Homosexual marriage really wrong?

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2357 Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity, tradition has always declared that “homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered.” They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.
My bold added. To me, that means homosexual sex, not living together…

So answer me this. What biblical laws are two men breaking by being in such a relationship? I really doubt either would get married to a woman, and why would God give them a natural inclination towards each other and then tell them not to love each other?
 
My bold added. To me, that means homosexual sex, not living together…

So answer me this. What biblical laws are two men breaking by being in such a relationship? I really doubt either would get married to a woman, and why would God give them a natural inclination towards each other and then tell them not to love each other?
If they’re not engaging in sexual relations I suppose it’s possible that they could live together in a positive way but realistically, I think it’s putting both of them in a near occasion of sin but like I said it’s still possible I guess.
 
why would God give them a natural inclination towards each other and then tell them not to love each other?
That’s like saying “Why would God make a baby have only one arm?” or “Why would God make a couple think they love each other, but then later find out they don’t and get divorced?”

God is not responsible for negative things. God is good and only good can come from Good. God does not make people homosexual. We do not know scientifically right now what is responsible for it, but it is not God.

God does not personally tune each one of our sexual urges. Otherwise you could say “Why does God make some guys “get off” on rape?” if He didn’t mean for them to rape people.

In reality, a lot of people who are homosexual become that way after they are born because of the environment they’re in. Take Rosie O’Donnel. Her mom died when she was young, so obviously she would have a natural longing for that female influence. Then her dad abused her and her siblings, so she developed a natural distrust of men. God did not make her father abusive any more than He made Rosie gay.

As for the OP original article, right off the bat it shows it is ill researched because it says that the story of Adam and Eve is based off of Hebrew mythology. You might as well say that the story of Jesus is based off of Christian mythology. The creation of Adam and Eve is not just a story. If anything, it inspired the myth, not vice versa.

And all the sacraments are in the New Testament of the Bible: Jesus was baptized in the Jordon River, the Holy Spirit came down upon the disciples (Confirmation), the Last Supper (Eucharist), etc. Most of the names came later. Jesus didn’t walk around saying “And you shall call this sacrament 'Confirmation and this one ‘Marriage’.”

And as for personal interpretation of the Bible, the people who do interpret it have spent their lives studying languages and history in order to fully understand every word in every possible context. Most of us don’t have that kind of training and thus do not have the proper knowledge to actually interpret anything!

I think I’m up to about eight cents now! :twocents: :twocents: :twocents: :twocents:

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This is definitely not what the Church teaches. Homosexual relations are intrinsically disordered are a grave sin under any circumstances so whether it is civil unions, domestic partnerships, or gay marriage, it still is wrong!! Marriage is only acceptable when two people of opposite gender enter into a sacramental life-long relationship that is open to life. Period.
The idea that homosexual relationships are intrinsically
disordered is based on an understanding of natural law which is no longer supported by responsible scientific research. The attraction between homosexual couples is no different from the attraction between heterosexuals as it is based in the structure of the brain itself. It is not a consciously generated response. It is disordered if and only if consciously created on the part of the persons involved.
This is why I insist that we need a new word for a permanent relationship which is analogous to marriage but involves single sex pairing. I agree that calling it marriage is improper.
Let’s get on with the task of helping our homosexual brothers and sisters make better lives for themselves. Same sex pairings are as natural for them as they are for the rest of humanity. Let’s not insist that loving one another is wrong just because they’re not like us.

Matthew
 
We need a new word to apply to a monogamous, long term (life time), single sex relationships. Nowhere in my previous post did I say anything about sexual behaviour or activity. You and others have read that into my post when I specifically refrained from bringing that into it.
Do you have a dirty mind?

Matthew
In which case “Friendship” would be the appropriate word.

But “Friendship” is never exclusive.

You used the word “monogamous”, what exactly did you mean by “monogamous”

The core word means “single woman”. By definition then, it excludes a homosexual relationship. 2 homosexual men do not have a woman involved. A lesbian relationship has two.

So either you recognize that a homosexual relationship is never “monogamous”, or you have a different understanding of the word.

So how to you define “monogamous” in this context and we’ll work from there.
 
The idea that homosexual relationships are intrinsically
disordered is based on an understanding of natural law which is no longer supported by responsible scientific research. The attraction between homosexual couples is no different from the attraction between heterosexuals as it is based in the structure of the brain itself. It is not a consciously generated response. It is disordered if and only if consciously created on the part of the persons involved.
This is why I insist that we need a new word for a permanent relationship which is analogous to marriage but involves single sex pairing. I agree that calling it marriage is improper.
Let’s get on with the task of helping our homosexual brothers and sisters make better lives for themselves. Same sex pairings are as natural for them as they are for the rest of humanity. Let’s not insist that loving one another is wrong just because they’re not like us.

