How did you first learn about the birds and the bees?

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I learned, experimentally, about “the birds and the bees” while outdoors. Sometimes, the neighbors were watching.😃
 
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contemplative:
Are you there God? Its Me Margaret.
Read that.
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Oh yeah. I forgot about this book. Yup, learned from that too:yup: .
 
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Annunciata:
a handbook called “Growing Up and Liking It”…I was still clueless
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OMG! My mom gave me the same booklet - that and a hardbacked book (cannot remember the name) about a summer camp…
 
My mother was an alchoholic. One night while she was totally sloshed she sat us all down and told us entirely TOO MUCH.

I was so grossed out…she told intimate details about her and dad’s personal sex-life…it totally tramatized me.
 
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The biology/health teacher in school …
In the 7th grade we were given a handbook called “Growing Up and Liking It”…I was still clueless until a grown up showed me some awful pictures (13)…I got sick to my stomach …he thought it was funny…:mad: I told my mother and she lambasted him…
What an awful thing to do to a child!!! I suppose I should thank my lucky stars that that’s all he did…:yup:
Actually, this is going to sound dumb…but I learned from my husband… (after we were married)
We had a beautiful life together**…today would have been our 41St Wedding Anniversary…**
Eternal rest grant unto him O Lord, And let your perpetual light shine upon him. May he rest in peace Amen.
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You still deserve a congratulations. Judging from your posts, I think your husband still has many pleasant memories. And I trust you would not want him back with you now that he is with the Lord.
 
friends have big mouths and huge imaginations… then in 6th grade we got the “talk” and Mom and Dad discussed it afterward…
 
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MrS:
You still deserve a congratulations. Judging from your posts, I think your husband still has many pleasant memories. And I trust you would not want him back with you now that he is with the Lord.
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Thanks MrS… Coming from you…a great compliment! Yes/No…he’s looking out for me…
He was a good and faithful Catholic and a brother to ALL!
He taught me a lot of other things too…how to live well and how to die well…when my time comes of course…:whistle:
 
My mom bought me a book called “See how you grow.” It was an illustrated book and they called sex a “special cuddle in bed.” Then in showed a husband and a wife cuddling under the blankets. It was very innocent. Then it went through the stages of pregnancy and then it showed where we get our traits from. Good book, but it took me a while to understand what the special cuddle was. I think I was 12 before I realized it was a combonation the male and female organs. :o
 
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OMG! My mom gave me the same booklet - that and a hardbacked book (cannot remember the name) about a summer camp…
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So does that make us “contemporaries”???😃
 
My best friend in grade school was a year ahead of me so she had sex ed class before me. She relayed the info although not quite acurately. This same friend had a dad with hard core porn mags in the basement so unfortunately I didn’t get the healthiest introduction to human sexuality. Sometime after that my pediatrician gave my mom some booklets which she just handed to me without any explanation. I was absolutely sure I was adopting children at that point. 😃 I threw in my bike basket and headed to my friends to giggle at the illustrations -that was 4th grade. 5th grade started sex ed -a cartoon film strip that had us all giggling.

My mom did try to give me a talk about periods (I think about 6th grade) which I already knew about at that point and the info she gave me was wrong (my mom is older, I think she was just telling me what she was taught.) I told her they already told us about that. She seemed relieved.
 
If the question is: How did you learn about the facts of life vs. How did you learn about the birds and bees, the answer is a multitude of sources.

I first learned about the biology of human reproduction from a book my parents gave me. There was no discussion; they just handed me a book. I read it and they asked if I had any questions.

My only question was, “Why do people do that?”

My father said, “Because it feels good.” I laughed uncomfortably, I guess sensing the tension. The discussion ended and I never have talked sex with my parents since.

Funny how you remember those moments.

As far as the real facts of life, the down and dirty (sorry, a little pun intended to make a point), I learned from a combination of my peers, mass media, Playboy, sex ed. class, experimentation and books, in no particular order, I listed them randomly.

