Homosexuality...and my girlfriend

[buffalo]

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[Alison]

My friend was once in your position so I know what you’re dealing with. After much thought he chose to stick with the teachings of the Church because he wanted to raise his children in an environment where his wife would consent of him raising the children Catholic (and that meant being faithful to the Church’s teachings). Since his girlfriend was not too fond of that, he ended the relationship and has remained friends with her ever since. He tells me that he is more than happy with his decision because he has saved himself from future turmoil and conflict. What’s more, God is leading him to wonderful, and genuinely God-loving women of whom one could very well be his wife. God loves.

-Alison

 

[LeahInancsi]

I have nothing to say, except that I could compromise on the gay issue, but nothing else that’s been discussed above. I held out for the perfect Catholic guy, but he never came. At 49, I’m sitting here with a cat, a dog, me and God.

I’m not a perfect Catholic, yet.

BTW, I don’t have any regrets. The guys I passed on weren’t that great.

 

[Amie]

I once dated a wonderful “Catholic” man who thought that assisted suicide should be allowed because it’s “none of our business” if someone feels they need to die. I asked him, “So, if our 18 year old daughter decided that she was really depressed over something, like a boyfriend leaving her, and she decided to kill herself, then you would be okay with her doing so?” And he basically said, “Well, no I wouldn’t want her too, but I guess it wouldn’t be our business at that point” or something to that effect. I ended the relationship. Although we met on other issues in our lives, this was too important. I thought it was just a fundamental way of thinking that he did not share with me. I could never personally handle it.

I doubt this helps too much, it is so hard to leave someone you love, but I do believe that since marriage is for a lifetime, you would be doing yourself a favor to marry someone that you will not have to fight with over these issues the rest of your life. It may end a marriage in the future, especially since this is probably just the tip of the iceburg on some other beliefs she may have that you also do not share.

Good luck and God bless,
-Amy

 

[LSK]

I think you ask some very valid questions as to whether this would be a sticking point for you later, in marriage. If it would, and you would be more comfortable with a Catholic Christian that shares our views then the course of action you should take is clear - simple, but not easy.

I too have many close friends who are active homosexuals. They know I am a traditional Catholic. It causes no problems because, as they know, the Church does not demand that every one become a Catholic - we simply state the truth.