An idea that has given me strength to overcome lust is this: Would I be willing to teach my son that indulging in lust is good (not just permissible, but good)? Would I teach my daughter that it’s okay for guys to look at her the way I did when I looked at porn?I know this has been a long post, and I will try to wrap it up, but I want to say a few last things. First I want to say that if I said anything that offended anyone or was theologically unsound, I appologise and please please correct me. Second, for those of you who gave advise and prayers thank you so much, I have had a lit of time to figure things out and rededicate myself to god. Your continued prayers are much welcomed.
Can’t wait to hear from everyone,
mollydolly
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That is such a great way to put things into perspective because my life dream is to be a mother. I love children so much. ThanksAn idea that has given me strength to overcome lust is this: Would I be willing to teach my son that indulging in lust is good (not just permissible, but good)? Would I teach my daughter that it’s okay for guys to look at her the way I did when I looked at porn?
The way you act right now is the example you’re setting for your children someday (assuming marriage is your vocation). Become now who you’re supposed to be so you can be a light to others.
Just because they are “normal” doesn’t mean it is right to do and should not be encouraged or normalized. Here is what the Church teaches.Hi mollydolly,
To some extent, sexual desire and masturbation are normal, but if they are becoming a genuine addiction, don’t rule out medical attention.
This is pretty sound advice and I concur, although it’s tough to do.I think that’s a good idea to avoid being alone with her. Also, try to avoid finding out if she does have similar struggles, as it may make the temptation a lot worse. Please continue to keep us updated so we can help you and continue to pray for you!
Okay although it’s true that I admire her her appearance and her intellect, it’s way more than that. There is a stronger attraction to her than I have ever felt for any guy…Thanks for explaining a bit more. Could it just be that you admire the person’s physical appearance or intellect? I mean, I’m male, and I can admire a guy who’s well-built or intelligent. Anymore, given my follicle-challenged scalp, I deeply admire/jealous/envious of anyone, male or female, with nice luxuriant hair. Wish I had more.
At any rate, it may not be as tough a situation as you might think. But you would know better than me.
If anything they are a source of conviction. It’s all based on looking at the whole person rather than just the physical appearance… And out of a four night program only one of those nights is spent talking about the body itself. Plus It’s based on theology of the body which is one of the most beatiful courses I have ever studied. So if anything teaching these classes keeps me in line! I love it. I feel like a total hypocrite but I just really enjoy teaching these kids to respect their bodies.Maybe the chastity classes are a kind of occasion of sin.
You’re right, and I didn’t mean to imply that. I only meant that if it was not done to excess, there’s no (medical) cause for alarm.Just because they are “normal” doesn’t mean it is right to do and should not be encouraged or normalized. Here is what the Church teaches.
CCC 2396 “Among the sins gravely contrary to chastity are masturbation, fornication, pornography, and homosexual practices”.
CCC 2352 By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. “Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action.” “The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose.” For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of “the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved.”
To form an equitable judgment about the subjects’ moral responsibility and to guide pastoral action, one must take into account the affective immaturity, force of acquired habit, conditions of anxiety or other psychological or social factors that lessen, if not even reduce to a minimum, moral culpability."
I am sorry you have me confused. What would be a medical cause for alarm?You’re right, and I didn’t mean to imply that. I only meant that if it was not done to excess, there’s no (medical) cause for alarm.
No I don’t dislike men! I find men attractive and I have my crushes just like any other highschool girl. It’s not at all because I don’t like men.Well, Molly, tough question here, but I’ll ask it: do you just dislike men?
You know you might just make it a practice to put some distance, not see her for a couple of weeks. That’d cool down about any friendship thing, might make your eyes more open to a reassessment about her.Things are going much better thank you