I guess this was wrong, to seek some of those sinful sources - but my weak excuse - it was mostly curiousity. Females are very curious creatures to males, lovely, mysterious, and I felt I needed to learn about them anatomically, physiologically mentally, emotionally all I could.

I did end up majoring in biology in college, LOL, so this is really true.

It always seemed that the role of sexuality within a marriage would fall upon the male. It’s a lot of pressure. It’s up to us to produce a satisfying life in that regard in many ways (just look deep into the Viagra commercials)

I didn’t think, and maybe I was wrong, that the Church was a source to learn or be taught.
 
I was six and my mum was preggers with my brother. We got a book from the library with these felt-board pictures of a neutered couple, and seeds and flowers. She explained to me that she and dad loved each other, but had too much love for just the two of them. So my dad planted seeds in my mum’s tummy that grew into babies.

I was a bit older when when I learned about the mechanics, menstruation, etc… but I also understood sexuality to be about love and family ever since that day.

Thanks Mum. 🙂
 
I have no memory or ever NOT knowing the birds and the bees.

Now, I do remember that in 6th grade girls “P.E.” we all spent 2 weeks bored to death sitting in “health” classes and being glad we didn’t have to run laps. Our changing bodies and all that silliness. And a nurse worker from the health dept. (a.k.a. Planned Parenthood) came in and gave us a presentation and pamplets about birth control, sex, std’s, and where the local and confidential PP clinics are located in town.

I can only assume in an effort to scare us to into being more “responsible” if all the other information presented didn’t do the trick, at the end we watched a video showing a young woman giving birth - including the actual delivery of the baby. The girl next to me puked (which was just hilarious because she was one of those suppossedly tough kids w/ "everything is peirced, w/ a real “grunge” and “goth” look going!:rotfl: ). I remember thinking, “Well duh! What’d you think it was gonna look like?” Of course, no one mentioned painkillers, marriage, or anything .:rolleyes:

I remember my mom saying at some point in an arguement to “For the love of G** just don’t come back pregnant!”:mad:

I remember my dad complaining at some vague point in my youth (I think about my oldest sister and her nephew) that if you gotta ask if it’s wrong it probably is and just don’t do it and nobody ever had to give Adam and Eve a book to help them figure it out.😃

Of course this was all about 19 years ago, I’m sure things have change lots since then…:rolleyes:
 
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I have no memory or ever NOT knowing the birds and the bees.

Now, I do remember that in 6th grade girls “P.E.” we all spent 2 weeks bored to death sitting in “health” classes

Two weeks? My 6th grade class was given an hour and a pink booklet full of fluff.

I remember my mom saying at some point in an arguement to “For the love of G** just don’t come back pregnant!”:mad:

Mine said don’t ever let his hands roam below your shoulders. That was the extent of my dating instructions from mom. My dad told my a cute story about my virginity being like precious coins. I wasn’t suppose to spend them on someone who wasn’t going to give me a life time of interest.

Of course this was all about 19 years ago, I’m sure things have change lots since then…:rolleyes:
Are the changes for the better?
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I grew up on a farm. It’s pretty obvious how babies are made.

Lisa N
 
Lisa N:
I grew up on a farm. It’s pretty obvious how babies are made.

Lisa N
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This isn’t so obvious for all children of farmers.

We kept a bull around once for just a very short time and I can’t recall any action. Our cows were artifically inseminated. I perceived more danger from the tank filled with liquid nitrogen in the back room than the bull in the pasture.
 
My husband although nearly 30 when we were married had so much misinformation it was sad as it was laughable.He grew up in a very Religious, Spanish family that this subject was not talked about. So he learned on the streets I guess. For example he honestly believed you can’t have sex if your are about to have your period, having your period(not that I would want to) or just finished up because,…the reason is the man will get a STD:eek: . Whoever told him this also said only during her fertitle time a man is safe. Another was sex during pregnancy (even in the early months) can “hurt” the baby and poision the baby with sperm.:o I being 8 years younger, I gave him a pamplet I found (I was a nurse) in his native Spanish and finally he learned. We made sure our children knew the birds and bees.
 
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