How and where did you meet your Catholic spouse?

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At the Newman Center in college. A mutual friend of ours met me first at the Newman Center before mass and apparently said “She’s going to be Richie’s wife.” I was involved with the liturgical music and he was a lector for mass. We were also elected student reps for the Newman Center. Then we left the Newman Center and got involved in our diocese Cathedral Collegiate choir (where we discovered that, yes, they actually do sing Palestrina for mass rather than just in college chorus or on a cd - haha!) after dating for a few months.

He pursued me the first year, but I turned him down because I was a a freshman in college and didn’t want to be dating anyone. Two years later after being friends for a while, I was the one who took the lead, since I knew he wasn’t about to ask me out again after knocking him down once. 😃 The rest is history.
 
Met at a bar 12 years ago. Saw each other accross the room and just knew, and have been married for 11 yrs.
We both came home to the Catholic Church 8 years ago.
God truely works in mysterious ways!
 
Said it before on CAF, but since this is the purpose of the thread, here goes.

I was in graduate school. I was an active Democrat, but I knew that on election night the Republicans had better watch parties. Better food, and (forgive me Democrat ladies) prettier election workers. It was back when Dem worker girls tended to wear army jackets, stringy hair and little or no makeup. Repub election worker girls looked, well, wonderful.

Anyway, I was doing my best with a very pretty girl at John Danforth’s watch party, and getting somewhere, when the most beautiful girl I had ever seen, seated nearby at the same table, started making fun of my “killer lines”, rolling her eyes, laughing, and so forth. That was a serious threat to my evening’s ambitions, so I took her aside and asked her not to mess me up in my romantic endeavors. She agreed she wouldn’t, as long as I would quit being ridiculous and vain. I promised I would never do so in her presence. Then I asked her if, I having promised to always be honest in her presence, she would consent to be my friend and confidante. She agreed on the condition that I would be her friend and confidant. Suddenly, we were not only not enemies anymore, we were more than friends. She was a student at a Catholic university, and that, alone, told me she was probably Catholic. Never after that did I have any interest in any other woman, and I knew she was the one I wanted to marry. We both dated others for a time, without particularly being interested in doing so, but always returned, each to our confidante, and were married within a year and a half. That was 38 years ago, and she remains the most beautiful woman I have ever seen, and my confidante.
 
I met DH through a matchmaking agency in town. I met alot of “interesting characters” before I finally told them to put my account on hold b/c I wanted to give our friendship a try. DH did the same thing. We didn’t want any more referrals & just concentrated on building our relationship for a yr. & then set a wedding date.

I knew he was the one after a few months because he joined my parish to be with me, he was/is a strong Catholic, a gentleman in every way and not a walking hormone, plus we both have the same values and goals in life.

We celebrated 10 yrs. this past October. He is and always will be my strong spiritual support and my best friend. 😃

God knew what he was doing when He brought us together. 👍
 
We went to Catholic elementary school next to each other for years without ever meeting, he to the military school and I to the girls’ school. We went very separate ways for high school, and ended up next door again in college, he at Loyola, and I at Notre Dame of Maryland. Still, we did not meet. After graduation, a mutual friend introduced us. Our friend was a music major, an organist, and I was a music minor, a singer. Our mutual friend was now my choir director, and I was singing the alto solos in Handel’s Messiah at Christmastime. DH came to the concert and began talking to me afterward. I invited him to my annual day-after-Christmas party, and he left his family’s mandatory day-after-Christmas party early to attend mine. Then he dropped off the face of the earth, resurfacing at the end of January, apologizing for not calling, as he had had the flu. Our first date was at the end of January, we were engaged in April and married in October of 1981! 26 years ago!

Betsy
 
My husband and I met at the Castro Valley Bowl in Castro Valley, CA, in 1963. I was out on a blind-date (a double-date) that a friend of mine had arranged with a buddy of her boyfriend. My date and I did not hit it off, but my to-be-husband, who was a friend of both the guys, came in and we began chatting. He called me for a date two weeks later - and it’s been :love: :love: since then.
 
On CAF through another local poster.

Wedding is in the beginning of April
 
P.S. These personal stories are beautiful to read. Thank you for sharing them.
 
I knew him vaguely from work, but never really paid attention to him until I ended up sitting next to him at the bar a couple blocks from work. We were both waiting for different groups of friends, but at that moment we just clicked. I guess you could say he picked me up:blush: . Of course, I wasn’t Catholic (I’m in RCIA now) then and he’d been away from the sacraments for 2+ years.

