Hello Needtostop and a belated welcome to CAF to you.
If someone is not open to recognizing truth and is closed to it, I think it will be difficult. There are times when people respond and act based on convictions they have arrived at due to various possible reasons (disappointment, hatred, insecurity, pride, revenge, considers that the Church condemns their actions or way of life, and amongst other; pure ignorance, etc… ) about many topics including religious and political. Considering that you are being challenged by someone and are unable to defend your faith, I would suggest that you ask that person to respect your beliefs and in the meanwhile try to educate yourself regarding the teachings of the Church.
In 1 Peter 3:15 we read:
But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear.
Learn to defend your faith and pray for those who persecute and attack you and challenge you for it.
I forget right now who it was that said something like that those who leave the Church do not know what they are leaving. Many people that leave the Church lack catechism and do not really know what they have left.
Needtostop,
Often times, when I read prayers or actually pray certain prayers that mention or insinuate that the reason for love of God is the resurrection and the compensation of heaven etc. I find myself not totally agreeing. Then there is Saint Paul who wrote:
1 Corinthians 15:14
“And if Christ has not been raised, our preaching is useless and so is your faith.”
I love Paul, don’t get me wrong, and I have the outmost respect for him; but on this little point I do not totally agree with him. It could be that he was making a specific point, such as to confirm the validity of Christ resurrection etc…
Needtostop, the reason I have a little problem with the prayers and Paul’s comment is that deep in my heart and soul I think it is sufficient to love God because He loved us so much that: "“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” (John 3:16)
I love Him because He loves us so much with absolute and infinite love, with a love so powerful and strong and intense that the tiniest drop of it would be our little human heart explode. We are incapable of loving as much as God loves. Imagine that!
God did not create us to be His puppets. He created us in His image and He respects us and loves us. He gave us and the angels free will and because of that we have evil in the world. God endures the evil out of love for us. He respects our free will and we should trust Him. He has a plan of salvation and we just need to trust in Him and stay close to the Catholic Church, which is the Church Our Lord Jesus established.
Yes, you will read a lot of attacks against the faith in the internet. Recently, I have been personally attacked from a professional person who lives a life style that is considered inappropriate by the Church; I have not even said anything; but just the fact that I am Catholic makes me in his eyes as someone who is condemning him. It’s not easy, the Church is under attack and so this is a good time to learn to defend your faith and pray for those who challenge and attack you because of your faith.
This is why I love Our Lord Jesus Christ, even if when I die everything comes to an end, I would not regret having loved Our Lord: