Help needed!

[Meggie18]

I need advice

I’m pretty sure that I committed a mortal sin. I’m not entirely convinced about whether or not it actually *is *one, because I’ve read different interpretations on the subject, but still, I knew that what I was doing was bad and I did it anyway. I feel like the devil is pushing me to do something and that I lack the courage not to follow him. It’s a terrible feeling. I don’t know what to do to never make that mistake again.

I asked Jesus for forgiveness, but I’m under the impression that He hates me, because I often made the same mistake. I don’t feel His love. I cried and I sobbed and I asked Him to forgive me and I prayed for the courage to never fail Him in that area again, but I still feel horrible. I cannot go to confession, because I know my parish priest too well and I’m afraid that I will be even more ashamed after admitting my sin to him. In fact, I just don’t think that I am ready, now, to speak about that sin to anyone. I will faint or something. What can I do? I’m afraid I’m going to hell!

 

[Nelka]

I need advice

I’m pretty sure that I committed a mortal sin. I’m not entirely convinced about whether or not it actually *is *one, because I’ve read different interpretations on the subject, but still, I knew that what I was doing was bad and I did it anyway. I feel like the devil is pushing me to do something and that I lack the courage not to follow him. It’s a terrible feeling. I don’t know what to do to never make that mistake again.

I asked Jesus for forgiveness, but I’m under the impression that He hates me, because I often made the same mistake. I don’t feel His love. I cried and I sobbed and I asked Him to forgive me and I prayed for the courage to never fail Him in that area again, but I still feel horrible. I cannot go to confession, because I know my parish priest too well and I’m afraid that I will be even more ashamed after admitting my sin to him. In fact, I just don’t think that I am ready, now, to speak about that sin to anyone. I will faint or something. What can I do? I’m afraid I’m going to hell!

The best thing you can do if you think you may have committed a mortal or grave or venial sin is go to confession, don’t sit and worry just go but make sure you know what that sin is in regards to mortal or not for the future.

Jesus will never hate you.

He will always forgive you if you ask for it.

The priest won’t judge you but if this is stopping you can you go to a different church for confession?

I worry when I am too in a state of mortal sin and my focus is asking for forgiveness, confession and communion followed by prayers.

Divine Mercy of Jesus to St. Faustina

When you approach the confessional, know this, that I Myself am waiting there for you. I am only hidden by the priest, but I myself act in your soul. Here the misery of the soul meets the God of mercy. (1602)

 

[Philotheatoo]

Meggie, read your thread. REALLY READ it. Look at how terribly you are hurting YOURSELF. If you cannot stop for Jesus, who was tortured and put to death for you; can you stop for YOU? Can you stop hurting yourself? It doesn’t matter if the Catechism technically states it is a mortal sin ~ what matters is that it is that serious a sin for YOU. You must confess to a priest and don’t ever believe that Jesus will forgive EVERYTHING. There are things we can do which will cause our own soul to be cast to hell. Jesus will always, always love you, as will God, who, by the way, cries when you hurt yourself. Man was created in the PERFECT image ~ it is what we are called to become, perfect as our Father. The closer we get, the better. If you can, try to schedule a FACE to FACE, one on one, confession with a priest outside of your parish. When you look at the priest and finally get the words out, admitting what you have done, it will be the best medicine to help you to keep from doing it again.

I do not know what the sin is but, prayer is the only garuntee to rid you of this problem. What I do to keep from thinking too much about sex is, I thank God for creating in me an appreciation for lovemaking and for creating in me the feelings appreciation for a man and then I ask Him to help me to purify my thoughts.

When I am able to pray as soon as my eye starts to wander, God does purify my thoughts as soon as I ask.

Good luck, Meggie, you can do this.

 

[michaelmas]

Your post reminds me of myself. One of my confessors told me when I felt this way that I was limiting God by shame and the woe is me I am not worthy. This is the devil still working on you.

It takes courage to confess. The priests have in most cases heard it all before and, God bless them, they are just happy to be there for you to confess.

the Heavens rejoice over 1 sinner confessing then 100 without sin.

 

[Leegal]

I need advice

I’m pretty sure that I committed a mortal sin. I’m not entirely convinced about whether or not it actually *is *one, because I’ve read different interpretations on the subject, but still, I knew that what I was doing was bad and I did it anyway. I feel like the devil is pushing me to do something and that I lack the courage not to follow him. It’s a terrible feeling. I don’t know what to do to never make that mistake again.

