House vs. house (help)

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Reading the OP’s posts he wants to live on the Mnt. If the wife does too then he needs to grow a pair and live his own life.

It’s not healthy taking money from parents or in laws and his family should be self supporting.

Buy a house on the Mnt and be glad the in laws won’t be visiting often.
 
WT1 said:
Reading the OP’s posts he wants to live on the Mnt. If the wife does too then he needs to grow a pair and live his own life.

It’s not healthy taking money from parents or in laws and his family should be self supporting.

Buy a house on the Mnt and be glad the in laws won’t be visiting often.
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I have no trouble living my own life. My wife is their only daughter and they are very attached. I’m just trying to act as an ambassador of sorts trying to keep the peace.
 
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I have no trouble living my own life. My wife is their only daughter and they are very attached. I’m just trying to act as an ambassador of sorts trying to keep the peace.
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Actually you are kinda Whinning about the situation. Find out what your wife wants to do and if it’s live on the Mnt then do so. If she doesn’t then don’t. It does no good trying to manipulate the situation through arguments she ether wants a house on the Mnt or she doesn’t. Make a decision and find peace.
 
punisherthunder said:
I have no trouble living my own life. My wife is their only daughter and they are very attached. I’m just trying to act as an ambassador of sorts trying to keep the peace.
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There are some situations and people where the peace cannot be kept. And the more you try the worse the hostility will become. I think they call it polarisation?

Keeping your distance is the only sane choice.
 
punisherthunder said:
Thank you everyone, all good replies so far.

MIL called me up last night and pressed about if we saw any mountain viewings lately and I simply told her we’ve seen a few this week and she flew off the handle. She INSISTS that we all go for psychological counseling so as a psychologist can “mediate” this housing matter. I’m 100% serious on this.

I did my best to defuse her rambling the way I’ve been trained at my job by simply saying things like, “Oh really? Wow, that’s great”.
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I think you should stop giving her details and allowing her to meddle. Don’t feed her, be ambiguous and never tell them anything until after you have done the thing.

Like Saint Josemaria Escrivá says:

Don’t waste your time and your energy — which belong to God — throwing stones at the dogs that bark at you on your way. Ignore them.
 
WT1 said:
Actually you are kinda Whinning about the situation. Find out what your wife wants to do and if it’s live on the Mnt then do so. If she doesn’t then don’t. It does no good trying to manipulate the situation through arguments she ether wants a house on the Mnt or she doesn’t. Make a decision and find peace.
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I’m not whining. If you were offered thousands of dollars in my situation you’d think differently. If you have nothing nice to contribute, then get off the thread.
 
punisherthunder said:
I’m not whining. If you were offered thousands of dollars in my situation you’d think differently. If you have nothing nice to contribute, then get off the thread.
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My suggestion is for you not to put your independence and self respect up for sale regardless of what you choose. Once you’re bought the page can’t be unturned.
 
Buy the house that’s right for your family and don’t involve your in laws if they aren’t helping. You can’t please some people and it’s a waste of energy trying.
 
Have your inlaws ever helped you monetarily in the past? If so, this is just a taste of what will happen if you allow them to do it again. They will continue to think they have a right to every decision you make regarding the house, the cars you drive, how much you spend on groceries and so on…

Even if for some reason you decide not to live on the mountain, do not let them give you money…there will be strings attached.
 
The question is not so much why the mountain housing is so expensive, it’s why the valley housing is so cheap. You have already stated the reasons. Obviously, people don’t want to live in the valley if they can avoid it, for the reasons you mentioned.

There is no possibility whatever that I would buy in a dangerous neighborhood with poor schools.
 
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