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Hilary Duff Opens Up About Her Divorce: I Don't Know If People Are Meant To Be Together Forever
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HerCrazierHalf
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I get what she means. Though I’ll modify it.
I don’t think everyone, or even most people are meant to be with the same person for life.
I don’t think everyone, or even most people are meant to be with the same person for life.
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retire_early
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I do take thee, to have and enjoy from this day forward, for better and best, for rich and richer, in health and healthier, to love and cherish, from this day forward… until we get bored. Smooch!
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MaryT777
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So then what? No one should marry. What about kids, “hey we’ll be around until we get bored” they you’ll be in the divorce shuffle between parents.
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Usige
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Not to speak for them, but there are a growing number of people that see marriage as nothing more than legal recognition of their serially monogamous relationships.
Think of it like contracts detailing exclusive business partnerships. I grant you these exclusive rights in exchange for these benefits and services. The contract may be canceled by either party for any reason at any time.
With that mindset then a marriage is useful only in so far as it provides specific benefits. If any duties or obligations become burdensome then jettison it and look for a new provider that meet your requirements under terms beneficial to you.
That is the insideousness of marriage as nothing but a contract. It removes the thought of taking on the other’s burdens as a moral obligation to strengthen the marriage as a whole.
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GEddie
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Who cares what she says???
The one human being who had power over life and death said something else entirely.
ICXC NIKA.
The one human being who had power over life and death said something else entirely.
ICXC NIKA.
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GaryTaylor
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I never heard of Hilary Duff till just now. I thought Hillary Clinton changed her name and divorced Bill. 
Of what expertise does Hilary Duff have on the topic before I stereotype her?
Of what expertise does Hilary Duff have on the topic before I stereotype her?
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jediliz
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Hillary duff is a former disney channel star and singer.I never heard of Hilary Duff till just now. I thought Hillary Clinton changed her name and divorced Bill.
Of what expertise does Hilary Duff have on the topic before I stereotype her?
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HerCrazierHalf
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Wow, talk about taking it to an absurd extreme…
Just saying that based on my observations and the surge of baby boomer divorces that life long marriage isn’t for most people. People should think long and hard about whether or not they have the qualities and personality traits to remain married. That means there are a lot of people who probably shouldn’t marry.
As far as kids go, those who become parents owe it to the kids to remain together at least until they are adults.
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MacBP
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Out of honest curiosity, and I really do hope that you don’t misconstrue this as a personal attack, what would you say the purpose and essence of marriage? I’m endlessly fascinated by the answers people give, and I feel like both CAF and I have a bad habit of putting words in people’s mouth. We often think we know what most people mean when they think of marriage, but as a self-described non-believer, you have an opportunity to either confirm or reject that idea.
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catholictiger
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Glad Hilary Duff is an after thought in the pop culture today. Most people won’t read about this.
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HerCrazierHalf
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In the simplest form, marriage is a declaration and a promise between those involved to continue the relationship into forever plus opening up other possibilities such as having children (if those involved do choose). Everything else flows from this base.
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Sarcelle
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If that is the case, then let’s be honest about it. Let us make vows to stay together until one of us gets tired of being with the other. A statute of limitations and then marriage contract becomes null and void until renewed of course.
To all the nonbelievers here, would you marry if that was the case?
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Sarcelle
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Into forever? Doesn’t that contradict what you said earlier, that most people are incapable of life long marriage commitment? Or do you think marriage is only for a select few?
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BlueEyedLady
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Yes, I would just reword the vows back into ‘forever’.
If the government required that we renew the contract every 5 years or so? I wouldn’t be thrilled, but I would still marry under the assumption/belief/intention that the contract would be renewed each time until we died.
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Burt_Macklin
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I’ve seen this modification before.
“For as long as we both shall -]live/-] love”
Seems a bit more honest, IMHO
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BlueEyedLady
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I have (thankfully) only ever been to one wedding where the vows were changed to accommodate this kind of nonsense. They vowed to live according to the societal norms of ‘husband’ and ‘wife’ for ‘as long as their love shall last’. Sure enough, they divorced less than 4 years later.
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phil19034
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The main reason why divorce is so high is due to premarital sex. The baby boomers brought fornication into vogue with their “make love not war” and “free love” slogans.
When a couple is engaged in premarital sex, it clouds the marriage decrement process. Sexually active singles allow sex to influence their compatibility and thus make poor marriage decisions.
When a couple practices chastity and refrains from sex, the only way they can discern marriage (because they don’t know their “sexual compatibility”) is based on love AND determining what kind of family life they will have together.
The root cause of many divorces are:
- fundamental differences in how to raise children (spank or no spanking, what clothes and toys are acceptable to buy, what TV shows are ok, what friends they can have, chores or no chores, etc)
- fundamental differences in how to use the family’s money and resources (vacations or no vacations, catholic school or public school, type of house, type cars, etc)
- Today, we also have couples who marry not believing in the vows anymore. They go into a marriage with the belief that if it doesn’t work out, they can get divorced
- Finally, for couples who participated in fornication, when the sex life dries up a bit or becomes “normal” some people lose interest, esp. if their marriage was primary based on lust and not love.
Having sex outside of marriage distorts that love, causes confusion, and often destroys marriage.
NOTE: I should know… my non-Catholic wife and I had premarital sex. While we love each other and we love our children very much. We often feel that we may not have been meant for one another, as our differences are massive. So now, it’s the Cross I must bare and I must do what I can, no matter how hard, to keep my marriage intact.
God Bless
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Midwest88
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This is like Amber Heard saying she didn’t believe in God because one of her best friends died in a plane crash; same thing with Julianne Moore when her mom died a few years ago. Entertainers/celebrities. 
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HerCrazierHalf
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Not at all. It just means that a couple needs to carefully consider if this is something they can successfully commit to. If not then perhaps marriage isn’t for them, at that time.
Not a select few, but not as many as currently marry based on the divorce rates and general observations. I’d say that determination is for the couple involved.
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