Matthew
Please do not blithely make statements that are not fact as if they were scientific fact. The causes for Homosexual orientation are unknown and could be a combination of factors, could be much more mutable than popular opinion suggests.

St. Paul seems to indicate that indulging in sin leads one further down the road of sin.
21 Because that, when they knew God, they have not glorified him as God, or given thanks; but became vain in their thoughts, and their foolish heart was darkened. 22 For professing themselves to be wise, they became fools. 23 And they changed the glory of the incorruptible God into the likeness of the image of a corruptible man, and of birds, and of fourfooted beasts, and of creeping things. 24 Wherefore God gave them up to the desires of their heart, unto uncleanness, to dishonour their own bodies among themselves. 25 Who changed the truth of God into a lie; and worshipped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.
26 For this cause God delivered them up to shameful affections. For their women have changed the natural use into that use which is against nature. 27 And, in like manner, the men also, leaving the natural use of the women, have burned in their lusts one towards another, men with men working that which is filthy, and receiving in themselves the recompense which was due to their error. 28 And as they liked not to have God in their knowledge, God delivered them up to a reprobate sense,
Clearly, how we conduct ourselves has a bearing on how we see ourselves which has a bearing on how we conduct ourselves. You wish to relegate an existential part of humans, their sexuality, to some sort of Darwinian predestionation–they’re born that way. I don’t think the evidence supports that conclusion solelyeither scientifically or scripturally.

Certainly we all have crosses and a maladjusted sexual impulse would be an example, but those crosses can be overcome just as a heterosexual single indi=vidual must deal with impulses toward lust when he is not married by prayer, by will, by mastery of his sexual identity, not simply throwing it on the altar of science and saying “I was born this way.” Bull. We all have to deal with our sexuality positively by practicing the virtue of chastity.

This is for everyone:
Matthew 5
8 Blessed are the clean of heart: for they shall see God.
 
The idea that homosexual relationships are intrinsically
disordered is based on an understanding of natural law which is no longer supported by responsible scientific research.
Natural Law is a Moral Code.

Since when does “Scientific Research” address moral issues?
 
Judging by how fast you replied, I doubt you even read the article. Also, I was wondering about the Sacraments. When, how, and by whom (Whom?) were they established?
All of the sacraments were instituted by Jesus, prior to His assumption into heaven. Jesus taught that marriage is between one man, and one woman, and this is God’s intention.
We;; yeah, really all of them. I don’t remember Jesus ever saying “this is confession. Here’s how it works,” or things like that.

Also, what’s wrong with personal interpretation? That’s what the Church i doing, isn’t it? They’re people, too, and don’t tell me that the Church is perfect when it comes to religion. Remember them thinking selling indulgences was okay?
questions on the rest of the sacraments may need to go to a new thread. The 'how to" is left up to the Church. That is what the Keys to the Kingdom and the authority to bind and loose represent.

Nothing is wrong with personal interpretation of the scripture. When a personal understanding differs from that of the Apostolic Teaching, it is lacking. The Church is the only authority to properly interpret it’s own writing.

The church was not selling indulgences. But that is an issue for another thread.
Well, I WAS a Catholic when I joined this site. I’m not sure what I am now, because it seems like some of the Church’s dogma isn’t drawn from the Bible, at least not entirely.
You may have been baptized Catholic, but you apparently were not formed in the Catholic faith. Catholics who are properly taught their faith understand that we are not Sola Scriputura (bible only). This is a rather modern heresey that has emerged.
Anyway, the post someone made above the one above this one seems to make good sense to me, and as long as they get the legal benefits a married couple gets, that’s fine by me.
If you are making yourself the final judge of what is fine, and setting aside the Teaching of Christ, then you are certainly not Catholic.
I’ll download that mp3 and listen to it later. And no, I’m not trying to “goad” anyone. I’m just trying to figure out the real source behind some of the Church’s beliefs and tell which ones are human-made and therefore not as…important? I don’t know.
You certainly came to the right place if you are genuinely wanting to learn the source behind the church’s beliefs. If you stick around, all your questions will be answered. None of the Church’s beliefs are “man made”. The Divine Deposit of faith is all revealed to us from God. All of the teachings of God are important.
 
Medik appears to be a non-Catholic posing as a Catholic on his profile in order to goad.

Medik: go to the home page of Catholic Answers and read the tracts that address your questions. It’s all in there. Then if you have real questions, come on back and we’ll kick 'em around.
That may be, but there are also a number of cradle Catholics that are poorly catechized.
Why is this thread in social justice?

