Hormones

[Churchman25]

My sister is sometimes disrespectful to my mother because of irritability. For example today we were in the car and my mother had to stop suddenly to let some people cross part of a parking lot. Then my sister got upset and started saying things like oh my God. She said it in a way that was rude. I do understand this is caused by hormones. Now my question is can women being disrespectful towards parents because of hormones can this sort of thing be considered sin?

 

[Churchman25]

Also for one more thing added my sister is 15.

 

[felsguy]

My sister is sometimes disrespectful to my mother because of irritability. For example today we were in the car and my mother had to stop suddenly to let some people cross part of a parking lot. Then my sister got upset and started saying things like oh my God. She said it in a way that was rude. I do understand this is caused by hormones. Now my question is can women being disrespectful towards parents because of hormones can this sort of thing be considered sin?

This guy ain’t gonna go near that one.:nope:

 

[ShrodingersCat]

Hormones are no excuse for rude behaviour. Women are more than capable of controlling themselves if they so wish. Your sister doesn’t wish to. Is she a teenager? Because it sounds like normal teenage behaviour, but it doesn’t mean it isn’t disrespectful and she should cop on. Which, no doubt, she will once she matures.

 

[RPRPsych]

Hormones are no excuse for rude behaviour. Women are more than capable of controlling themselves if they so wish. Your sister doesn’t wish to. Is she a teenager? Because it sounds like normal teenage behaviour, but it doesn’t mean it isn’t disrespectful and she should cop on. Which, no doubt, she will once she matures.

I think hormones get a lot of undue flak in this world, sometimes amounting to a sexist caricature of women as irrational, emotionally labile, hormone-driven creatures.

There probably is a simpler explanation for your sister’s conduct - it’s called adolescence, it affects both sexes, and it’s temporary.

 

[PaulfromIowa]

She said it in a way that was rude. I do understand this is caused by hormones. Now my question is can women being disrespectful towards parents because of hormones can this sort of thing be considered sin?

My friend, you need to forget this nonsense and never say it again. Girls or women are not driven crazy by hormones any more than men are.

 

[Churchman25]

My friend, you need to forget this nonsense and never say it again. Girls or women are not driven crazy by hormones any more than men are.

No im not trying to paint women into a corner. I can tell you this there is this thing called pre-menstrual syndrome this does not affect all girls but I think this could be the root of her bad behavior.

 

[mommy_k]

No im not trying to paint women into a corner. I can tell you this there is this thing called pre-menstrual syndrome this does not affect all girls but I think this could be the root of her bad behavior.

No…it’s her personality combined with other things perhaps hormones …Not every woman acts like this during this time. She needs to check herself or go to the doctor to minimize and manage. And u should not assume.

Think about it, we do not get a free pass for acting rudely or doing bad things because of hornones, even in the law. Can u imagine telling a police officer, well, I did this thing because of pms?

 

[ShrodingersCat]

No im not trying to paint women into a corner. I can tell you this there is this thing called pre-menstrual syndrome this does not affect all girls but I think this could be the root of her bad behavior.

We knew what you meant when you said hormones

PMS is still no excuse. Yes, when your progesterone is high you are more likely to get annoyed at trivial things. A bad day at work, however, will make me more likely to want to snap at someone than hormone levels will. But I am fully capable of deciding not to be rude even if I want to be. PMS Hormones do not remove my free will.

Honestly, she’s just a teenager. It’s normal behaviour for a teen and is the reason why people find teens annoying

 

[GEddie]

I think hormones get a lot of undue flak in this world, sometimes amounting to a sexist caricature of women as irrational, emotionally labile, hormone-driven creatures.

There probably is a simpler explanation for your sister’s conduct - it’s called adolescence, it affects both sexes, and it’s temporary.

But adolescence is by definition mediated by a rush of hormones.

It’s six of one, half dozen of the other.

ICXC NIKA

 

[macstar]

It may help if your sister keeps track of her menstrual cycles, writing them down or learning from an instructor such as the Creighton Model. She may see a pattern and be aware that at a certain time her hormones may amplify feelings and behavior. Then she can do things to relieve the stress (such as getting more rest, eating healthier) and/or choose different behavior. Knowing is half the battle!

 

[SMHW]

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My sister is sometimes disrespectful to my mother because of irritability. For example today we were in the car and my mother had to stop suddenly to let some people cross part of a parking lot. Then my sister got upset and started saying things like oh my God. She said it in a way that was rude. I do understand this is caused by hormones. Now my question is can women being disrespectful towards parents because of hormones can this sort of thing be considered sin?

