High Yearbook Photo Inappropriate

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When I was a high school senior and it was “senior picture” time I got several very sexy photos taken. In one of them I was in a strapless dress and holding a gold sheet around me, so I looked as though I was naked and trying to cover up with the sheet. In another I was lying on my back in a very low-cut lace top with red roses all around me. These pictures were just for fun. They were not sent out in graduation announcements, put in the yearbook, or given to family. I ordered a few wallets to give to friends, because they all knew me as kind of crazy and outrageous. They were just fun and unique photos, no one else did anything like them. My mom supported that completely.

Now, I’m pretty sure my high school wouldn’t have allowed them in the yearbook if I had tried. And if I did try and they told me ‘no’, my mom would have been on their side 100%.

All that being said, I think at the end of the day the country has far more to worry about than this girl’s picture. I was shocked when I saw this on CNN. What is upsetting though is what the student group told her when they rejected her photo. They called her and her parents trash. That’s just uncalled for. A simple “We can’t print that, it isn’t appropriate for the yearbook” would have sufficed.
 
BlueEyedLady said:
Now, I’m pretty sure my high school wouldn’t have allowed them in the yearbook if I had tried. And if I did try and they told me ‘no’, my mom would have been on their side 100%.
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My thoughts? The yearbook staff did her a favor. She doesn’t want to look back at her yearbook ten years from now with the regret that she was “that girl”.
All that being said, I think at the end of the day the country has far more to worry about than this girl’s picture. I was shocked when I saw this on CNN.
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Alas, the problem with profit driven media… but it’s better than state controlled media/propaganda at least!
What is upsetting though is what the student group told her when they rejected her photo. They called her and her parents trash. That’s just uncalled for. A simple “We can’t print that, it isn’t appropriate for the yearbook” would have sufficed.
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I’m sorry, can you quote a source for that? All the mainstream media reporting I have seen says that the official response from the yearbook committee was that the picture included clothing which was unacceptable under the school’s dress policy and therefore cannot be allowed. Perhaps the source you got this from interviewed another student, parent, or even took an opinion poll and you interpreted that as coming from the yearbook staff…?
 
I thought about posting this myself the other day, but decided not to bring down morale more than the media does on its own. 😉 The thing that disturbs me most is their selfish attitude. They give no consideration at all to the parents of other students or the other students themselves. I certainly wouldn’t want this in my child’s yearbook. This is a high school memoir, not a Playboy magazine. She seems to think it’s her personal platform for self promotion. And I’m so tired of people misappropriating the word “artistic” to try to dignify sleaze. One wonders if this girl wasn’t put through toddler pageants in her early childhood. She and her mother need prayers.
 
promethius said:
I’m sorry, can you quote a source for that? All the mainstream media reporting I have seen says that the official response from the yearbook committee was that the picture included clothing which was unacceptable under the school’s dress policy and therefore cannot be allowed. Perhaps the source you got this from interviewed another student, parent, or even took an opinion poll and you interpreted that as coming from the yearbook staff…?
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Whoops! I apologize. I just looked up the article again and that comment was listed on the family’s Facebook page, not as a statement from the yearbook committee. However, while I was looking for the article I read yesterday I stumbled across several others that seriously make me question the school’s judgment. For starters, some school officials claim that it was denied not because of what she was wearing but because the photography was unprofessional.

Here’s what the school needs to do. They need to outline a set of guidelines in advance for yearbook photos. That way they can ensure that the rules are applied fairly. As it stands, they have no written policy. Since they are a public school they probably won’t be able to get away with censoring this one student’s photo based on what is, without a written policy, a matter of opinion.

I don’t know why anyone would allow high school students to use their own judgment when it comes to selecting yearbook photos without written guidelines. Something like this was bound to happen.
 
BlueEyedLady said:
Whoops! I apologize. I just looked up the article again and that comment was listed on the family’s Facebook page, not as a statement from the yearbook committee. However, while I was looking for the article I read yesterday I stumbled across several others that seriously make me question the school’s judgment. For starters, some school officials claim that it was denied not because of what she was wearing but because the photography was unprofessional.

Here’s what the school needs to do. They need to outline a set of guidelines in advance for yearbook photos. That way they can ensure that the rules are applied fairly. As it stands, they have no written policy. Since they are a public school they probably won’t be able to get away with censoring this one student’s photo based on what is, without a written policy, a matter of opinion.

I don’t know why anyone would allow high school students to use their own judgment when it comes to selecting yearbook photos without written guidelines. Something like this was bound to happen.
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What about expecting adults (e.g. parents) to use common sense when dealing with their kids? Do you really want your life regulated in writing down to every little detail like this? You might end up living in a fascist state.
 
I am sure that she is loving all this media attention; should help with her fledgling modeling career.

I find it funny that this is news. I guess any excuse to get racy photos on the front page will do. 🤷
 
Cristiano said:
What about expecting adults (e.g. parents) to use common sense when dealing with their kids? Do you really want your life regulated in writing down to every little detail like this? You might end up living in a fascist state.
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I’m not sure what you think I mean. All I’m saying is that schools that allow students to pick their own photos for the yearbook should have basic guidelines for what can be submitted. That way, should one need to be rejected they can show that they have a set of rules that are applied fairly.

