Beloved,
I thank God for bringing me to this site. Thank you all out there.
However, the truth of the matter is that, yesterday, I was emotionally suffocating.
My husband and I were childhood friends. When it was time for me to get married, I went to God for this. When he came I was convinced beyond any doubt it was him. (My childhood friend!) .
But his sister was a stumbling block.
He promised me that it was his sister’s husband who will give the approval and not her. But he turned out to be the worst nightmere.
In their house, i started having , I nightmares in my life. The following morning he invited me to his sitting room. Still in a tight mood, he bombarded me with unfair allegations, ridicule and mockery. I endured all and took time to explain things to them, (At a point his wife came back and joined us). When he saw he had nothing against me, he exchanged glance with his wife and and managed his statements. I felt humiliated but encouraged.I forgave them instantly and took them as my parents in-law.He isisted on carrying out our marriage rites for us in our absence.
Their story is that; My husband said he finished secondary school; His in-law took him to overseas where he discovered a vibrant business, which was different from the one he was doing. After which, he used his capital to open a shop for him. Though my husband was still very young, he was doing well. God blessed him. After a year, his in-law brought another person to come and learn from my husband. The new boy learnt the business and served in the business. At completion of his service, he was set free.
Because, the business was moving well, his in-law went back to Nigeria and built a befitting house, took chieftaincy titles and lived the status of a high chief, meaning, a life of affluence with the money my husband was making. He adopted three baby boys.
This man recruited four more boys to learn the business. The agreement with these boys was settle them like the other one, after serving.My husband did not even go home to bury his father when he died. This wicked man takes the glory of burrying my father in-law till tomorrow.(all lies).
Since I joined my husband here, I discovered my husband had been under serious mind manipulations. Naturally, he is kind, peace loving, intelligent, runs away from troubles and kind to every one. But at times he would do things that don’t fit into his character.
For no just cause, I suffered hatred from every one around me; I remembered of the nightmares I had been having since after my visit to this man. (I would be in the dream, I would be pursued by men in black and red gowns, anywhere i run to, people would close their doors against me. Nobody would tell me what I had done wrong.) According to Christian principles, I did not discuss my ordeals or pay back evil for good. I followed Christ with my cross. (What hurt most was my husbands’ insubordination to my good gestures because, whatever this man stands for had been law even before I got married.) There has been so much confusion, but the grace of God leads me.
This man had visited us for the past five months. Very unusual. However, since he came and found that I was at peace with all men around me, he had been inciting my husband against people and my husband has been acting contrary to his belief without any explanation. It was my husband that told me everything I know about their relationship, and this man used his own mouth and confirmed all my husbands’ story.
A situation where my husband can’t enjoy the fruit of his labor in life. It is only this man that doesn’t know the value of money that spends it on God knows what, is abhors unto God and man. The children under my husband take orders from this man, even, they said this man forbid them to talk to their parents back home, while as, their parents hold my husband accountable for these children.
This man thought that whatever he did worked for him. He told me more than once that I should thank him after eating the food my husband brought, which I cooked. He maintains that my husbands business is for him and his blood brother. (According to my husband, this man brought this his brother here, even before he brought my husband. But he did not stay. When my husband started making money, he sent this his brother to learn another line of business. From my husband’s capital, he runs his business, but never has he accounted for the capital, not to talk of profit. My husband finances all their family expenses.)
I have caught this man on two occasions chanting incoherently, He tells my husband bad things about every other person. I was the one that learnt that he doesn’t say anything about my husband.!
Please can any one feel my plight?
God is in control. Speaking out heals too. I feel great now.