If its about the sacraments I think it should be moved.
I think the OP was thinking that it would be socially just to allow homosexual marriage.
The only word we have which comes close is “marriage” and that raises hackles on too many people. The social scientists agree that long-term (life time) monogamous relationships result in lower stress levels, better general health, longer lifespans and happier people. It is devoutly to be hoped that homosexuals be encouraged to form such bonds for their own benefit and for the benefit of general society. In that sense homosexual “marriage” is not wrong. It is perceived as wrong to call it “marriage.” We need a new word here.

Matthew
Do you mean to say that civil union between two same sex persons would create the social justice that marriage does?
 
It seems to me that instead of going in with an open mind you’re going in with the idea that you KNOW what the Bible means and that no other interpretation could POSSIBLY be right, which is not a good mentality. I’m asking someone to show me WHY it’s wrong, not THAT it’s wrong.
The bible was written and preserved by the Church. It is not meant to be separated from the Apostolic tradition from which it was taken. There are some clear directions from that Apostolic Tradition that are clear about the meaning. There are some passages that are not mentioned. Of course one approaches with an open mind, but we must recognize at the outset that the Church already knows what the authors were trying to say, to a large extent, and we must be informed by that knowledge as we read it.

We know there are MANY other interpretations, which are responsible for the 20,000 Protestant denominations that exist today. If you wish to debate a certain passage of scripture, I suggest you post in the scripture area.
Well of course they say that, and probably think it’s true. That doesn’t mean it is. There was a Puritan lady in colonial times that thought that God had told her she was among the “elect.” Just because she said so doesn’t mean it’s true, even though she might have believed it.
You did not include the comment you are responding to in your post, so I am not sure what “they say that” is about. You are right, just because someone has a conviction about something, does not make it true.
I also am appalled that some of you think being homosexual is wrong. It’s not always a choice, you know. With all the prejudice today, why would anyone CHOOSE to be homosexual? Maybe you’re referring to homosexual sexual relations, not just living together in a loving relationship. In that case, I might agree. That’s not what sex was designed for.
The Church teaches that homosexuality is a “grave disorder” of the natural function. Church does not say it is "wrong’ to be this way, only to act out on it. I agree with you that it is appalling that anyone would choose to be homosexual, and I agree with you that homosexuals can and do live together in loving relationship. The Church teaches that such persons should remain celibate.
Also, can any of you honestly say that in the course of Church teachings no priest or Pope has EVER put their own views down as dogma?
Yes.
 
We need a new word to apply to a monogamous, long term (life time), single sex relationships. Nowhere in my previous post did I say anything about sexual behaviour or activity. You and others have read that into my post when I specifically refrained from bringing that into it.
Do you have a dirty mind?

Matthew
Sexuality is not “dirty”, it is created by God. Misuse of the sexual give brings condemnation upon persons and “dirties” the soul. Even a heterosexual couple intending to marry are urged not to put themeselves in near occasion of sin (sex before marriage) by living together. It is placing oneself in the way of temptation to live with another toward whom one is sexually attracted.
 
I agree with you there, actually. But what’s to stop two celibate men loving each other and living celibate-ly together? And how does it hurt us to let them get similar tax benefits and whatnot in the secular sector?
Nothing. Monks do it everyday, and have for centuries. I also think that tax and other benefits should not be dependent upon marriage. I would love to get my adult brother on my plan.
Also, about the Church never making mistakes: I guess I was wrong about indulgences, sorry. What about this:

Sure, it helped slaves, but a far as I can tell, it LET THEM BECOME SLAVES. It let slaves buy their freedom, but as far as I can find, didn’t make any motion to prevent them becoming slaves in the first place.
The Pope was the only one to publish that it was wrong to enslave people according to their race, and this happened in 1500 and something, long before America was created. But that is an issue for another thread too. You are going to be very busy!
 
My bold added. To me, that means homosexual sex, not living together…

So answer me this. What biblical laws are two men breaking by being in such a relationship? I really doubt either would get married to a woman, and why would God give them a natural inclination towards each other and then tell them not to love each other?
It cannot be assumed that “God gave” them the inclination. Secondly, we are ALL told to love each other. The biblical definition of agape love does not include sex.
 
It cannot be assumed that “God gave” them the inclination. Secondly, we are ALL told to love each other. The biblical definition of agape love does not include sex.
Well, if there are biological determinants in same sex attraction, which it is being discovered there are, who did give them this inclination? God is in charge of nature is he not? I believe God gives some this inclination to see how they will handle it. I am still opposed to homosexual activity but I will not call the inclination disordered.
 
