Homosexual parents

[ThyKingdomCome]

…The concern is that she just recently introduced herself and her partner to my sister and said she will be calling so the boys can play together. She said her and her partner go out of town a lot and her son would like my nephew to come along…

I erased all but the more important part of your post (notice it doesn’t include the sexual orientation of the parents). I find it incredibly creepy for someone I JUST MET, to invite my child out of town. The fact that the wording (if we are getting it accurately) is that her son would like them to take him out of town, decreases the creep factor a bit, but I would assume that the mother agrees with her son, and is making this offer. I would NEVER ask a person to give their child up to me to go out of town, without even knowing them yet! That shows a serious lack of boundaries.

For that reason alone, no matter what the orientation or values of the parents, I would keep this family at arms length, at least until I got them well enough for my bad impression to be proven wrong. If a lovely, married, conservative, Catholic, homeschooling family said this to me, I’d be put off and would keep a distance. Really, it’s just creepy.

That said, even if there were no creepy, way too much way to soon factor, and this was just a nice boy with nice moms, I would still keep a distance. I know full well that my children are influenced by their friends, and by the values of their friends’ families - at least when they are close enough to be a part of their daily lives. I don’t imagine I would explain why, but just encourage my child in other interests/friends and just not encourage an intense relationship with this family.

 

[esieffe]

Simple: “We don’t allow him to travel without us, but thanks so much for the offer! Maybe sometime your son can take a little trip with us. They have so much fun together!”

It makes it about your comfort level as a parent, and not really about their lifestyle.
I’m sure they realize you are Catholic.By keeping the lines of communication open, you are demonstrating peace to your sisters, but still holding your values.

There may come a time when they may want to dialog with you about the Church’s view.
Would be nice to have them trust you.

That is what I would tell them. Don’t even get into any other kind of discussion.

You can’t wind back the clock. What if the ladies son feels the urge to explore at some point? I hate to say that, and such a thing has happened in “traditional” situations, but why take a chance with something so important. It could very well be that your son would reject any overtures, but why put him through it?

I think it is fine if they play at your house, and most likely I am being over cautious, but that is what you do with kids, be over cautious. We all know where being “lax” can take you.

 

[gam197]

These parents are trying to find friends for their son.

I would simply say that we don’t allow our children to go out of town and I would not invite their son to go out of town either. It makes it sound like it’s OK if they go out of town with me but not with you. I’d try to stay away from this all together.

Children usually stay at home in their own bed.

This does cause a major problem. I would allow them to play in my home. This may seem offensive in that I don’t allow them to go over to their house but I really preferred my children stayed at home with friends, because I wasn’t sure what movies not just them but all of the parents would allow, how the parents would act or what activities they would allow.

 

[Irishmom2]

Out of town with mere acquaintances at 9 years old? That sounds nuts. The lesbian aspect doesn’t even factor in.

I agree with this. No explanation need be given other than this.

 

[Anglewannabe]

I grew up back in the day when I had a single parent mom and lived in a crummy ap. The line “You can play at my house anytime, but I can’t come to yours, sell girls scout cookies with you,”
was a polite way to say I lived in the “bad part of town” with neighbors what were “iffy” in their minds.

I knew it as a kid at a very young age. Sadly there is no way around the truth at the end of the day no matter how politely you word it.

I am terribly sorry you went through that. However, there is a big difference. Your mom did her best. If at any point your mom did sin and then went to confession, then there is no more sin on her part.

However these women are living in sin and that is very different.

I would simply say to my son ‘You can not go over to your friends house and I will explain when you are older’.

Once he is old enough to be told, then I would simply explain it is not his friends fault, but you did not want him to grow up thinking homosexuality was ok