How do Catholics have fun at nightclubs?

[EasterJoy]

Indeed…But I would also suggest that what is coming out of a person can be seen (somewhat) by where a person goes into.

Like I said earlier…I’m not passing judgement on anyone else…I just know myself well enough to stay away from such places. Give me a nice quiet night at home. But then I’m what some would call an “Old Fogie” :yawn:

Peace
James

I had to pass this story on!

Mildred, the church gossip, and self-appointed monitor of the church’s morals, kept sticking her nose into other people’s business. Several members did not approve of her extra-curricular activities, but feared her enough to maintain their silence.

She made a mistake, however, when she accused Frank, a new member, of being an alcoholic after she saw his old pickup parked in front of the town’s only bar one afternoon. She emphatically told Frank (and several others) that everyone seeing it there would know what he was doing!

Frank, a man of few words, stared at her for a moment and just turned and walked away. He didn’t explain, defend, or deny. He said nothing…

Later that evening, Frank quietly parked his pickup in front of Mildred’s house, walked home … and left it there all night.

 

[KendraDZ1902]

I had to pass this story on!

Mildred, the church gossip, and self-appointed monitor of the church’s morals, kept sticking her nose into other people’s business. Several members did not approve of her extra-curricular activities, but feared her enough to maintain their silence.

She made a mistake, however, when she accused Frank, a new member, of being an alcoholic after she saw his old pickup parked in front of the town’s only bar one afternoon. She emphatically told Frank (and several others) that everyone seeing it there would know what he was doing!

Frank, a man of few words, stared at her for a moment and just turned and walked away. He didn’t explain, defend, or deny. He said nothing…

Later that evening, Frank quietly parked his pickup in front of Mildred’s house, walked home … and left it there all night.

bahahahahahah. Way to go, Frank! :clapping:

 

[JRKH]

I had to pass this story on!

Mildred, the church gossip, and self-appointed monitor of the church’s morals, kept sticking her nose into other people’s business. Several members did not approve of her extra-curricular activities, but feared her enough to maintain their silence.

She made a mistake, however, when she accused Frank, a new member, of being an alcoholic after she saw his old pickup parked in front of the town’s only bar one afternoon. She emphatically told Frank (and several others) that everyone seeing it there would know what he was doing!

Frank, a man of few words, stared at her for a moment and just turned and walked away. He didn’t explain, defend, or deny. He said nothing…

Later that evening, Frank quietly parked his pickup in front of Mildred’s house, walked home … and left it there all night.

Let me know when the sequel to this story comes out…

Peace
James

 

[Rachel126]

You go with a bunch of friends, you drink in moderation and you have fun dancing to some great music OR seeing a band you all like. You leave with the people you came with and make sure you have a designated driver, if needed (because some people get buzzed on one or two drinks and its better to be safe than sorry).

This.
(I’m too old for this stuff anymore, but when I was younger, this would have been the correct answer).

 

[Tarpeian_Rock]

It was Jesus that said it is not what a person takes in that defiles but what a person puts out that defiles. Saying this he declared all foods clean.

And there’s an old Latin proverb that says if you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas.

 

[EasterJoy]

And there’s an old Latin proverb that says if you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas.

There are situations where a Catholic is going to be a near occasion to himself, herself, or others by choosing to get into that situation. It is not the people who are dogs, but the situation that is flea-ridden and needing to be avoided. Just going into a nightclub doesn’t fall into that category, though, per se. It could, but it doesn’t always. A Catholic could visit one, have an enjoyable night, and be guilty of nothing wrong. It is just like always, though: we have to be ready to make ourselves scarce if by staying in some situation we will be too likely to offend God or encourage others to offend God.

 

[Mangaartist]

I’m now old enough to go to clubs, but I choose not to. I refer bars for alcohol and contra dances for dancing. There’s just not much about being in a small enclosed space with half-naked people often doing questionable things that appeals to me.Some of my friends say they go to “meet guys”, but the kind of man who is looking to meet women at a nightclub is probably someone I wouldn’t want to waste time on anyway, even if I wasn’t married.

 

[Bataar]

I’ve always been amazed that anyone has fun at nightclubs. If I go to hell, it’ll probably be like spending eternity in a nightclub

 

[Gordon_Sims]

Back in college none of my guy friends had any interest in going to nightclubs. I got bored of the same old sitting around and drinking at the same 2-3 bars with the same 20-30 songs on the jukebox. I started hitting the nightclubs with a group of women I worked with. There were 3-5 of them, half of whom were married and none of us had any interest in each other, so there was no chance of anything inappropriate going on. Actually, all any of them was interested in was dancing and having fun, so I often served as a decoy “boyfriend” for the unmarried ones whenever someone tried to pick them up. I was the only one who had a car big enough to hold all of us, so I was always the designated driver. We’d dance, talk and make fun of the more ridiculous people on the dance floor, then stop somewhere for a bite to eat after the clubs closed. It was good, clean fun.

 

[Book_Worm]

My nightclub days are far in my past, but getting drunk was never part of the scenario. Unlike bars, drink prices (for very weak drinks) were so highly inflated that, after paying the cover charge, we seldom had more than two drinks, often nursing one for an entire evening.

