Help with marriage problems and unhelpful priest

[AliR14]

I seriously only joined CAF because I couldn’t stay silent with all these stories of abuse popping up.

Your son is being abused physically and psychologically by his dad. Close your eyes and picture for a moment your 6 year old self. Imagine your father pressing a pillow on top of you while laughing and refusing to get off you. Imagine the panic that turns to sheer terror. Imagine then being given no comfort after this episode and in fact told not to confide in mommy. My cousin’s ex- husband did similar things to her son and he started having night terrors from not being allowed to talk to mommy. Fix your heart on this imagine and if you ever for a moment think you are doing the wrong thing by leaving, you summon this imagine of your sweet, terrified son and screw your courage to the sticking point.

Your husband is also abusing you. He doesn’t love you, isn’t attracted to you, admitted this to you and, it seems, everyone who would listen, and is now guilty you with your faith to stick around. That, by friend, is emotional and psychological control. Control turns to abuse real fast.

There are countless women throughout history who have walked away with the shirts on their backs and not only survived, but flourished. You can do this.

 

[BunnyR]

am going to refuge and taking my kids. I contacted someone who told me what to do and how to protect my kids. Thanks for all the help. Please pray for us

 

[nodito]

am going to refuge and taking my kids. I contacted someone who told me what to do and how to protect my kids. Thanks for all the help. Please pray for us

BunnyR, I will pray for you.

 

[Miserissima]

am going to refuge and taking my kids. I contacted someone who told me what to do and how to protect my kids. Thanks for all the help. Please pray for us

Do you have a timeline and a safety plan? Don’t forget to contract the, American Embassy who can give you resources to attorneys to help in later legal matters regarding custody.

It’s not an easy path to take, but you can do it. Please keep us updated because there are now many people praying for your welfare.

 

[hope21]

Praying for you.
Really relived to hear you are getting the help you need to take you and the children out of such an awful situation.

 

[kb360]

Your husband is an abuser. Get you and your children away from him now. Your priest is not a qualified social worker, and neither are we, but from what you’ve written it’s pretty plain that he has some mental problems.

If you have to ask family to send money to you and your children in order for you to leave England and return to your home, do it.

It kinda seems like you don’t want to believe what your own eyes are telling you. You’ve seen the abuse, your children have told you the abuse is occurring, you must act.

What this person says. You need to get out of this relationship. There are situations when a marriage can be saved, but if he is as adamant as you make him sound, telling his family and all that, I’m sorry to say but its done. The abuse is just criminal.