The idea that homosexual relationships are intrinsically
disordered is based on an understanding of natural law which is no longer supported by responsible scientific research.
Horse hockey. this understanding existed long before any moderns science.
The attraction between homosexual couples is no different from the attraction between heterosexuals as it is based in the structure of the brain itself. It is not a consciously generated response. It is disordered if and only if consciously created on the part of the persons involved.
This is more horse hockey. By this logic, you have to agree that the attraction of a man for little girls (pre-pubescent) is based in the braind structure, and is only disordered of it is consciously created.
This is why I insist that we need a new word for a permanent relationship which is analogous to marriage but involves single sex pairing. I agree that calling it marriage is improper.
Let’s get on with the task of helping our homosexual brothers and sisters make better lives for themselves. Same sex pairings are as natural for them as they are for the rest of humanity. Let’s not insist that loving one another is wrong just because they’re not like us.

Matthew
Loving others is never wrong. Having sexual contact outside the sacramental marriage is wrong. The Church does teach that we are to help our homosexual brothers and sisters make better lives for themselves. The Church believes that the first step in that process if making Jesus the Lord of one’s life.
 
… “The natural moral law expresses and lays down the purposes, rights and duties which are based upon the bodily and spiritual nature of the human person. Therefore this law cannot be thought of as simply a set of norms on the biological level; rather it must be defined as the rational order whereby man is called by the Creator to direct and regulate his life and actions and in particular to make use of his own body”.90
Indeed, natural inclinations take on moral relevance only insofar as they refer to the human person and his authentic fulfilment, a fulfilment which for that matter can take place always and only in human nature…Veritatis splendor
http://http://www.vatican.va/holy_f...jp-ii_enc_06081993_veritatis-splendor_en.html

What is being revealed here is that simply because a person may have an inclination,* naturally*, does not mean it is natural in the moral sense.
Morality concerns, not what simply is or is deep-seated or usual, but rather the good, and the various kinds of good (goods), which should be sought, chosen, and done,. Everything that should be, and is choiceworthy, is natural and grounded in the givens of human nature. But not everything we find in our nature is a pointer to what is good, choiceworthy and reasonable. For example, as St Thomas Aquinas, the master theorist of natural law morality, points out, we all have “a natural inclination to follow our bodily feelings and desires even against the good of being reasonable.”[15] This is one of many “natural” – i.e. innate, deep-seated, typical – inclinations which should *not *simply be followed!
 
Well, if there are biological determinants in same sex attraction, which it is being discovered there are, who did give them this inclination? God is in charge of nature is he not? I believe God gives some this inclination to see how they will handle it.
More likely, God ALLOWED it to happen and offers them the Grace to overcome it.

The same is true for Alcoholics. There are biologica factors that contribute to Alcoholism.

That does NOT mean that drunkeness is now a Moral act for Alcoholics. It does NOT mean that Alcholism is not a moral disorder either.

What it DOES mean is that the Alcoholic needs extra vigilance to avoid this sin, and God will provide the Grace to do so if asked.

The exact same situation applies to homosexuality, pornography, adultery and a myriad of other moral disorders.

God provides a solution to all of those ( abstinece from the sin) and the Grace to overcome any inclinations towards them.
I am still opposed to homosexual activity but I will not call the inclination disordered.
It is a Disorder. It is a Moral Disorder.

Homosexuality is Ordered (directed towards) a Moral falsehood. By defintion then, it is a Moral Disorder.
 
Well, if there are biological determinants in same sex attraction, which it is being discovered there are, who did give them this inclination? God is in charge of nature is he not? I believe God gives some this inclination to see how they will handle it. I am still opposed to homosexual activity but I will not call the inclination disordered.
There are biological determinants in violent behavior, alcholoism and drug addicition. Are those not disordered behaviors?
 
There are biological determinants in violent behavior, alcholoism and drug addicition. Are those not disordered behaviors?
They minimally reduce the culpability of the behaviour.

The establishment of lifetime, committed, single partner relationships characterized by emotional, spiritual and psychological support and nurture is an objective good from the sociological, psychological, and medical perspectives. We should be encouraging and legitamizing the formation of such relationships for all adult members of society. It is the nature of heterosexuals to pair bond with members of the opposite sex and for homosexuals to pair bond with members of the same sex. When heterosexuals do what is normal for them to do, we applaud, congratulate and give gifts. When homosexuals do what is natural for them to do, we cry “foul.”
Remember that the only thing you can bring with you before the throne of God is the relationships you forged in life. You leave behind the GIRM, your religious affiliations your codesof canon law, your dogmas, your college degrees, your job titles, your awards and plaudits. When you cry against the homosexual who does the same thing that you have done, you are forging a relationship. Is it one that you want to take before the throne of the Most High?
Go and learn what this means: “I desire mercy, not sacrifice.”

Matthew
 
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