How can I stop hating this one girl?

[kaity]

I started dating this guy for almost a month. I’m not used to hating, but this one girl from my childhood is being very defensive about him. For his birthday, she put on her snapchat story “Happy birthday my boob” and a picture of him. That got me a little irritated because I’m dating him and I think it’s wrong to speak like that to someone’s boyfriend. The way she talks to him and the fact that she’s had 15 boyfriends in less than 2 years makes me have no trust for her. I trust my boyfriend so much and he’s very into me, but how can I make this hate go away? She messaged me yesterday saying that she knows that I don’t like her, and I said yes I don’t and that I’m so sorry that I harbor hate for her and that I’m working on it. I said I want to love her and I don’t want to have ill intentions. She flipped out and kept rubbing in everything she knew about him and how hes’s a brother to her. It’s one sided with her and my boyfriend only talks to her during school (they have a few classes together) and a conversation here or there. She kept making these awful claims why I hate her, and I debunked them politely and I said that I didn’t want to continue it further and to have a nice day. I believe the root of my hate is how she speaks to him and how many boyfriends she had so quick. I don’t want someone like her associating with the guy I love the most. I want to look for the good in her, and I want to love her. Is there any prayers or scriptures I can read to help overcome this? She’s not a Christian, so we don’t think similarly. Is there any advice? I desperately need to overcome this. I tried praying, but God is being silent on this aspect of my life so I assume he wants me to dig for answers. The problem is I don’t know where to start. Please, can you spare your time to help me?

 

[Katie777]

Hail Mary,
Full of grace
The Lord is with Thee.
Blessed art Thou amongst women,
and blessed is the fruit of Thy womb,
Jesus
Holy Mary
Mother of God
Pray for us sinners,
Now and at the hour of death
Amen

 

[Dani]

It’s ok to be angry its justified. But you need to ignore her, she is lost. Kill her with kindness, smile, pray for her. She is a very insecure, the number of boyfriends says that she wants and needs attention. It’s really sad, you sound like you are very strong. Praying it gets better. You are amazing.

 

[MercyWarrior88]

Please meditate on Matthew chapters 5 & 6. Matthew 7:1-6 will help, too. Pray for her conversion by praying this: O blood and water which flowed out from the heart of Jesus as a Fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You! Pray it with a contrite heart. I might pm you this weekend.

 

[kaity]

Thank you! I read these over and the excerpt about the gift for your enemy hit me. I had a dream the night before about actually giving her a gift she requested and we bonded after that and all the tension and hate disappeared. I’m still upset about “happy birthday my boob” because he’s my boyfriend and she shouldn’t speak to him like that epseically because she’s dating another guy. But I want to do something to make it right with her. I appreciate your help so much! God bless!