I asked Jesus for forgiveness, but I’m under the impression that He hates me, because I often made the same mistake. I don’t feel His love. I cried and I sobbed and I asked Him to forgive me and I prayed for the courage to never fail Him in that area again, but I still feel horrible. I cannot go to confession, because I know my parish priest too well and I’m afraid that I will be even more ashamed after admitting my sin to him. In fact, I just don’t think that I am ready, now, to speak about that sin to anyone. I will faint or something. What can I do? I’m afraid I’m going to hell!

The priest has heard it before – whatever it was. You will find forgiveness and relief after confession. There’s no reason to delay. If you tell the priest, he can guide you through a general confession. Tell him you are unable to speak of it without some guidance. I don’t recommend this for each confession, but if you are having such a hard time verbalizing then you can ask the priest to guide you. However, you may find that once you get up the courage to go, you will be able to verbalize it.

I know you can receive forgiveness and you will feel better.

God Bless.

 

[kykid]

Meggie18, run, don’t walk, to confession. I know the feelings that you are having because I have had them as well (exorbitant shame over my sin). I can only say that the priest has heard the sin before and will not be shocked.

Realize that it is the devil who is making you feel this way. He doesn’t want you to be forgiven, but would like nothing more than for you to carry this sin around with you continuously, driving you further and further from a God who loves you.

Because of your state of mind, I would encourage you to make an appointment with your priest instead of waiting for the regular confession schedule. Get it done and the relief you will feel will amaze you. Remember that Christ is present in the confessional with you and that it is he who died for you to make atonement once and for all for your sin.

God bless.

 

[martininthefiel]

The greatest sin of all is giving-up hope.

If you confess your sins and obtain absolution, you will be forgiven. We are all sinners, imperfect images of the Father. God knows our frailty.

 

[fred_conty]

Please do not take this the wrong way, but it sounds like this is more about you than
it is about God who you say you love. If you truly love Jesus and Mary, then do
what you must do to make it up even if you need great humility to do it.
Remember, there is nothing that Jesus would ever hold against you if you ask
for his forgiveness. Beside this, listen to what St. Phillip Neri has to say:

“In trying to get rid of bad habits, it is of the greatest importance not to put off going
to confession after a fall, and also to keep to the same confessor.”

 

[willofgods]

[BIBLEDRB]Luke 17:4[/BIBLEDRB]

Jesus taught us to forgive as He forgives.

Meggie18, right now you sound like the Samaritan woman at Jacob’s well. Just like her, you seem to think He’ll judge you for a sin you repeat (she got divorced 5 times). And just like her, “You adore that which you know not”. You love Jesus with all your heart, it shows!, but you seem to not understand/know just who He really is. He loves you, Meggie, even though He knows **exactly **how weak you are, and that sometimes you leave His side (just like Peter), He still plans for you to be with HIM in Heaven.

Remember the parable of the persistent old woman and the unjust judge.
Keep on praying to the Lord that you will have more courage and grace to leave the ways of sin and run in the paths of Christian perfection.
Keep on praying that you do “feel His love”.
If you yourself aren’t ready for confession and fear you “will faint or something”, pray that your guardian angel will hold your hand and support you while you stand in line for absolution.
If you are persistent with your prayers to God, He will hear you, and give you what you need.

After a particularly personal confession, I realized that confession isn’t so much about confessing our sins, as much as it is a way to patch ourselves up so that the grace we need to “go and sin no more” won’t leak out.

Consider that the sacrament we’re talking about has four names; confession is just one of them.

Read this from the Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC 1491)

The sacrament of Penance is a whole consisting in three actions of the penitent and the priest’s absolution. The penitent’s acts are repentance, confession or disclosure of sins to the priest, and the** intention to make reparation** and do works of reparation.

Certainly you are capable of 2/3 out of this. You’re just once step away.

Considering that you have “often made the same mistake”…as I heard on the radio “Would you prefer to make new mistakes?”
Another name for confession, reconciliation, comes from the Latin re- + conciliare ‘bring together.’ So it means to bring us together with Him again…and again…and again. It’s REconciliation for a reason. If Jesus knew we would not be prone to sinning repeatedly, he would have not given us the sacrament of penance.

