Nah, just have them sign a contract that if they marry someone they must pay a fee $1,000 or whatever, or $150/month for each year you’re married for a maximum 3 or 5 years…something like that. If they marry someone not matched by you…no fee. This would be good since no one pays anything upfront and it will help build a big client base to help match people.
Chava, I found him.Matchmaker, Matchmaker, make me a match. Find me a find. Catch me a catch.Matchmaker,Matchmaker, look through your book, and find me a perfect match…
What Catholic Match has going for them are two things:My husband and I have been mulling over a business idea for a couple months now. I’d love to hear your feedback if you’re willing to give itEspecially I would like to hear from any singles and any entrepreneurs out there. Come to think of it though, I’m sure some of you other married folks would have great insights as well.
We’ve noticed it seems particularly hard for singles to find other compatible Catholics to date/court this day in age. And I’ve heard many complaints about trying to use the online dating sites, even the Catholic ones. It works for some people, but for others it feels to unnatural and they don’t like having to form a hundred shallow online connections before actually meeting a good match in person. So here’s our idea:
What about a service where we, the married couple, get to know a bunch of singles individually, one at a time to find out what he/she is really looking for? We would also try to give tips and guidance where appropriate if we think the person is open to advice. So it would be more like a dating consultant business (though I kind of hate the way that sounds). After we’ve sufficiently come to know a good group of people, we would start setting them up on dates with compatible matches. We would start very small, in our immediate geographic area and then see where it goes from there.
The focus would be on trying to really help people fulfill God’s will and their vocation. We’d only work with Catholics who are faithful to church teaching, and from there try to set them up based on the other factors for compatibility. I would consider it a combination of a business and a ministry–we’d truly be invested in the people that we work with.
So what do you think? If you are a single, would give something like this a try? How would we go about finding you? Bulletin ads? Word of mouth? What are the shortfalls of other ways of meeting people, and how could we avoid those?
And for those of you who have a small business, do you think we’d actually be able to make a profit doing something like this?
I’m so excited to hear your thoughts!
Thanks for this link. Sounds very promising.
I forgot to mention that to join, one must be eligible to be married in the Catholic Church. When I was a member, they took those with an annulment only after their annulment was final. Good luck.
I just wanted to say that this is a sweet and caring idea.
People with business plans usually try to keep it secret, because someone could steal the idea and implement it and…My husband and I have been mulling over a business idea for a couple months now. I’d love to hear your feedback if you’re willing to give it
We’ve noticed it seems particularly hard for singles to find other compatible Catholics to date/court this day in age. And I’ve heard many complaints about trying to use the online dating sites, even the Catholic ones. It works for some people, but for others it feels to unnatural and they don’t like having to form a hundred shallow online connections before actually meeting a good match in person. So here’s our idea:
What about a service where we, the married couple, get to know a bunch of singles individually, one at a time to find out what he/she is really looking for? We would also try to give tips and guidance where appropriate if we think the person is open to advice. So it would be more like a dating consultant business (though I kind of hate the way that sounds). After we’ve sufficiently come to know a good group of people, we would start setting them up on dates with compatible matches. We would start very small, in our immediate geographic area and then see where it goes from there.
The focus would be on trying to really help people fulfill God’s will and their vocation. We’d only work with Catholics who are faithful to church teaching, and from there try to set them up based on the other factors for compatibility. I would consider it a combination of a business and a ministry–we’d truly be invested in the people that we work with.
So what do you think? If you are a single, would give something like this a try? How would we go about finding you? Bulletin ads? Word of mouth? What are the shortfalls of other ways of meeting people, and how could we avoid those?
And for those of you who have a small business, do you think we’d actually be able to make a profit doing something like this?
I’m so excited to hear your thoughts!
But you have to meet him first. When I was 33, the realization struck me that I had been in mostly-male environements all the years of eligibility: engineering school, military, civilian engineering job. By that age, as you say, most women were married/divorced with children. I had to break out of my social environment if I ever hoped to meet someone. I did, and it was successful. Good luck.
No, I used dating sites not because I was desperate…but because there were more women I could potentially meet. When you live in a small town as I do currently, the market is pretty dead. Either all the women are already married or they are really not the type you would want to marry.
Yeah, the cost is my biggest concern. I see people complaining about having to shell out $50 for the online dating, so I’m not sure they would ante up for this service. Then again, I would be doing this on a smaller scale and only with people who are truly invested in the idea. The question is how many of those people are there.
Yes, I love the way the Jewish culture does this! They have a lot of other built-in customs and support that are even more helpful that what I would be able to do (for example, how much the parent are involved). But still I would roughly be mimicking this idea.
I understand what you are getting at. However, I am of the opinion I would rather be single than have to meet someone in an akward way. I have given up but I am not complaining about it
These are all fair points, cmscms. The key is that the service would really be for people who are actively seeking a spouse with a very open heart and open mind. It would definitely take a leap of faith to put your trust in us to help you find a good match. It sounds like you’ve already sort of given up on actively seeking a spouse. It’s not my place at all to judge whether you’ve made the right or wrong decision in that regard–it just means our particular business wouldn’t be helpful to you.
I completely agree with youPeople with business plans usually try to keep it secret, because someone could steal the idea and implement it and…
There are a lot of successful businesses today that if they would have all tried to seek public confirmation of their ideas, they probably wouldn’t have ever established their businesses.
Investing in a “new idea” is a risk, since it might be successful or not. After the due process, it’s pretty much an individual decision.
Some of us would still see this form of pairing unorthodox.
I do think it would be unwise to launch a new business without any sort of market research though. I need to be challenged to get those creative juices flowing and to make sure I’m not missing any obstacles that have to be dealt with in advance.I think you are asking for the impossible. Sounds like you want to know all about a man, and you want him to know all about you before you even meet. After all, the whole idea of “sharing”, as you put it, is to learn about the other person. But you have put the cart before the horse.