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I wouldn’t bet on that.Johnny
No one can drive another person to commit suicide.
I wouldn’t bet on that.Johnny
No one can drive another person to commit suicide.
I don’t think the church is entirely wrong, but a binary understanding of sexuality is incomplete. This was not how sexuality was understood in the ancient world. In Plato’s Symposim, Aristophanes tells a non-literal story of how in the beginning, there were three sexes. It’s an amusing and illuminating piece of writing, explaining how different sexual identities came to be and acknowlegding these differences as an obvious reality. I don’t think a homosexual leaning person can restructure or re-align their sexuality. Of course this presents a problem as Christ only sanctified hetero-marriage. Also, sometimes people are quick to quote Leviticus or Romans, which can be interpreted in various ways, but what of David and Jonathan. “Thy love to me was wonderful surpassing that of woman”. That statement of love can be interpreted in various ways as wells. I don’ t think there is as much clarity on the matter as some Christians believe.
What I suggest you do is to find a nice, attractive girl. Spend some time with her. Maybe have some physical intimacy, without crossing the line into fornication. Sometimes, family relationships cause homosexuality- maybe spend less time with your parents and siblings.
Studies show orientations are flexible. You might find that it will put you on a new path.
I’m guessing because people are telling him that a core component of his soul is ‘broken’/‘wrong.’ That’s a very tough pill to swallow, and it tends to be delivered rather flippantly.What in the world? Johnny, several people were very nice and helpful to you in the other thread that you started about SSA. You acknowledged that those ppl were both nice and helpful. what could have happened to make you lash out in this way?
It’s not very forthright of you to neglect the second paragraph of the post to which you responded, which is the poster’s full message. You quoted only this part:I’m guessing because people are telling him that a core component of his soul is ‘broken’/‘wrong.’ That’s a very tough pill to swallow, and it tends to be delivered rather flippantly.
I will include the full context, in which she responds rhetorically to the question you “answered.”What in the world? Johnny, several people were very nice and helpful to you in the other thread that you started about SSA. You acknowledged that those ppl were both nice and helpful. what could have happened to make you lash out in this way?
The Catholic Church does not teach that homosexual attraction is “a core component of one’s soul/being.” That is an invented, contemporary notion designed to elevate a disordered inclination to something sacred and blessed by God. God, who infuses human beings with souls, does not create disorder as something intrinsic to that soul. Rather, we develop various disorders as compensations for our brokenness, which, as fallen creatures, we are all vulnerable to.As other posters have already said, the Church does NOT say that you are evil because you have homosexual feelings. This post of yours is unfortunately filled with pain, hate, and misinformation. Perhaps if you can tell us why you are saying these things, someone can talk you through it.
Yeah, imagine: Biology designing complementary parts to fit together. “Arbitrary”? LOL. (It is, rather, exquisitely logical.Judging events and situations as being ‘not the way they were designed’ or ‘unnatural’ is philosophically arbitrary.
Only in contemporary America would it be assumed that sexualizing those relationships is essential to community; it isn’t, and never has been. It’s just that most people have now been propagandized to believe that relationships are incomplete without sexual expression. That’s a complete fiction.If homosexuals share their brokenness with each other and become a community because of it, I’d say that’s far superior to a forced loneliness.
Johnny, I promise you I have never thought or said anyone was evil because they were gay. It’s just a trait, like skin color. People have been hated for that, too.The only reason why I’m writing this is because I’m sick and tired of being called ‘evil’ just because of my sexual orientation.
I strongly believe I’m a loving person. I love my life, my family and friends. ALL human beings are creatures of love, no matter what they are attracted to.
At the end of the day that’s all it is, a sexual orientation. Just because I’m gay doesnt mean I’m ‘evil’. I’m tired of the Catholic Church in particular persuading people that it’s wrong. It is not, nor has it ever been.
-Johnny
You have a misconception of what the Church teaches about homosexuals, which is that they are entitled to the same human dignity that anyone else is.The only reason why I’m writing this is because I’m sick and tired of being called ‘evil’ just because of my sexual orientation.
