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I was born into the catholic family, i have been baptized and confirmed but I admit not been to church as often as I like because i’m ill.

When I did go, everyone around me knew what to respond to, not just Amen, but words, and i don’t know the rosery…i don’t know what to do, where I earn this, i feel guilty because i sit in the church and cant respond or try to respond or mumble like i know what to say…

i feel bad and ask if anyone know how to help me.
 
Mar044 said:
hello all

I was born into the catholic family, i have been baptized and confirmed but I admit not been to church as often as I like because i’m ill.

When I did go, everyone around me knew what to respond to, not just Amen, but words, and i don’t know the rosery…i don’t know what to do, where I earn this, i feel guilty because i sit in the church and cant respond or try to respond or mumble like i know what to say…

i feel bad and ask if anyone know how to help me.
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Our Church has missalettes (and hymnals) in all the pews. That has been the case in almost every other Catholic Church where I have ever attended Mass with few exceptions. Just use a missalette to read along (and a hymnal to sing) and respond along with everyone else.
 
is that the books in the pews? i don’t know if we have those, other then the phalms books in front, and the newsletter im not sure if we have those, i was hopeing catholic answers had them here, but can’t seem to find it.
 
Just keep going. You’ll get it eventually. You’ll sound a little silly trying to anticipate what’s going to be said and you’ll get it wrong many times, but I guarantee if you go for four months or so, you’ll have it down.
 
Hello & Welcome Home,

There should be books in the pews/ beneath your chair/ somewhere that have the outline of the Mass (with speaking parts), the readings and the songs. Maybe ask an usher or greeter for help locating one when you get there?

I wanted to tell you not to be self conscious about not knowing the responses just yet. …The silver lining here is that some of those responses are about to change when Advent begins and MOST people will be stumbling through them/ studying their hymnals for a while :o

There is a certain beauty I find in just listening to the people sometimes, too. The important part is that you are there. No one is keeping track of when you speak.

Best,
 
welcome home
keep coming to Mass
shortly, if they have not done it already, every parish will have cards in the pews, or new missalettes or other worship aids that have all the prayers and responses in an easy to follow format, because there are several changes coming beginning Nov. 27, First Sunday of Advent. This will work out great for you and be a good learning experience in participation at Mass.
 
When I first started going to Mass, I bought myself a small prayer book that also had the order of the Mass in it with the words to things such as the Nicene creed and the Confetior. I grew up in a Methodist church where a lot of the liturgy is very similar, so I didn’t feel totally lost, but there were a few parts I didn’t know. For me it was easier to take a small book of my own that I was familiar with and could mark the pages to find them quickly. Our missals in the pews have everything so spread out that by the time I flipped through the book to find what I was looking for, that part was already over!

I’ll bet your church will have some pew cards or some other way to help everyone learn the words to the new translation coming in November. It will be new to everyone at that point, so you’ll be able to jump in and learn with everyone else.
 
Mar044 said:
hello all

I was born into the catholic family, i have been baptized and confirmed but I admit not been to church as often as I like because i’m ill.

When I did go, everyone around me knew what to respond to, not just Amen, but words, and i don’t know the rosery…i don’t know what to do, where I earn this, i feel guilty because i sit in the church and cant respond or try to respond or mumble like i know what to say…

i feel bad and ask if anyone know how to help me.
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As others have said just get a missalette or book and follow it on that.
By the way the Rosary is not part of the Mass.
 
powerlinemom said:
When I first started going to Mass, I bought myself a small prayer book that also had the order of the Mass in it with the words to things such as the Nicene creed and the Confetior. I grew up in a Methodist church where a lot of the liturgy is very similar, so I didn’t feel totally lost, but there were a few parts I didn’t know. For me it was easier to take a small book of my own that I was familiar with and could mark the pages to find them quickly. Our missals in the pews have everything so spread out that by the time I flipped through the book to find what I was looking for, that part was already over!

I’ll bet your church will have some pew cards or some other way to help everyone learn the words to the new translation coming in November. It will be new to everyone at that point, so you’ll be able to jump in and learn with everyone else.
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I agree that having your own book that you can dog-ear and mark up may be best as you learn. And in about a month, the responses we make and much of what the priest says will be changing. If you buy something, be sure to ask if it is the new translation.

I would recommend looking at a Catholic store (if you have those in your area) for a little booklet called Magnificat. It has the Order of the Mass, readings for every day and additional prayers in it. It’s a monthly periodical. It can get expensive to have a subscription, but would be easier to pick up during this time of transition. (The November edition has both translations).

Even after you are more familiar with the Mass, it can be nice to have your own prayer book with you at Mass. Then as you pray before Mass or after communion, you can have your favorite prayers or scripture to pray.
 
Unless you live in a very small parish, most people will not be paying attention to whether you are saying the words. Don’t worry about them. You are there to worship God, and He is pleased to see you. In most parishes, you would have to do something pretty disruptive to get people’s attention.
 
actually i will be moving to a smaller town. funny story, i went to church one sunday and my hair was messy because i was running late, so i wore a hat, after service the priest told me not to wear a hat and chewed me out (friendly) for it, was red faced 🙂
 
Mar044 said:
actually i will be moving to a smaller town. funny story, i went to church one sunday and my hair was messy because i was running late, so i wore a hat, after service the priest told me not to wear a hat and chewed me out (friendly) for it, was red faced 🙂
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I can’t tell from your name if you are male or female. If you are a girl or woman. I have to say that the priest should not have said anything about you wearing a hat, unless possibly you misunderstood him and it was heavy-handed teasing? He shouldn’t have told you not to wear one anyway.

If you are a boy or man, of course it is different. No hats in church.
 
dude 😃

and my hair was really messy, i mean really 🙂 but ya…im a guy so guess my bad
 
paperwight66 said:
…If you are a boy or man, of course it is different. No hats in church.
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Actually, it is rude for a male to wear a hat indoors, period. It is most certainly rude and disrespectful to wear one in Church.

That being said, my guess is that many young people today have no idea that that is the case because they just weren’t taught and that isn’t their fault.
 
Mar044 said:
dude 😃

and my hair was really messy, i mean really 🙂 but ya…im a guy so guess my bad
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There is a wonderful invention that can help you out when your hair is messy. It is called a comb. If your hair is really unruly, hair product used with the comb works well most of the time, too. Plain water will also work to help tame a case of bedhead.

😃

Seriously, males should not wear hats indoors. Just FYI.
 
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