That was a year and a half ago, we’re engaged now. He says I’m an example of missionary dating gone right, however, I was in the middle of searching for God when he found me and I’d like to think that all the questions and debates we had about Catholicism and Christianity in general that we had influenced him to return to the sacraments. I don’t think mine is the only conversion in this story.😉
 
We met through St. Mary’s Catholic Student Center at Texas A&M, but it was a long and uncertain process.

I first saw her across the room during a meeting of SMYRT (St. Mary’s Youth Retreat Team). I found out who she was and that she currently had a boyfriend from her roommate who was sitting next to me.
Fast Forward 6-months, We had lots of common friends, but we really didn’t know each other. I was working and she asked me if I wanted to have coffee after I got off work. I enthusiastically agreed. During the conversation that followed during the coffee outing, I found out that she only dated friends. Our first miscommunication occurred because our definition of friends were different. I considered her an acquaintance and not a friend.
Fast forward another month, A big group of people would always go country dancing Thursday nights. This particular night we both went and towards the end of the evening, I asked her out and she said yes. (Luckily, I was the first of three guys to ask her out, she never did go on dates with the other guys). However, our second miscommunication occurred on which night. So I thought she stood me up. We ended up going out on the day she wanted, but she was worried because I had to cut our date short because I had to work.

But I called her after work and we met up again, and the rest is history. I still give our mutual friends a hard time because they knew we were interested in each other, but did nothing to help us along.
 
At a local park when I was 16 but we did attend the same high school. It was a huge high school and he didn’t even know I went there although I had seen him in the halls before. I remember saying to the friend I was with, “my parents would kill me if I brought a guy like that home.” This was the late 80’s and he was a long haired, leather jacketed “bad boy”. And not Catholic at the time. Six weeks later I wrote in my diary that this was the guy I wanted to marry. And 2 years later I did.

Although I was raised Catholic (my family is not devout) I had pretty much slipped from practicing my faith altogether. When I was pregnant with our daughter (4 years after getting married) I began attending Mass regularly. I asked my husband when our daughter was born if he would attend with me because as a child I used to fight with my mom about having to go to church when my dad didn’t. He agreed to go for the sake of family unity-two years later he converted. I credit a lot of my re-version to the faith to Mother Angelica and EWTN -and the Holy Spirit ofcourse. Our NFP classes really drew us into devout practice of the faith as a couple.

Amazingly enough no one at our previous parish mentioned we needed to have our marriage convalidated even when my husband went through the RCIA program. When we left our “Catholic-lite” parish in 2004 for a more traditional one we finally were convalidated. It was a beautiful day- our daughter was our flower girl, I had a rosary woven into my bouquet and my husband and I laid roses at the feet of the blessed mother statue. We had a pic-nic reception at the park we met with close family and friends -including the friend I was with the day I met my husband.

In a couple weeks we’ll be married 17 years.❤️
 
I met my wife at the YMCA where I was the Sports Director but I failed to “notice,” her those few times. 😊 Well, a few weeks later I was playing in a volleyball league with some friends and in walks this amazing brunette! She was there to watch her friends, who were on the other team.

As soon as the match was over she headed out the doors. I grabbed my bag and chased her into the chilly late September evening in nothing but my sweaty shorts and t-shirt. I asked her if she wanted to grab a beer. She said, "No. She had plans to meet some friends and go bowling. So in my best acting performance to date I said, “maybe some other time,” and I headed for my car. Just as I opened the door she appeared behind me and said she would like to grab a beer.

So we headed to a local watering hole and talked until closing time! I found out that she was Catholic and had endured Catholic school just as I had. I knew that night that I would marry that woman and I thank God every day for compelling her to grab a beer with me.
 
Beautiful stories!

I will be getting married in 2009 to my soul mate.

I first met him in 2000, we were 14. We went to high school together and eventually became friends. I developed a crush on him, but was too shy to say anything. I always had low self esteem and thought he would never like me. So, I made some stupid decisions and spent the last 2 years of high school hanging with the druggies and in a very abusive relationship.

End of senior year, I got the nerve to walk away from the abuse. I decided to then pursue my friend, but was too late. Someone else got to him first. So, in order to be close to him I started dating that girl’s best guy friend. That didn’t last long, but I got to spend time with my friend that summer.

