Helping my brother!

[the_man]

Hello all

My brother is in his early teens and he masterbates. I really dont know how to tell him its bad as i am so afraid that he cant do it, or it will lead him to depression, or he will have big internal struggles like i did, and my biggest fear is that because he is in his early teens and still in school that he will be subject to immense peer presure due to girls dressing inapropriately, and friends saying it ok, and physical temptations because of strong hormones.

I need to know how to tell him so as he understands the gravity of it and really trys to stop it. I am also afraid that beacuse of pride he will not talk to me about his stuggles. WHAT SHOULD I DO. PLEASE HELP.

My last question is should he try to stop masterbation first and go to confession in a few weeks or should he go as soon as possible, and what is the best examination of conscience to give him so as he will not end up scrupulous like me.

 

[Joe_5859]

Hello all

My brother is in his early teens and he masterbates. I really dont know how to tell him its bad as i am so afraid that he cant do it, or it will lead him to depression, or he will have big internal struggles like i did, and my biggest fear is that because he is in his early teens and still in school that he will be subject to immense peer presure due to girls dressing inapropriately, and friends saying it ok, and physical temptations because of strong hormones.

I need to know how to tell him so as he understands the gravity of it and really trys to stop it. I am also afraid that beacuse of pride he will not talk to me about his stuggles. WHAT SHOULD I DO. PLEASE HELP.

My last question is should he try to stop masterbation first and go to confession in a few weeks or should he go as soon as possible, and what is the best examination of conscience to give him so as he will not end up scrupulous like me.

First, I would recommend that you talk to your priest about how best to approach this subject with your brother. Then, I would recommend your brother talk to a priest about this as well.

He definitely should go to Confession sooner rather than later. There’s no requirement to “kick the habit” for a set amount of time before he goes to Confession. Indeed, the sacramental graces of Reconciliation are the best help for him to overcome this sin.

You do him no favor by withholding information from him about the sinful nature of this act. It’s important that he knows, and also very important that he knows why it’s sinful.

Be aware, that simply because you suffer from scrupulosity doesn’t mean that your brother will also. This is something that’s really better determined by a priest who knows your brother.