Help with groom's speech

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Ok, so I’m getting married in a few months and I’m writing my speech. I have about 1000 words of content so far but I’m going through it trying to make it more interesting and just refine it to a very good wedding speech. I guess I’m just looking for feedback as to how I can make it better. At the moment I think It’s possibly a bit verbose.

I don’t want to post it here in case my fiancee stumbles upon it but if anyone would care to offer some advice I’d PM you the speech.

Thanks.

P.S. I am also recruiting my parents and brother to help me but just looking for other perspectives.
 
AdamPeter said:
Ok, so I’m getting married in a few months and I’m writing my speech. I have about 1000 words of content so far but I’m going through it trying to make it more interesting and just refine it to a very good wedding speech. I guess I’m just looking for feedback as to how I can make it better. At the moment I think It’s possibly a bit verbose.

I don’t want to post it here in case my fiancee stumbles upon it but if anyone would care to offer some advice I’d PM you the speech.

Thanks.

P.S. I am also recruiting my parents and brother to help me but just looking for other perspectives.
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Congrats. I’ve never been married, so I can’t offer advice, but make sure God is first in your speech.
 
I actually have some great feedback, but then again there were two grooms at our wedding.
 
Congratulations! My advice? Don’t speak for very long, people always fidget around. 🙂

Thank everyone for coming, thank God for bringing your wife to you, thank your immediate family and your wife’s family for all their support and then thank your wife for marrying you! You’ll have some personal anecdotes which you’ll want to include, of course.
 
My DH was dreading the speech, but (I might be a bit biased here :)) it was actually brilliant because it he was true to himself and said what he wanted to say.

He managed to get hold of an old Guide to Wedding Etiquette and the advice in there was still sound.

He thanked the Matron of Honour for her support and hard work, as well as the Best Man and he thanked everyone for coming and said it meant a lot to both of us that they had come to support us and share the Mass with us.

He thanked my parents for always making him feel welcome in their home and said he hoped they would feel as welcome in our new home together.

He said how he was looking forward to getting to know his new brother and sister in law and his new nephew.

👍 And that was that! It was heartfelt, sincere and thankful: it was a speech to and for the guests - not a long and detailed account of how we met and how wonderful we are 😃 and I know our guests appreciated that.
 
Well, I’d love to give advice, but I basically just thanked everyone concerned, ending with God Himself, and then took a bow. 🙂
 
I said a very brief thank you at the end of the reception, nothing more.
 
My only suggestion is to try and be comfortable with whatever you decide to do so it doesn’t take away from your enjoyment of the day 🙂
 
Thanks for the advice so far. I would say that in Ireland it’s kind of expected for the groom to say something substantial in his speech. It’s something the guests expect and generally look forward to.
 
I would say to keep it short (under 5 minutes), maybe throw in a little humor. Perhaps a funny story about you and your bride-to-be. Definitely mention God first. Thank your bride-to-be, both your families, wedding party and everyone who attended for their planning/support. Make a statement to the effect that you are looking forward to spending forever with your bride, through the highs and the lows, etc.
 
When you say you have a thousand words so far, it’s sounding like you’ll have the whole text written…reconsider that.

You’ll be much more conversational and comfortable if you’ve got just the main points written down as notes. Just practice what you’re going to talk about concerning each of those. Practice also how you’ll move from one thing to the next.

Good luck and congratulations!
 
I’m Irish. Granted, I’ve been to two weddings as a adult and one of them was mine! I believe that what the guests expect doesn’t matter in the slightest. Only what you want matters. Try not to worry too much about what people think.

Once your guests are well taken care of, everything else should just be about making the day as special and enjoyable as possible. So if you want to make a 1000 word speech, great! If you want to make a 200 word speech, also great! If you want to just say thanks for coming, also great!

Whatever you choose, I am sure your guests will love it! 🙂
 
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