Holy Eucarist

[remmy]

I got married to a catholic man who had been divorced twice before. I was 21 not a part of the church. We had three children and almost 10 years later got a divorce. Six years later I remarried a man who was actively part of the Missionary Baptist Church. Thinking this would bring me back to the Lord we married. What a mistake. We divorced 5 years later. Always having that empty feeling I finally came back to the church when I was fifty. I have been to confession a couple of times and told my story. I was told I could receive the Eucharist. I have but still have this feeling its wrong. My first husband past away before I came back and I have not been in any relationship since coming back. Please help settle my heart. I have relatives that say I’m wrong. Thank you.

 

[CB_Catholic]

I got married to a catholic man who had been divorced twice before. I was 21 not a part of the church. We had three children and almost 10 years later got a divorce. Six years later I remarried a man who was actively part of the Missionary Baptist Church. Thinking this would bring me back to the Lord we married. What a mistake. We divorced 5 years later. Always having that empty feeling I finally came back to the church when I was fifty. I have been to confession a couple of times and told my story. I was told I could receive the Eucharist. I have but still have this feeling its wrong. My first husband past away before I came back and I have not been in any relationship since coming back. Please help settle my heart. I have relatives that say I’m wrong. Thank you.

As long as you have been to Confession and are not in a relationship with anyone, you can receive the Eucharist. The priests, who know what they are talking about, are correct, and yes, you are wrong. Believe the priests, they know what they are doing.

 

[Gorgias]

I got married to a catholic man who had been divorced twice before. I was 21 not a part of the church. We had three children and almost 10 years later got a divorce. Six years later I remarried a man who was actively part of the Missionary Baptist Church. Thinking this would bring me back to the Lord we married. What a mistake. We divorced 5 years later. Always having that empty feeling I finally came back to the church when I was fifty. I have been to confession a couple of times and told my story. I was told I could receive the Eucharist. I have but still have this feeling its wrong. My first husband past away before I came back and I have not been in any relationship since coming back. Please help settle my heart. I have relatives that say I’m wrong. Thank you.

Remmy,

Yours isn’t a simple situation to analyze on an internet discussion forum!

You don’t mention when you became a Catholic, but you imply that, at least, you are now a Catholic. Without addressing the question of the validity of your marriages, it seems that you are now not living with anyone; therefore, if your pastor told you that you can receive communion, be assured that he knows what he’s talking about.

 

[Mike_Dye]

Remmy,

Yours isn’t a simple situation to analyze on an internet discussion forum!

You don’t mention when you became a Catholic, but you imply that, at least, you are now a Catholic. Without addressing the question of the validity of your marriages, it seems that you are now not living with anyone; therefore, if your pastor told you that you can receive communion, be assured that he knows what he’s talking about.

You can indeed receive communion. If you ever want to remarry you will have to go through the annulment process of course. Yours is a common concern, but rest assured, your priest was right.

 

[PennyinCanada]

Welcome home.
I really appreciate the respect that you are showing the Eucharist.
God bless and keep you close to His heart.

 

[PaulfromIowa]

Yes, OP, the story is a little unclear. You don’t say when you became Catholic. It sounds as though you were married outside the Church twice? Your first husband has passed away but the second is still alive?

If you are not in a new sexual relationship/marriage and have been to Confession, you may certainly take Communion. Trust in the Sacraments that Christ created for us.

If you would want to marry again, and your second husband were still alive, you would need a decree of nullity from the Church. If you were Catholic and married outside the Church without a dispensation, this would be a relatively simple “lack of form” case.

 

[Lapey]

I got married to a catholic man who had been divorced twice before. I was 21 not a part of the church. We had three children and almost 10 years later got a divorce. Six years later I remarried a man who was actively part of the Missionary Baptist Church. Thinking this would bring me back to the Lord we married. What a mistake. We divorced 5 years later. Always having that empty feeling I finally came back to the church when I was fifty. I have been to confession a couple of times and told my story. I was told I could receive the Eucharist. I have but still have this feeling its wrong. My first husband past away before I came back and I have not been in any relationship since coming back. Please help settle my heart. I have relatives that say I’m wrong. Thank you.

I agree with these statements by the other posters; except I would add this. Part of your uneasiness seems to be caused, I’m assuming here, your second marriage; the situation not the person. If this is the case then I would suggest starting the annulment process to “take care” of that situation. If the first marriage was valid, let’s assume it was, and your first husband is deceased, then the second would be what is called a “form” annulment. That simply means you were a Catholic who got married with the lack of form, by a Baptist minister and you were Catholic, and therefore not valid.

If you do that, then you are once again free to marry, there are no impediments and you are truly single.

I think, in my opinion, this is a step that would bring you further peace.