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Rau
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Perhaps the goal is the joy and pleasure of the companionship of another.
Help please. I'm confused. What is allowed in a non marriage relationship?
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Rau
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Boy can take girl’s hand, but not the reverse?
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DarkLight
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FYI - not actually Catholic teaching (and a good way for a lot of ladies to stay single).
We’ve had the argument over women initiating or not a few dozen times on this board already, so I’m not going to go into it again, unless someone can provide me with a link to actual Catholic teaching as to why this would be so.
We’ve had the argument over women initiating or not a few dozen times on this board already, so I’m not going to go into it again, unless someone can provide me with a link to actual Catholic teaching as to why this would be so.
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DarkLight
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It’s not the vocation everyone wants or is called to - and there’s nothing in actual Catholic teaching that says the woman can’t make the first move. It’s a cultural preference, not a moral imperative.
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Xantippe
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How is he supposed to know that she likes him if she sits there like a sack of potatoes?
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mVitus
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By whether or not she has ‘eyes’ for him. (Ba-dum ching).
That was terrible but I had to say it.
Edit to add: If I ever do date, I have a feeling she’ll have to make a lot of the moves since in general I don’t think to initiate things.
That was terrible but I had to say it.
Edit to add: If I ever do date, I have a feeling she’ll have to make a lot of the moves since in general I don’t think to initiate things.
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@Xantippe,
I understand yours arguments, yet still at least disagree : I believe in an unique love in marriage and one great love in marriage after serial love affairs.
Forteen’s love there is three ends : breakup, which is painfull and not morally considered as a goal, an happy marriage, or a marriage for bad reasons : because you are in love and don’t want breakup even if it’s not your perfect match.
I don’t date in high school too, the main reason is that there is very few boy near me. But I will be for the best, because I could have end up devastated in my soul and body or end up in a bad marriage. Some boys with sexual intentions rang to the family phone but my father kich them out.
These view are mine for me, and consitant with my catholics beliefs.
I don’t say that because I’m a mother, my child is a baby. Yet I don’t want her to date. But I don’t believe how I will manage that as my husband have not do the same…
In university time, I meet a lot of men. Of course, as you said, I was completely inadequated when a man show too much interest on me and I don’t do how to manage that because I don’t know this man’s intentions, don’t want to have sex (but can’t express it because it’s a taboo and everybody do it). I was in real distress and disguss of him, Finally, my fathersave me, kick him of before a relation start… And it was the best think ever, within mouths, he moves on with a women, married soon… but was still a seductor.
Soon after that, I fall into the arms of my now-husband, without romantically dating before. My father want to kick him of too, but it’s was too late.
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I am not sure, what is the concept of dating? To go out with someone who are romantically involve and have some physical or sexual involvment?
I believe the only moral dating should be discerning marriage.
I understand yours arguments, yet still at least disagree : I believe in an unique love in marriage and one great love in marriage after serial love affairs.
Forteen’s love there is three ends : breakup, which is painfull and not morally considered as a goal, an happy marriage, or a marriage for bad reasons : because you are in love and don’t want breakup even if it’s not your perfect match.
I don’t date in high school too, the main reason is that there is very few boy near me. But I will be for the best, because I could have end up devastated in my soul and body or end up in a bad marriage. Some boys with sexual intentions rang to the family phone but my father kich them out.
These view are mine for me, and consitant with my catholics beliefs.
I don’t say that because I’m a mother, my child is a baby. Yet I don’t want her to date. But I don’t believe how I will manage that as my husband have not do the same…
In university time, I meet a lot of men. Of course, as you said, I was completely inadequated when a man show too much interest on me and I don’t do how to manage that because I don’t know this man’s intentions, don’t want to have sex (but can’t express it because it’s a taboo and everybody do it). I was in real distress and disguss of him, Finally, my fathersave me, kick him of before a relation start… And it was the best think ever, within mouths, he moves on with a women, married soon… but was still a seductor.
Soon after that, I fall into the arms of my now-husband, without romantically dating before. My father want to kick him of too, but it’s was too late.
.
I am not sure, what is the concept of dating? To go out with someone who are romantically involve and have some physical or sexual involvment?
I believe the only moral dating should be discerning marriage.
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Xantippe
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Here’s an article you might get something out of:
Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed by Thomas Umstattd
When my grandparents asked why I wasn't dating in high school, I explained courtship and quoted Joshua Harris. Their response to courtship surprised me.
www.thomasumstattd.com
I don’t agree with everything in the article, but he has a lot of good ideas.
If your daughter was invited by a boy to go to a school dance at 16, would you let her go?
I would, but I would drop her off and pick her up.
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