How do I broach modesty

[chevalier]

I can only hope it sinks in. She’s a good girl, just wants to be liked and look “good.” Maybe we can go shopping together and find a happy medium while she’s here at Easter.

You can somehow delicately explain to her that making concessions with regard to her body is no price to pay for being liked. I feel it’s like giving a part of oneself, but not the same way as when you devote time or donate blood. It’s giving a part of oneself in a bad way. This is if she feels somewhat wrong about wearing that outfit and knows what’s wrong with it. I don’t necessarily have a problem with that outfit myself. I’ve never seen it. But if I were a girl, I don’t think I would be comfortable wearing big cleavages. I just know this is a delicate matter with women, especially if they haven’t received modesty training as children. In some societies, cultures or environments, there are extreme standards either way, so it’s not like there are objective rules about how far is too far or how many inches is good. What I think is important to realise is what kind of attention such an outfit will attract. Maybe your sister is being lonely, but the less conservatively modest the outfit is, the less likely she is to attract a good Catholic guy and the more a player. She certainly wouldn’t like to be harassed, either. I think she needs some reassurance that she’s pretty, but isn’t quite on the right track.

Myself, I’m not a good example of a good Catholic, but I’m Catholic nonetheless and I can tell you I would probably skip girls with big cleavages. This is not to say I wouldn’t appreciate the beauty of a girl if I were able to look without having to battle myself, but I would feel insecure going out with a girlfriend dressing in erm… unpuritanical ways, so I would think twice about starting a relationship, which means I would think twice before approaching. Doesn’t rule anything out because if the girl didn’t behave sexually at all, there were nothing licentious in her behaviour, no open-ended general-public tempting, I wouldn’t probably mind that much. However, if she had a problem with what she were wearing, I think I would sense it. Similarly, if she wore it to attract men, I think I would sense it as well. In both cases, I would be uncomfortable with it.

 

[Ravenchica09]

Modesty is a big issue for me since a lot of lady around my age (I am also 20) do not seem to think modesty is necessary. What women do not realize is how unfair showing cleavage and too much skin is to men. I have discussed this with a few of my friends who do not dress modesty and tried to help them realize that it is our duty to help our brothers in Christ to have pure minds by not thrusting pictures of our body parts in their faces.
This is the approach I usually take when talking to another women about their dress. I’ll be praying for you and your sister!