He and I left for colleges that were hours apart. His girlfriend dumped him end of freshmen year. I spent four hours on the phone consoling him, but had a boyfriend at the time so I still said nothing.

End of sophomore year I was breaking. Was flunking out and breaking down. Had been hospitalized and was in therapy for the past abuse I had kept hidden all those years. plus, my relationship was ending. That guy couldn’t handle my mental health issues.

I took a chance.

I instant messaged my friend and told him my love for him. I cried, thinking he would never speak to me again.

Instead, his reply was “What took you so long?”

We’ve been together since March 2006. He’s my best friend and has led me to the Catholic Church and back into God’s love. I am still struggling a lot mentally, but he is my strength here on earth and is always reminding me to get my strength from God as well. I thank God for him every day.
 
I met my husband on Catholic Answers. I don’t have a link to a success story, though, as we never bothered to submit one.
 
www.avemariasingles.com

He first contacted me just a few days after I had had a date with a guy from the site. I wrote back and basically asked him, “Hey, would you mind waiting til I see where this goes, and if it doesn’t work out, I’ll write back?” Or so he says.😉

We got married just a little over a year after that first email; it’s been 4.5 years of marriage & 3 years of parenthood (2 little souls joined us for the adventure!)
 
At one of those 12 step meetings !! Only he wasn’t affiliated with any Formal Religion. I always met my Sunday obligation and Holy Days and taught Religious Ed. One day after Mass, I met up with him for brunch and he started asking me questions about Catholicsim and wanted to know what the Rosary was all about and how to pray it. Then after a couple of months, he asked if he could join me at Mass. He went for a year, then went to RCIA classes, then proposed marriage, and was confirmed during our wedding so he could make his first communion with me.
 
Okay. These stories are fantastic. I’ll toss mine in --shyly. To be honest, when we met, we both were cafeteria catholics of the highest order.

I was in town on a job interview. The potential employer took me out to play golf. On the way back to my rental car, on a complete whim, one of the guys says, “hey, let’s stop in here for a drink.”

Being a rather accomplished drinker at the time, I was all for that idea. While talking to some of the guys, I began to boast about how “successful” I was with the ladies. (I know. I know. In hindsight I’m quite ashamed).

Just then I saw an absolutely stunning young woman walk in with some friends. I boasted to the guys I was with that “before I leave, I will have her phone number.”

A few drinks later (I know. I know) I slithered up to her and . . . all my bravado disappeared. Confronted with this woman, I did not know what to say other than, “excuse me. may I introduce myself”.

She thought I was a dork in town for the weekend and that she never would hear from me again. Strangely enough, however, she gave me her phone number.

A week later, I came back into town on a callback interview and took her to dinner. At the end of the night we both knew we would be married.

I took the job, moved to town and we were engaged 8 weeks later.

We have been married 12 years, have four fantastic living children and seven others awaiting us in Heaven.

Long story longer, it was the loss of our children during pregnancy that finally brought us into harmony with the Church.

People who know us today as “those crazy Catholics with all the kids” are shocked to learn the rather unseemly way we met.

God brought us together with one another and with his Church through the craziest path ever.

She is everything to me. I’ve never spent more than 48 hours away from her. We talk on the phone at least five times a day. Our marriage and family saved my wayward life. God’s grace is magnificent and I am infinitely grateful for all of these blessings.
 
I worked with her uncle until a couple of months ago when he left. He found out I was starting to look for a wife and invited me to visit his home and introduce me to one of his wife’s nieces he thought would be good for me. So after a lot of persuasion he talked me into changing my R&R plans to include a few days at his house in the Philippines (originally I was planning to vagabond it around Indochina region). Funny thing is I never had any interest in going to the Philippines and now ive been going back for over a year. We got engaged this past October and plan to get married in June 2009 after I quit working in Iraq. I dont want to start the marriage only being home a few weeks/year. She has become my best friend and has been God’s tool in bringing me back to the Church. I had slowly been on my way back for a couple of years, but she provided the last kick in the pants 😉 . Also being apart most of the time and having to communicate through letters and the internet has made our relationship stronger and required us to get to know each other much better without the distractions that present themselves when always there in person.
 
We met in the gym. My words words to her were, “Excuse me, have you seen the 25 lb weights?”
 
5 more months until he’s my “spouse” but we met in 7th grade. our catholic feeder schools combined for the track team, and he was the fastest guy on the team, not to mention HOT.
 
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