I think that goes both ways but, hey, if there’s too much heat in the chicken, you need not attend the EF or associate with anyone there. It’s not like there’s an EF in every Catholic parish.
Well, I do not hear complaints about people putting the EF down, or making disparaging remarks. I honestly cannot see what the source of that complaint is, but will assume someone is making such remarks; they did not come from me.
I have by no means travelled all over the country. I have attended Mass in other states in at least several (more than two, but not many) parishes in each state. What I have found in Masses in North Dakota, Montana, Utah, northern California and Washington, as well as numerous parishes in Oregon are Masses said with at least as much reverence as the average Masses I attended as a youth before Vatican 2; the GIRM is followed, there are no “clown Masses” or dancing in the isle or heretical opinions expressed during the homilies and things are far improved over what they generally seemed to be 20 or more years ago.
I understand people’s anger - I have seen the abuses in the past and am not ignorant of them. And it may well be that there are dioceses which are still liberal enough that the GIRM is considered a pronouncement “dead on arrival” from “those who don’t get it” in Rome. The fact that I have not been exposed to them does not mean that they do not exist. But the over-reaction of some who paint the entire OF as somewhere between always bad to clearly invalid gets a bit old. The reality is otherwise. It is like someone saying “It always rains in Oregon”. Hyperbole aside, that is not the truth nor anywhere near it.
And it is not about heat (and I presume you meant kitchen, not chicken?

); it is about truth. If something is wrong in a specific time and place, it is wrong. But going from a wrong to a universal is a prevarication. I have no use whatsoever of Sister Silly and Father Brainless who want to make the liturgy “relevant” and I will stand shoulder to shoulder with you on that one. And you have not been one to try to paint a universal picture, so my comment was not directed to you.
Part of Catholic faith is exercising charity, and part of charity is being truthful. The lack of charity concerning the OF is in some instances glaringly obvious. Being pharisaical was condemned 2000 years ago; we should have gotten the message by now.