My pastor is proposing to begin a ministry to lesbians and gays by making our parish a “welcoming church.” He has asked for feedback on this from me and the other members of the pastoral council. My gut feeling is positive in that I’d like to bring the good news of Christ to these people. I’ve read the USCCB statement “Ministry to Persons with a Homosexual Inclination” which I found to be very informative and helpful.
I still have a concern, however, and it has to do with welcoming homosexuals into full participation within our parish without making it clear to them that homosexual acts are sinful. In particular, I don’t feel that it would be right for them to partake of holy communion while still engaged in a homosexual lifestyle, without any intention to change. (In fairness, I also feel this way about the straight men and women in our church who are cohabiting, yet who receive communion with no compunction at all about their behavior.)
Any insight you can offer would be appreciated…
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john 4 “the true worshippers will worship in spirit and in truth” so start with the truth. it could be something like this.
to a homosexual brother in christ. "first of all we want to ask your forgiveness that there was ever a time that you were rejected by the body of christ, the church. and that we are actually engaged in “opening our doors to you” effort, that they have not always been open. we also want to ask your forgiveness for any abandonment that you have suffered from friends and family knowing that our attitude toward homosexuals in the past, may have contributed directly or indirectly to that abandonment.(matthew 5:23-24)
so our opening our doors is an act of contrition. in the spirit of that contrition i have openly admit that our understanding about homosexuality, comes from secular as well as religious cultural influence from birth. we have never worshipped and fellowshipped with any homosexuals openly.
in the spirit of unity, we acknowledge with you, that god has given all of us hearts of flesh and written his laws on them, plus we are all created thru the same spirit, christ.
so to honor your hearts as well as our own, we give up any of our negative understandings about homosexuality (romans 12), and honor what you believe in your hearts (the ones that christ lives in) for the sake of fellowship)(honoring each others heart). that is so our primary effort can be the fellowship of the light.(1john1). that is we have a unified relationship in christ first, and that remains first before any various interpretations of the law, or adherence to any writtenn code.(romans 7:6)
and we are doing this in faith, trusting in the holy spirit. that he will reveal to both of us, together whatever is necessary. and that whatever is revealed will glorify the father and deepen our unity in christ. and that it will honor both our hearts, and christ, the one who lives in them. (ephesians 2:8-9)(1john1)
in this process of listening and worship together we will embrace the fruit of the spirit as the guide by which we will fellowship. together…love,joy,peace,kindness,patience,goodness,self-control,faithfulness, and gentleness… loving each other the way the way we love ourselves, and by the way in which we know christ loves us."(galatians 5)
PUT THIS IN WRITING. READ TO THE CONGREGATION. IF ALL AGREE THIS IS CONSISTENT OF WHAT WE KNOW OF THE LOVE OF CHRIST AND THE WORD OF LIFE OF 1JOHN1. LET EVERYONE SIGN OFF ON IT IN A VOTE. AND GIVE EVERYONE A COPY.