Hello JustCatholic (like saying “just lucky”

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Also - why is it, that it’s okay to decide the following for children:
which school to attend So they can get the best education possible
which sunday school to attend So they learn about Jesus and his love for them
whom and what to believe or trust To teach them who and what will nurture or hurt them
day care or not If Mom has to work some days
what to eat, wear so their bodies will be warm and nourished
what books to read So they fill their heads with knowledge and not junk
which movies to see Again so they fill their heads with knowledge and not junk
etc etc etc…
But to administer Jesus via the sacrament of Baptism?? Ohhh, Noooo, that’s so different. Gotta wait for them to be full adults for something like that! Hold back on the Jesus!
Or rather wait until an age when they can understand the commitment that they are making. All the things we just listed are in some way a preparation for this. Yes I am a “Born Again” and I remember the day I became a Christian. I remember years later when I was baptized into the church. I also remember my parents preparing me along the way to make those decisions and telling me exactly what they mean. When I made the decision to become a Christian I did so (and continue to do so) of my own free will.
The word “confirmation” seems to denote that one is confirming a decision that has been made, I ask at what point was the individual responsible for the decision. When first baptized? I don’t think so. Keeping in mind that no infant can understand the decision that his parents are making for him why imply this? Moreover why imply that salvation is dependant on another human making a decision on your behalf? A basic understanding of psychology lets one know that we value our own decision over those made for us so why stack the deck against the child?
Here is the clincher for me. My wifes family is Catholic. Her and her siblings were all baptized as infants. She is the only one that is still a practicing Catholic. Part of this I believe is because they never made the choice to take that path. Now their children will be baptized only to please my mother in law and all those decisions mentioned before will be geared to Buddhism or pretty much agnosticism. Looking at the track record I think I’ll stick with teaching my child that the decision is his. Ownership of our faith is a stronger thing than I think you give credit for.
Can you see the Protestant case being just a little contradictory? Not one bit