Many people in US choose to live in a place without an HOA, and there are many such homes available, especially older homes.
My husband and I decided many years ago we wanted no part of HOA’s controlling stuff like what color we might paint our door.
I think HOA’s often fill a gap when people live so far out of a city that there aren’t municipal codes governing stuff like whether you can paint your door blue or have someone camp in your yard. Trouble is, the HOA officials often get to be rather like little dictators. Also, people who live in those types of places are looking for a lot of uniformity and generally those who buy property there are okay with HOA restrictions.