I think teenagers (and for that matter, people of any age who are experiencing extreme hormonally or situationally induced emotions) should be given reasonable consideration by those who must endure their outbursts.

However, in the case of teenagers, the parents might consider offering alternative phonations for their feelings. Not every thought or feeling requires us to invoke God’s name or to make reference to bodily functions and emissions. Asking (and expecting) a teen to state the actual reason for his emotions can be a step in helping the teen to control those emotions.

A bit of humor, (even when God’s name is being invoked improperly,) can be useful when correcting a child. “Honey, maybe we should say the entire prayer. 'Oh my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended…” If a child uses a single bad word the parent can say, “Dear, I prefer that you to express your feelings in full sentences.” (That last one can backfire!)

 

[BoomBoomMancini]

Sounds like your sister is just being a snotty teenager. She’ll grow out of it. Most people, male and female, go through a phase where they’re difficult and overly dramatic, especially with their parents.

Not saying it’s a good thing obviously, but it is very normal.

 

[PhiloMed]

It may help if your sister keeps track of her menstrual cycles, writing them down or learning from an instructor such as the Creighton Model. She may see a pattern and be aware that at a certain time her hormones may amplify feelings and behavior. Then she can do things to relieve the stress (such as getting more rest, eating healthier) and/or choose different behavior. Knowing is half the battle!

But if the OP would like to see his next birthday he probably should not make this suggestion to his sister.

 

[TCEL]

It may help if your sister keeps track of her menstrual cycles, writing them down or learning from an instructor such as the Creighton Model. She may see a pattern and be aware that at a certain time her hormones may amplify feelings and behavior. Then she can do things to relieve the stress (such as getting more rest, eating healthier) and/or choose different behavior. Knowing is half the battle!

When I was learning Creighton for marriage prep, the book made quite a point that PMS is real, and that furthermore, downplaying it can hinder some women from getting real help. No two women are exactly the same in this regard, and it’s good to know how to handle it. Hormonally, I personally don’t get too off-kilter. That’s not my particular challenge. However, sometimes I’m prone to passing out when I’m cramping from my periods. It took several times for me to learn the warning signs and how to adequately handle it. (It’s also why, right now while I’m pregnant, I take those same passing out signs seriously and don’t care if people think I’m being a wimp. Better to be thought a wimp than a preventable fall possibly harming the baby.)

PMS is not an excuse for bad behavior, but it is a biological reality that affects women in different ways, even from period to period. Nothing in the OP sounds unusual or excuses rude behavior, but if the OP has true concerns on how to better handle their sister acting like this, they should ask their Mom for more guidance, awkward as it may be.

 

[GEddie]

Women have PMS, so men have ESPN.



Unknown

 

[TCEL]

Women have PMS, so men have ESPN.



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I admit, that made me laugh.

 

[mommy_k]

No…it’s her personality combined with other things perhaps hormones …Not every woman acts like this during this time. She needs to check herself or go to the doctor to minimize and manage. And u should not assume.

Someone just let me know that my answer may be misleading, and I want to clarify…

I did not mean the op suggest that she go to the doctor to get hormone adjusting drugs or abc for treatment. I have a Catholic doctor, so I did not even think about this…

I’m glad someone caught this…it would have been very bad advice if taken the wrong way.

 

[Sarcelle]

No…it’s her personality combined with other things perhaps hormones …Not every woman acts like this during this time. She needs to check herself or go to the doctor to minimize and manage. And u should not assume.

Think about it, we do not get a free pass for acting rudely or doing bad things because of hornones, even in the law. Can u imagine telling a police officer, well, I did this thing because of pms?

Try using that excuse at the workplace.

See how far that gets you.

 

[Allegra]

PMS does make some women more irritable, but we have to learn to live with others even when we aren’t feeling well. As your sister matures, she will learn this. On the other hand, this doesn’t seem like such a transgression to me. I try to avoid taking the Lord’s name in vain, however, I’m certainly not above expressing frustration when I have to stop for pedestrians at an inopportune time. Unless your sister was berating your mother for not mowing them down, I would say grumbling at annoying traffic is a minor sin at most, PMS or not. You might just point out that OMGs make you uncomfortable and ask her to find other ways to express her annoyance when around you.