How did you cope with menopause?

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I was blessed with a very easy menopause after my complete hysterectomy (everything gone) , The only effects I had was a hot flash if I wore a hat (comes in handy when cold, cover head hot flash warmed me right up. Dr never seen anything liked it) and then the vaginal dryness very simple and cheap solution Food grade coconut oil. I got it off a board once. Can be a little messy , but works fantastic and only need one application and last for ever.
 
OP, I also went through menopause in my 40s, and I remember having that same feeling…not that I really WANTED more children, but knowing I COULDN’T have them gave me a sad, empty feeling. It went away with time.

Fortunately I didn’t have any big issues with the other stuff women are plagued with…no debilitating sweats, mood swings, etc. The old body changes, but I guess that’s to be expected.

All in all, it wasn’t bad. I’m just happy to be here and in decent health. Lost my dear mother to cancer when she was only 51…I think often how blessed I am that God has given me these years to enjoy retirement, grandchildren, etc.
 
I also want to add OP…my DH and I are 60, and our kids have been out on their own for many years. Since we retired, our romantic life has gotten better than ever! So it can be a fun time…think positively!
 
I’m going to be a loner on this but I’d be thankful it was all finally over! Infertile couples deal with menopause symptoms their whole reproductive lives! I like be kids and wanted a dozen. But the Lord had other plans and I’m just so ready to be done with all the useless female symptoms that have done absolutely nothing (save one single miraculous cycle) but cause me mental and physical anguish all my girlhood and now my adulthood. I will praise the Lord in heaven when I finally am spared of this excruciatingly painful cross of infertile fertility and painful endometriosis. (Amen!)

Most people are spared that grief during their years of reproduction, so they go through it later in life. I guess God makes us all go through it, just at different times of our lives.

That being said my mom was in her late fifties, so looks like I’m doomed for another couple of decades! 😦
:hug3: I understand and empathize more than I can say… except I have NO idea when to expect the end. I’m 49 and the only person in my extended family (siblings, cousins) who has made it this far without a hysterectomy, except for my grandmother who gave birth to her last child at 48.
 
Hi all. I appreciate all of the replies. I really do. It helps.
 
:hug3: I understand and empathize more than I can say… except I have NO idea when to expect the end. I’m 49 and the only person in my extended family (siblings, cousins) who has made it this far without a hysterectomy, except for my grandmother who gave birth to her last child at 48.
:console: Sorry you have had to go through this too! 😦
 
My grandmother had never been able to have children. She was born in 1880, married in 1900, and in 1922 thought she was in the change of life. Well, she was, but that change was my father, who was born on Memorial Day and weighed just under four pounds.
 
My grandmother had never been able to have children. She was born in 1880, married in 1900, and in 1922 thought she was in the change of life. Well, she was, but that change was my father, who was born on Memorial Day and weighed just under four pounds.
My Dad was born in 1934 first born to a mom born in 1888. She thought it was the change of life as well. Until the day she felt him kick. 😃
 
I just learned that I am in full blown menopause. I am young to be in menopause but it’s still considered normal for my age. (I’m a tad over 40). I am not having the normal menopausal symptoms most folks have. In retrospect, I think I was having them over the last year or so and didn’t realize what was going on. However, I saw my doctor last week and menopause was confirmed by a blood test so it’s true.

But here is my question. The thing that made me the most sad is that I can’t have kids anymore. My husband weren’t really planning on having anymore - especially since we are both in our 40s. But the fact that I don’t have the choice anymore is what is upsetting.

Are there any of you who went through menopause at a young age? May I ask how you felt about it and what you did to get past the fact that your baby days are over?
I also married late and had my one and only daughter who I love so much and glad I didn’t want to have her but got pregnant fast. I have back problems, so I had another surgery when my daughter was 2 years old. I have to say that I wanted more kids and yes, I cried, and I cried every time I saw a mother with a baby. That happened for a year and than I accepted it. I still wish I could have more children, but I can’t and I will be 50 years old next month. My daughter is 15 and lonely. She is shy and doesn’t have many friends. She is lonely and wished I had another child.

I know what you are going through. You’re in my prayers.
 
Many posters on the Hyster Sisters forums have early menopause because of their assorted conditions. The site has a Menopause page and a related site called Mr. Hyster Sister for the husbands.

I can’t offer much useful advice other than that, but even I have heard the proverb that says you have much to look forward to:

“If I had known how much fun grandchildren were going to be, I would have had them first!” 😃
 
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