Something like: Must be wearing school-appropriate attire (as per the SCOTUS, public schools can have dress codes within reason), must clearly show the student’s face, must not promote the use of drugs or alcohol, must be taken by a professional photographer.
 
SurlyMermaid said:
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I can’t even believe this girl’s mom is supporting her with this! :eek:
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Funny (or sad) thing is, I heard this photo was replaced by another sexy one, in which the girl poses provocatively in a tight dress. That photo was also rejected by the student yearbook staff. I’m sure most of the boys in the graduating class approve of the photo, even if their parents do not. Times have sure changed since I graduated high school!
 
promethius said:
My thoughts? The yearbook staff did her a favor. She doesn’t want to look back at her yearbook ten years from now with the regret that she was “that girl”.
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That was my reaction yesterday when I first read this story. Imagine going to a 20 or 25 year reunion and being reminded of this picture :eek: (and i’m a guy who had his 20 year reunion last summer).

There’s somethings that a person in HS would do that they would later regret and hopefully this young lady will realize in 20 or 25 years that the yearbook staff really did do her a favor.
 
garn9173 said:
That was my reaction yesterday when I first read this story. Imagine going to a 20 or 25 year reunion and being reminded of this picture :eek: (and i’m a guy who had his 20 year reunion last summer).

There’s somethings that a person in HS would do that they would later regret and hopefully this young lady will realize in 20 or 25 years that the yearbook staff really did do her a favor.
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Well, she’s laid that favor to waste quickly. Now, instead of her classmates at reunion recalling her as “that skank in the yearbook”, she’ll be “that skank who made national headlines.” I really feel sorry for this girl, and angry at her mother for being so irresponsible.
 
prodigalson2011 said:
I really feel sorry for this girl, and angry at her mother for being so irresponsible.
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why feel sorry for her? You should pity her because of her bad judgment, desires and choices, but she’s not an innocent victim. And yes, her mom should have actually been a mother and put a stop to it
 
BlueEyedLady said:
Whoops! I apologize. I just looked up the article again and that comment was listed on the family’s Facebook page, not as a statement from the yearbook committee. However, while I was looking for the article I read yesterday I stumbled across several others that seriously make me question the school’s judgment. For starters, some school officials claim that it was denied not because of what she was wearing but because the photography was unprofessional.

Here’s what the school needs to do. They need to outline a set of guidelines in advance for yearbook photos. That way they can ensure that the rules are applied fairly. As it stands, they have no written policy. Since they are a public school they probably won’t be able to get away with censoring this one student’s photo based on what is, without a written policy, a matter of opinion.

I don’t know why anyone would allow high school students to use their own judgment when it comes to selecting yearbook photos without written guidelines. Something like this was bound to happen.
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I agree. Should these things be necessary? No. But unfortunately in this day and age, I think they are.
ChiRho said:
why feel sorry for her? You should pity her because of her bad judgment, desires and choices, but she’s not an innocent victim. And yes, her mom should have actually been a mother and put a stop to it
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She’s 18. 18 year olds don’t exactly have the best judgement. They are a product of their environment. For all you know, she has been raised her entire life allowed or encouraged to wear such things. She could come from a broken home. She could have a history of sexual abuse. Or maybe not. My point is, she might not be a victim, or she might be. We really don’t know since we don’t know her story.

That’s why I place the bulk of the blame on the mom. As an adult she should know better and guide her daughter in the right direction.
 
Also, this situation reminds me of that terrible laundry detergent commercial where the “stupid dad” sees his daughter’s white mini skirt and rubs dirt all over to keep her from wearing it. But then “cool, hip mom” washes it with the laundry detergent and the next shot is the teenager girl strutting out the front door wearing it while mom smiles and dad looks confused. gag
 
anp1215 said:
Also, this situation reminds me of that terrible laundry detergent commercial where the “stupid dad” sees his daughter’s white mini skirt and rubs dirt all over to keep her from wearing it. But then “cool, hip mom” washes it with the laundry detergent and the next shot is the teenager girl strutting out the front door wearing it while mom smiles and dad looks confused. gag
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Oh, I HATE that commercial!!! It’s for Tide. I haven’t seen it lately but I don’t watch much TV anyway. When they were playing it I really considered sending an email to the company telling them I would NEVER buy their product because of that marketing. Degrading to fathers, shows mothers and girls in a very bad light.

:mad::nope::tsktsk::dts:
 
Also, the way it used to work is that the school has a contract with a photo studio in the area. The students go to that studio to have their photos taken, and there ARE guidelines as to what they can wear. I went to a public high school and we could only have head shots, nothing like this provocative pose.

I am willing to bet that the school also has a contract and that this girl had her own photo shot for a modeling job or whatever, and tried to get them to use it so she’d stand out of the crowd.

The mother should be ashamed of herself.
 
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