I strongly believe I’m a loving person. I love my life, my family and friends. ALL human beings are creatures of love, no matter what they are attracted to.
At the end of the day that’s all it is, a sexual orientation. Just because I’m gay doesnt mean I’m ‘evil’. I’m tired of the Catholic Church in particular persuading people that it’s wrong. It is not, nor has it ever been.
A foster home with a husband and wife? Yes.In reference to another thread about gay couples being allowed to adopt, to quote one of this websites answers “Adoption is for the benefit of the child involved”. Are you saying a child is better to be in a foster home rather than be adopted by a same-sex couple?
How do you know?Homosexuality is not contagious, its not caused by mothers ‘loving’ their child that bit too much. I was born this way.
You have to ask yourself if why they are committing suicide. The latest [as far as I know] is the student who was videoed in the act. Would a heterosexual man commit suicide if someone videoed him in the act? I doubt it. So what’s the difference?I always wonder why the Church continues this mentality, when thousands of people (teenagers in particular) are committing suicide because they can’t live with being gay because YOU are telling them they are evil?
*] Argument from Darwinism: It’s contrary to the laws of Darwinism. Survival and Procreation of the species.Yeah, I really don’t understand the stance on this issue. I’ve looked into it enough to have heard a plethora of arguments from both sides, and what I’m forced to admit is that having the stance of “Homosexuality in ANY context is inherently disordered” is not a strong argument position.
Let’s let them ‘love’ each other at the risks they will bring to themselves? Correlations have been made, if I recall correctly to the AIDs epicdemic and homosexuality. If this correlation is true, can you really advocate such a position? One would then say that one with an sexual infection should be allowed to infect the other because you ‘love’ them. Would you really risk such infections on the basis of love?How about the alternative: How well could a person argue that enforced celibacy is better for the function of society than the ability to join with another person you love?
No one is arguing segregation.I believe that people function better when they are part of a larger social group, not separated from it.
Invalid argument, computers are entirely based on natural concepts, (name removed by moderator)uts and outputs, currents, etc.As far as homosexuality being ‘intrinsically disordered’ there have been a number of fairly compelling arguments regarding the other ‘unnatural’ events that are part of our lives.
Such as this thing I’m typing on.
Why? Who are you to judge that they are the way they were designed? By what authority? Not the way they were designed stems from those I have mentioned above. Not my authority, but that above me and from the observations made from the nature of man.Judging events and situations as being ‘not the way they were designed’ or ‘unnatural’ is philosophically arbitrary.
I don’t have an argument against that for now, as it enters into the realms of the morally permissible and free will. However, the OP designated a challenge to the Church.I find it helpful to view situations in the context of “freedom of the individual ends where it infringes on the freedoms of another” - and I can’t see how the actions of two consenting adults could possibly limit the freedoms of anyone else.
Is loneliness associated with sex alone? What about brotherhood and friendship?If homosexuals share their brokenness with each other and become a community because of it, I’d say that’s far superior to a forced loneliness.
*] Argument from Darwinism: It’s contrary to the laws of Darwinism. Survival and Procreation of the species.
*] Argument from God: It’s contrary to the Law of God, a must for any Catholic.
*] Argument from Ontological and Biological purpose: It’s contrary to the biological purpose of man. The sexual organs of both a man and woman are unique for their unique functions in the role of procreation.
*] Argument from Desire: The act, in the inability to procreate due to the distortian of the sexual purpose, is an act of Lust.
*] Argument from Population: Population shows that Homosexuality is small in comparison to the overtly major which are Heterosexual. An argument from numbers can be made.
Let’s let them ‘love’ each other at the risks they will bring to themselves? Correlations have been made, if I recall correctly to the AIDs epicdemic and homosexuality. If this correlation is true, can you really advocate such a position? One would then say that one with an sexual infection should be allowed to infect the other because you ‘love’ them. Would you really risk such infections on the basis of love?
No one is arguing segregation.
Invalid argument, computers are entirely based on natural concepts, (name removed by moderator)uts and outputs, currents, etc.
