How can a long-term husband turn so bad?

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God bless you. Be assured of my prayers. I admire your determination to be faithful and obedient, and while we have burdens to bear, there is no sin in your finding a way to heal yourself in this. Have you tried Al Anon? If you have and didn’t like it, find a new group. You will find a wonderful means of support in a very respectful, prayerful setting that is very private. Hugs to you and will keep you in my prayers.
 
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As usual, I come here and feel blessed by God for your answers!

One point I do need to clear up is that the money I have to spend on joint bills is income of his. (But it’s still marital income.) It’s other, additional income (again marital income) that she spends. Not that either way is right. I do feel at times as though I am enabling in a most unwilling sense, but my only option is to get a divorce and have much less to pay the bills with. I get more than he would have to give me now. I have a smaller income of my own.

Yes, his brain has been affected alcohol and yes, I do have to detach more - something I have tried to do for years. I have been going to Al-Anon since the 70’s, but not since the adultery. That really sent me into a tailspin.

Loneliness and self-pity - as well as some physical problems - are a big problem. So many of us know that God is always with us, but isn’t it tough to feel it when you’re hurting.

Just to know you are being prayed for is huge.

Thank you all - I will remember to pray for each of you.

Romick
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Hello Romick…yes, it is indeed most hard when one is hurting and lonely and the feeling of sorrow for oneself are normal under the circumstances. Normal, but we dont set up camp in them and you are not doing this. Sometimes we would be cruel to ourselves not to be aware we are hurting and sorrowed about it.Be gentle and kind to yourself for you are indeed going through an extremely hard time and are only human. Faith transcends all of this…but at times we cannot actually feel that transcendence - it simply is!
God has constructed us so that when hurt, we feel pain - it’s ok! 👍 …though very hard to bear.
Thank you for the update and your own prayers for us. God’s many blessings and His comfort and consolation - “as the world does not give”…Barb:)
http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/16/16_14_5.gifJMJ
 
Thanks again for all the prayers and wise thoughts.

I am so sorry to hear of Geezer Bob’s heart attack. Will pray. Has anyone heard how he is doing?

God bless,

Romick
 
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