As for the type of people one encounters at clubs, almost everyone I knew went to clubs to dance on Friday or Saturday night. We saw our friends, socialized and danced. We were all solid citizens who had good moral standards and were at Mass on Sunday morning.

Today my idea of hell might be an evening at one of these places but as a young twenty-something, they were fun. “For everything there is a season.”

 

[Iheartcoffee]

I was always too broke in college to go out anywhere to drink. Therefore, my nightclub and bar experiences were few and far between. However, that does not mean I had anything against them. You can certainly go out and have fun and come home with the friends you left with and be just fine.

 

[EasterJoy]

I’ve always been amazed that anyone has fun at nightclubs. If I go to hell, it’ll probably be like spending eternity in a nightclub

Maybe your Purgatory, but I don’t think you’re going to find a room full of people getting loud and drunk and trolling for sin in Hell. There is no need for live bait and a bright lure when the fish has already been hooked. (And those fish who couldn’t escape the hook won’t be going onto ice, either…)

 

[TheWarriorMonk]

I used to hang in bars/taverns all the time, simply because I am a musician and used to gig a lot. Some places are great, where people want to just hang out and let off some steam by listening to live music, have great beer at a brewhouse, or watch sporting events. Nothing wrong with that.

OTOH, I’ve been to some disreputable places. For example, there was a place we did a gig at where is basically was geared toward middle-aged people out to have “fun.” I also went to NYC’s Limelight back in the day, which for those that don’t know was a former church converted into a club with all sorts of crazy stuff going on. Avoid those places like the plague.

As also, discretion is the key.

 

[EasterJoy]

I used to hang in bars/taverns all the time, simply because I am a musician and used to gig a lot. Some places are great, where people want to just hang out and let off some steam by listening to live music, have great beer at a brewhouse, or watch sporting events. Nothing wrong with that.

OTOH, I’ve been to some disreputable places. For example, there was a place we did a gig at where is basically was geared toward middle-aged people out to have “fun.” I also went to NYC’s Limelight back in the day, which for those that don’t know was a former church converted into a club with all sorts of crazy stuff going on. Avoid those places like the plague.

As also, discretion is the key.

Yep…the premise isn’t inherently sinful, but it is worth watching out for what the place is in practice. If the place is no more than somewhere an owner makes money by being a stooge for the devil, it is better to have nothing to do with it.

 

[bcuster]

A Youth Minister in a nearby parish has a ministry to young adults where they meet at pubs, etc. She also has a ministry to snow boarders on the slopes. She goes where the young adults are and shows them that you can have fun and be a faithful Catholic.

 

[on_the_hill]

What’s a contra dance?

 

[DaveBj]

What’s a contra dance?

From en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contra_dance :

Contra dance (also contradance, contra-dance and other variant spellings) refers to several partnered folk dance styles in which couples dance in two facing lines or a square.[1] Sometimes described as New England folk dance, contra dances can be found around the world, though they are especially popular in North America.

There’s my one new thing learned for the day.

 

[Debora123]

By spending time with friends, having a drink, dancing, and listening to the music.

Nothing wrong with any of those things unless you’re a fundamentalist Southern Baptist. But a Catholic? No problemo.

 

[Debora123]

(Also, if you go to clubs where strangers make out and whatnot, how do you deal with it?)

Don’t watch.

 

[AuditVocemMeam]

I find it odd - to say the least - to adopt a permissive attitude toward Catholics being present in scandalous venues. I do not know what nightclubs are like, since I do not go to them, but if people are participating in sexual sin, our presence is inappropriate.

St. Paul tells us, “You must not consent to be yokefellows with unbelievers. What has innocence to do with lawlessness? What is there in common between light and darkness? What harmony between Christ and Belial? How can a believer throw in his lot with an infidel? How can the temple of God have any commerce with idols? And you are the temple of the living God; God has told us so; I will live and move among them, and be their God, and they shall be my people. Come out, then, from among them, the Lord says to us, separate yourselves from them, and do not even touch what is unclean; then I will make you welcome.”

Our life here is a war. “Take up all God’s armour, then; so you will be able to stand your ground when the evil time comes, and be found still on your feet, when all the task is over. Stand fast, your loins girt with truth, the breastplate of justice fitted on, and your feet shod in readiness to publish the gospel of peace.” Is it becoming for the soldier of light to be found in a place of destructive behavior and immoral revelries? Those are the feasts and ceremonies of the world. But we are not to blend in with the world; we are in it but not of it.

St. Thomas Aquinas tells us that “love must needs precede hatred; and nothing is hated, save through being contrary to a suitable thing which is loved. And hence it is that every hatred is caused by love.” Our love of God necessitates that we hate evil, since it is contrary to God. And this is not a token hatred, as our love of God is not a token love; but as we should love God with our whole heart, soul, mind, and strength, we ought to have a burning, relentless hatred for everything which is offensive to God, as God has a burning, relentless hatred for everything which is offensive to Him. “The Lord thy God is a fire that burns all before it, loves thee with a jealous love.” This hatred obviously must be tempered by a respect for people engaging in evil, and by supreme charity toward them - severity with people’s sins is very rarely the correct approach - but considering how deeply our hatred of sin ought to run, the idea that we can just ignore it when it is all around us and go on “having fun” is, again, odd.