[SIGN]JESUS LOVES YOU!!![/SIGN]

 

[EmeraldWings]

Your priest won’t think badly of you for confessing, don’t let that kind of fear stop you, because on the contrary, to admit to our sins before another person is a very humble act, and your priest will think more highly of you, even if it seems like to terrible a sin to mention, it’s most likely one he’s heard a thousand times before, and don’t forget, that’s what he’s there for, the bulk of a priests vocation is confession, and he’s there for you not as a friend, but a shepherd, so don’t let your friendship with him get in the way of saving your soul,
but also keep in mind, priests never reveal what they hear in confession, not even to save their own life…
confession is an act of humility, it’s a very humbling thing to kneel before another person and confess that you are a sinner, but in this case you are also kneeling before Jesus Christ, who is the victim of your sins, you are going to Him to say you are sorry, and beg for pardon, confession seems so easy when you think of all the ways he may have required us to receive forgiveness, such as standing up before your whole church and confessing…or walking across burning coals…but instead you get to go into a little dark box, and quietly confess your sins to a priest, who is bound by the seal of confession never to reveal your sins to anyone…
i guess the question you have to ask yourself is, how sorry are you? what are you willing to do to be forgiven? confession is not just saying you’re sorry, but proving it by humbling yourself…
i understand how it is to go to a priest that knows you, and actually, you are not required to do that, you can go to any priest you want…but also keep in mind, that you will get better help and advice from a priest who knows you and is familiar with your sins and weaknesses…but when your immortal soul is danger, don’t waste time, either go to your priest or to one you don’t know, it’s more important to just get your sanctifying grace back.

and also, never think that Jesus could hate you, that is impossible, if he died for your sins and those who committed far worse sins, then why would He hate you?
Jesus cannot hate, He is love itself, He hates the sin and loves the sinner, but just because you don’t feel it, that doesn’t mean He doesn’t love you, love is not a feeling, love is an act of the will, it is to will good to another, it is to do what is best for someone, and God always has our best interest at heart, He does what is best for us, which often means suffering, but that is what leads us to salvation, mortification and penance is what strengthens our wills and helps us to resist temptations, for example, if it is sins of the flesh you struggle with, then you should mortify yourself physically, by denying yourself certain comforts or foods you like, or by taking a cold shower once in awhile, or other uncomfortable(but not harmful) things.
the fact that you’re freaking out over this should tell you that something’s wrong, because when we sin, we should still maintain our peace, although we should be sorrowful for our sins, but if despair creeps in, that means you’re not handling it right(if at all),
the right way to handle sin, is at the moment we realize we have sinned, to first beg pardon, resolve not to do it again, do some penance, go to confession asap if mortal, and then learn from it, think about what led you into the sin, and try to avoid it from then on…or whatever you have to do not to fall into that sin again,
God brings good out of evil, even our sins, and two things that can be brought out of your sins just to name a couple, are humility, and learning how not to do it again…your sins should humble you because they show you how weak you really are, and how completely dependent on God you are, that’s why you must pray at the moment of every temptation, no matter how big or small it is, by not asking for Gods help you are saying “i can handle this on my own” which is pride, and at which point God lets you fall, to teach you that you do nothing without His grace,
you must learn from your mistakes, and make a good examination of conscience every night…

and no matter how many times you fall, as long as you just keep getting up again and are sincere in wanting to amend your life, then God will not get “fed up” with you, because God is not so much displeased with those who fall by weakness, as he is with those who fall on purpose and don’t care…

perhaps this will help you - gaiaonline.com/guilds/viewforum.php?f=211197
since you didn’t say what sin you’re struggling with, look through that page, particularly under the “Examination of conscience for adults”, and that should tell you for sure if what you’re committing is mortally sinful…but if this happens to be a sin of lust, it’s easy to tell if it’s mortally sinful, because there are no venial sins of impurity…but for whatever sin it may be, you’re sure to find it in there.

and check out these sites also, which will help you very much -
audiosancto.org/
keepthefaith.org/
fultonsheen.com/Fulton-Sheen-MP3.cfm
tanbooks.com
store.saintbenedict.com/index.php?page=shop.browse&category_id=12&option=com_virtuemart&Itemid=1&vmcchk=1&Itemid=1

ok, i’ll keep you in my prayers, hope this helps, take care.