Why? Who are you to judge that they are the way they were designed? By what authority? Not the way they were designed stems from those I have mentioned above. Not my authority, but that above me and from the observations made from the nature of man.
I don’t have an argument against that for now, as it enters into the realms of the morally permissible and free will. However, the OP designated a challenge to the Church.
Is loneliness associated with sex alone? What about brotherhood and friendship?
One is not ‘Evil’ for being tempted in such a manner, just as any Heterosexual will be tempted in the same manner. It is however, contrary to the normality of man, and will be a heavy cross for any man or woman to bear. The Church is open to the Homosexual, it asks one to be celibate and take up the Cross.
As Sedonaman says, the reason why those commit suicide are unknown.
God Bless,
Christopher.
[Bolding added]Johnny, I promise you I have never thought or said anyone was evil because they were gay. It’s just a trait, like skin color. People have been hated for that, too.
What I want for you is to be careful you don’t confuse Church teaching - the actual teaching - with what a bunch of individual people who belong to the Church say.
You are a beautiful and beloved child of God made in His image just as the rest of us are.
Why can’t most Catholics simply admit that it’s quite possible for those kind of people to wind up in situations where they are in love with a person and that they have no hope of ever having a meangful positive relationship with them or permanently being wsith someone they love? Instead Catholics prance around like faeries saying that oh if they only go through reparative therapy everything will be all better and then they’ll be attracted to the opposite sex and this heavy cross wil magically go away.[Bolding added]
Our homosexual brothers and sisters truly need our sympathy for this hard but not insurmountable cross. They do not need affirmation of a homosexual lifestyle.
Your post in part perpetuates inaccurate and unhelpful comments where bolded. Homosexuality (the attraction to have sex with members of the same gender and behaviour) is not a trait like skin color. Skin color is a biological and genetic trait, where choice of having it or not is clearly out. Even with mapping of the DNA, no gay gene has been discovered. The psychogenesis of homosexuality is unknown, which is the most that the Church says about its etiology.
Racism (discrimination against people of other skin color in the work place, with respect to voting rights, as partners in marriage, or associates in the social and economic areas of life) was wrong then and wrong now. Homosexuals are not discriminated in such ways in the society we live. Since marriage rights are included in the foregoing, it needs to be said that the opposition to the agenda of the homosexual movement towards legalization of gay ‘marriage’ and placement of children with adopting gay ‘married’ couples is not unjust discrimination.
I have not come across in this forum any poster calling gay people evil, as Johnny760 claims. Just by regarding what our physical body tells us, ordered sexual desire and intimacy with another person would be for one of the opposite sex. Sexual intimacy with the same gender would be disordered and immoral. It is the act itself and active lusting for such behaviour that is evil.
As for the other points that Johnny has griped in his OP, sedonaman made a compelling reply in his post in #148.
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I thought I did earlier. And are there not many single men and women who wished it could have been different and they had met the opposite sex partner for their lifetime – had children and all that marriage has to offer?Why can’t most Catholics simply admit that it’s quite possible for those kind of people to wind up in situations where they are in love with a person and that they have no hope of ever having a meangful positive relationship with them or permanently being wsith someone they love?
Indeed, there are many single men and women who wished it could have been different and they had met the opposite sex partner for their lifetime, but they had the illusion of hope all along, L&G Catholics are deprived that sweet succor. To live out purgation on Earth would break many people .I thought I did earlier. And are there not many single men and women who wished it could have been different and they had met the opposite sex partner for their lifetime – had children and all that marriage has to offer?
It’s not only homosexuals who are called to the unmarried celibate life. Not every hetero get his or her dream marriage with children either.
Sometimes our desires do not coincide with God’s plan – gay or straight. And you play the hand you are dealt, in accordance with the Church’s teachings. We all have SOMETHING that we wished would have turned out differently.
Indeed, there are many single men and women who wished it could have been different and they had met the opposite sex partner for their lifetime, but they had the illusion of hope all along, L&G Catholics are deprived that sweet succor. To live out purgation on Earth would break many people .