wrong) the country music liefstyle promoted. Pride, self worth, ‘screw them if they don’t like it’ attitude, etc. And yet I could still be a good kid while living it. It was my out. I could identify with it.
Okay, so here’s my suggestion:
Get with your parents and figure a way to help your sister re-invent herself into something she likes. Chances are she doesn’t like what she’s becoming any more than you do. You said “*She says she can’t believe in a religion that is intolerant of people, an example she gave is homosexuality, but yet, one thing she oftens likes to say, is that she hates everybody in the world, and really has no friends” * That’s the jackpot info I think.
Perhaps it means changing schools, buying new clothes for her, making one of her new rules be that she MUST come up with one extracurricular activity that she enjoys…and then promoting the heck out of her doing it.
It’s a cry for help. I get a lump in my throat thinking about how I felt back then. Oh, how I wish someone would have helped me reinvent myself back then.
Gotta go, I’m at work and getting teary eyed.
- I entered highschool without a strong sense of identity. I had to decide who I would be seen as in school. I tried out for sports and wasn’t good enough. I was quite academic but didn’t want to be considered part of what I considered the nerdy honor role kids. The drama folks were too odd for me. I had enough morality to not want to be the partier sex crazed type. I was somewhat intraverted and shy and lacked a good self esteem.
- I came from a rather strict Catholic home (what seemed strict in comparison to other kids anyway). I felt too controlled. I felt like I was not enabled to make decisions that affected me. I wanted to grow up and have control and felt I had none.
Don’t laugh, but country music snapped me out of it. I had an unpopular farmer friend who was my old gradeschool buddy. I noticed he wasn’t all hip and cool, yet he was self confident. That’s what I perceived (right or wrong) the country music liefstyle promoted. Pride, self worth, ‘screw them if they don’t like it’ attitude, etc. And yet I could still be a good kid while living it. It was my out. I could identify with it.
Okay, so here’s my suggestion:
Get with your parents and figure a way to help your sister re-invent herself into something she likes. Chances are she doesn’t like what she’s becoming any more than you do. You said “*She says she can’t believe in a religion that is intolerant of people, an example she gave is homosexuality, but yet, one thing she oftens likes to say, is that she hates everybody in the world, and really has no friends” * That’s the jackpot info I think.
Perhaps it means changing schools, buying new clothes for her, making one of her new rules be that she MUST come up with one extracurricular activity that she enjoys…and then promoting the heck out of her doing it.
It’s a cry for help. I get a lump in my throat thinking about how I felt back then. Oh, how I wish someone would have helped me reinvent myself back then.
Gotta go, I’m at work and getting teary eyed.