“I would not presume to tell you how to deal with your feelings, and you have my sympathy and prayers. I cannot, however, agree with your assessment of your brother’s situation.”
I guess from your message that what you “don’t agree” with is my beleif that what was left of my brother was nothing more than the body he once inhabited? There was certainly not enough left of his brain for him to be conscious in any way that we can recognize. And isn’t that the scariest thing about it? Think about it Della, what if he WAS there, trapped, in pain, alone, unable to communicate from a broken body but able to feel pain, anger, shame, hunger for SIXTEEN YEARS.
For most of those 16 years I believed as I have said, that my brother died in the original accident. The news of Terry Schiavo helped me to understand something. You see, I’d been saying for all those years that if it had been up to me that I would have killed his body, and freed my mother and my family (and perhaps, his soul)-- or maybe ended a solitary confinement. My outrage with my fellow catholics’ criticism of Michael Shiavo led me to understand something about my position relative to my mom’s. It was easy for me to say that I would kill his body, because the decision was never really mine to make. This was mom’s decision from the get-go which made it easy to “sit back” and pronounce my beliefs and my “what I would do’s.” In the end, I realized that I have no idea what I would do if the decision were really mine to make. Either way, the person making the decision-- and only that person-- has to live with their choice for the rest of their life. The debate about these patients is fine and, obviously, necessary, but the things people say, and CONCLUDE, from their safe distance about Michael and his in-laws… well, as I said, it is un-christian.
Della said,
“But, your experience and that of the Schiavos are not identical.”
You see, this is tough here Della, What REALLY do you know about the “experience” of Schiavos"??? You certainly don’t know anything about my experience beyond a few paragraphs. So, how can you compare them? I mean, I live my experience and I cannot compare it to that of Michael’s or his in-laws.
Della said,
" Each case has to be considered on its own merits. But, since your brother did survive (as Terri Schiavo did) our obligation was to care for them."
“our obligation,” huh, oh you should have seen how many people jumped at the opportunity to fulfill their “obligation” to help my mom care for her son.
Della said,
"Food and water are basic care, not extraordinary care, when they can be administered. Extraordinary care would have been breathing or keeping the heart going artificially, etc.