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Hello:
Through changes at work I’ve recently been traded from one manager to
another at my work place.
The previous one I have worked for 20 years and she was a tyrant.
She was a man hater and did absolutely nothing to help my career, quite
the opposite actually. It was all I could do to hang on as I have a disabled
child and did not have the time nor drive to look for another position in the
company. When I see her now I do not acknowledge her, but want to be
prepared when she corners me on an elevator or something and asks why
I won’t acknowledge her. I have thought of many things to say to her, but
I’m not sure Christ would approve. I’m looking for something to say to her
that will not be sinful, and yet let her know I do not want anything to do with
her. Can anyone think of something that perhaps Jesus said or maybe a line
from proverbs or judges that would do Jesus and me proud.
Thanks
Sam
 
Just smile to her and pray for her - never underestimate the power of prayer. For Jesus said:
You have heard that it has been said, You shall love your neighbor, and hate your enemy. But I say to you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which spitefully use you, and persecute you; That you may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he makes his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. …(Matt 5:43-45)
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Sometimes, when words fail me, I realise that prayer works wonders. I had an almost similar situation with a co-worker, and prayer works, I tell ya. In God’s time, in God’s time. Till then, patience, my friend.

God bless.
 
Is it that hard to say, “Good morning,” when passing by? I can’t stand most people, but I will acknowledge them. I think you should pray about this.
 
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b “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’c
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But I say to you, love your enemies, and pray for those who persecute you,
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that you may be children of your heavenly Father, for he makes his sun rise on the bad and the good, and causes rain to fall on the just and the unjust.
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For if you love those who love you, what recompense will you have? Do not the tax collectors* do the same?
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And if you greet your brothers only, what is unusual about that? Do not the pagans do the same?*
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So be perfect,* just as your heavenly Father is perfect.

Matthew 5:43-48

Jesus is a tough cookie 😛
 
Where’re you guys from? If you’re from the South I would answer her next time she greets me:

“Bless your heart!”
 
Hi - I was faced with a similar situation, dealing with a somewhat cruel manager. Jesus doesn’t command us to be best friends with our enemies, just love them. And remember, we are told to shine our light on people. Can you try to just smile and say hello to her? It’s going to be hard to pray for your enemies if you can’t even smile at them. This doesn’t mean you have to engage with her at all. In fact, Jesus said in Matthew 10:14, “If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that town or home and shake the dust from your feet.” However, Jesus also said if a brother does not repent once, get an elder to talk with him. Then the whole community and so forth. And if they still do not repent, treat them like a tax collector. Now Jesus loved sinners and tax collectors so He did not mean to forget about them or hate them, but rather to still love them and treat them with care. You don’t have to give any attention to these people, but still be open to them and love them. It might be best to keep your distance of course and not engage her. She did hurt you and she kept you bogged down for years, yet, this had everything to do with her internal struggle. It did affect you, yet you have to feel sorry for the woman to be treating people like that because I’m sure so many people have had the same experience, and to treat people like that means that she is not at peace.
 
“But if you will not forgive men, neither will your Father forgive you your offences.” ( Matthew 6:15)

Just forgive and forget what happened between the two of you. Smile the next time you encounter your old manager or are stuck in an elevator with her, you needn’t speak a word to her – “For thou shalt heap hot coals upon [her] head, and the Lord will reward thee.” (Proverbs 25:22)
 
Not acknowledging your previous manager is not the best choice. Since you are still in the same company, you never know what would happen in the future. Would you be traded back under her again in the future? From our faith point of view, it is not good to not acknowledge her either. Just smile on her. Maybe even give her a big and sincere smile. That’s what St. Therese the little flower did. St. Therese purposely gave the nun she didn’t like a big smile every time she saw her. because she was not looking at the person but Jesus within that person. 😃
 
Thank You all for your contributions. That is exactly what I needed. I will endeavor to
try harder at being good.

Just as an FYI, this women is an active homosexual and knows that I am a practicing Catholic. How can I live 20 years of that and not be convinced that active homosexuality is not an evil in society and the workplace.
 
Sammy,
I had a similar experience with a man hater. She eventually went to her boss about me and the boss fired me. However I was a contractor, and I documented all the work done. My contracting company made them pay up for firing me without cause. So she got raw eggs for her effort.

The odd part was that she was to be married in a couple of months. That poor guy.

I doubt that anything you would do or say to be pleasant would satisfy her, but do it anyway because she sounds like the type that may start something nasty with your company or people there. Just have to eat crow until your horse comes in.

Best wishes.​

May God bless and keep you. May God’s face shine on you. May God be kind to you and give you peace.
 
sammy5358 said:
Thank You all for your contributions. That is exactly what I needed. I will endeavor to
try harder at being good.

Just as an FYI, this women is an active homosexual and knows that I am a practicing Catholic. How can I live 20 years of that and not be convinced that active homosexuality is not an evil in society and the workplace.
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Please, Sammy, please, do not judge an entire group of people i.e. homosexuals by your experience with this one person! They are not any more “evil” than you or I. Take care and God bless. 🙂
 
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